You're So Vain  

slyambitions 33F
9 posts
3/6/2006 8:48 am

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3/29/2006 12:05 am

You're So Vain

This post is going to seem a little harsh. Let me preface it by saying this: I like guys. I like the way they smell, and the way they look, and the way they taste. I like the way they sound when they're asleep. Guys are great -- I am a big fan of guys. However, it would seem that the biggest fan of guys are guys themselves.

Guys think they are great. It is a fact. Of course, this is not to say that all guys are arrogant. Sure, some guys have low self-esteem. But even these guys, when it comes to their sexual partners, hold themselves in high esteem. I'm going to stick with the heterosexual scenario, because it's the one I know best, and mainly because it's the only one that involves both men and women. Men, looking at women, hoping to talk to them, date them, make out with them, have babies with them, whatever, try to determine the best woman they can get. Look, it's natural selection, it's normal, I don't care. However, "the best they can get" in men's minds seems, from an outsider's perspective, more often than not, to be way better than they could ever get, even on their best day, wearing their favorite outfit. And there's nothing wrong with dreaming, you know. A man's reach should exceed his grasp else what's a heaven for, and all that nonsense. But men don't just dream -- they actually _believe_ that they _deserve_ these women. Deserve!

Of course, I'm coming up with this based on a small window of experience and some impartial observance. I realize that looks are slightly less important to women than they are to men. There are other compensating factors, and this propogates the whole women dating men twice their age and four times their net-worth. But I'm saying that all things _remaining equal_ -- looks, intelligence, wealth -- guys think they deserve more than they do.

How else do you explain homely TV husbands shacked up with hot TV wives? Or old men hitting on young girls in bars? Or overweight guys preferring athletic girls? I would say I have a normal to low self esteem -- I'm a young single girl, I sometimes read Cosmo, and every now and again see movies with Jessica Alba in them -- in other words, I don't feel great about my body or my accomplishments at every moment of the day. But I know I'm a reasonably attractive, somewhat intelligent, potential-for-semi-greatness kind of girl. I've got a decent sense of humor, I look good in a cocktail dress, and my breasts are still winning their fight with gravity. And still, I'll watch forty-year-old men (not the well-preserved kind) swagger up to me in bars. Unattractive guys with premature hair loss (I'd feel sorrier for you, but the women in my family go grey at 25) will occupy the stool next to mine and try to touch my legs. Forget the harassment and personal space issues -- I've got nice legs, and you've got no hair! Do the laws of the universe not apply in bars?

At least in bars, there is alcohol to blame. I doubt every guy on AdultFriendFinder is taking shots off of his keyboard (though sometimes, I wonder). How do the guys here keep up their fantasy world, without even personality or wealth to compensate?

This is a pointless post, seeing as probably only men read this blog, and I know I sound like a bitch. It's just that, sarcasm aside, I am in awe. I am curious to know what goes on in your heads that makes this a reality.

The sad thing is, it sort of _is_ a reality. I think women know, deep down, that biologically, we don't age as well as men. And while we're going through menopause, the men that were beneath us a few years ago have moved on and are now hitting on much younger semi-attractive, somewhat intelligent, potential-for-semi-greatness kinds of girls.

Fucking Mother Nature!

ready4playing2 59M
10 posts
3/14/2006 7:42 am

hey sly what can I say men are men, but we all are not the same. True we want beautiful women to make us feel good about ourselves. Women though want good looking men too. And young , hey I'd love to please and pamper a young girl like you . Who wouldn't . I'm not bald nor out of shape , or even desprate. I'm not out just for myself ,but would rather hang with someone once in a while to chat , laugh, and maybe please one another. Most people on this site are here either as a tease, are fake , or just afraid to take the next step. No one responds back etc. etc. Your not a bitch , your venting. In number I'm probaly to old for a girl like you . Chatting doesen't hurt , so if you would like to vent one day on me then let me know I'd be happy to listen to you other wise good luck in your search.

workinghans 55M
2 posts
3/16/2006 4:12 am

had that discussion with my wife I guess she was right

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