Marital Status: Prefer not to say = Married.  

slidein2meplz 63F
1363 posts
1/28/2006 3:41 pm

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Marital Status: Prefer not to say = Married.

Here's the question...regarding profile pictures and status selections. Just cuz I'm kinda curious...

Do you prefer to see the person by themselves?

Or...if they are engaged in a "sex" act...does that turn you off or does it not matter at all?

Do you prefer to see answers selected instead of "Prefer not to say"?

To: Smile__38
From: slidein2meplz
Subject: RE: Smile

Marital Status: Prefer not to say = Married. Right?

A, not really. Just very picky.

May I make one itty bitty suggestion regarding your profile....

Most women (not all will agree) not want to see another person in the pic. I know I prefer not to. It is more often than not a turn off. You might fare better with a simple picture of just yourself.

I would have been more likely to encourage communication if most of your answers were not "prefer not to say" and if the picture was just you....and if I were actually looking for someone, which at this point in my life I am not.

Thanks for your compliment though. Good luck with your search.

Sender: Smile__38
To: slidein2meplz
Date: Jan 28, 2006 3:58 PM MST

Love your profile...You sound like a chalange...
I dont realy think we are a match but I just had to say hi. Grate profile.


Looking forward to hearing from you!


~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
1/28/2006 7:47 pm

I would rather see them by themselves.........yep, oh def.

caressmewell 54F

1/28/2006 7:57 pm

I'd rather see a pic of the person by themself.
I like to see all the questions answered.

Cowboy_Deluxe 39M

1/28/2006 8:33 pm

I don't read much into profiles, as far as they go, they can put what ever they want on's theirs. I definetly say though no matter what you do be honest, nobody wants a flake.
Another reason why nobody has to lie to kick it.

oldman1776 79M
3164 posts
1/28/2006 10:59 pm

like the pic by them selfs.
and I like the questions answerd

slidein2meplz 63F
1994 posts
1/28/2006 11:14 pm

Looks so far to be 6 for sure out of 7 (including myself) prefer... a pic of only the 1 person and questions answered.

saintlianna ~~ yes
shyvixen1962 ~~ yes
caressmewell ~~ yes
candy69sosweet ~~ yes

Cowboy_Deluxe ~~ Doesn't matter ~~Neutral~~
oldman1776 ~~ yes

Thank you all for your opinions. Oh..and guess what...he sent me a pic...of just himself...and wasn't mad at me for my somewhat rejection. Actually...that's still sorta pending...since I replied back asking him to answer. So we shall see'eh?

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~

rm_Bct2Esi 52M/51F
1375 posts
1/29/2006 9:11 am

I would like to see a picture of them by themselves if they are single

If they are married then togather

NO sex act pics, I won't even open a profile or a letter if that is the first thing I see.

The answers, the only one I would like answered is if they are married or not. As you will see on mine I put single, yet state who I am The others, well that makes no difference to me, tmi is what I say on that part.

sorry it took me soooo long to get over here

hugs and smiles

DTduzDallas 51F

1/29/2006 10:28 am

Honestly, lol, I don't read profiles except those of bloggers I know, so this info doesn't really matter to me, although I do like the "additonal" questions if the answers are humorous.

docdirk 49M

1/29/2006 4:40 pm

I tend to think that a profile that is littered with "prefer not to say" is one worth overlooking. If you can't take the time to answer a few questions, to share just a bit of yourself, how are you going to treat the person with whom you connect. Are you in it only for yourself? Selfish? Ignorant of your partner's wants and needs?

Maybe I read too much into that. I know that many of the profiles that are filled out are replete with lies anyway.

Oh well, I guess it's all a guessing game anyway. As far as pictures go - solo works best for me. I tend to like shots that include faces. Close ups of particular anatomical regions do nothing for me. But if you can show face and body, you've got my attention.

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

rm_TexanTiT4u 43F
13 posts
1/29/2006 7:20 pm

just a note, I love how this guy said you weren't a "match" but in the same email said that he couldn't wait to hear from you.

tillerbabe 57F

1/29/2006 11:31 pm

I don't mess with "married" or "attached" men and if they're single with a pic with someone else...yeah, don't like it. (I really hate when they're "posed" with someone that they are or were at one time obviously attached to and the "smudge" the face of the other person) disrespectful! AND lazy; since if you have the "tools" to "smudge".. you have the tools to "Crop"..LOL!

As far as vagueness in the profile, too vague is a turn-off too much info seems arrogant...I like to make discoveries!

slidein2meplz 63F
1994 posts
1/30/2006 12:10 am

Looks so far to be 8 for sure out of 10 (including myself)
prefer... a pic of only the 1 person and questions answered.

Bct2Esi ~~ yes

DTduzDallas ~~ Neutral

docdirk ~~ yes

TexanTiT4u ~~ Yes, I saw that he mentioned that...and he replied back to me after I sent my first reply and sent me a picture of just himself...but he failed to answer whether he was married or not. So, I'm waiting to see what the answer to that is...before I will encourgage any sort of follow up conversations. But thanks for noticing that.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~

kyplowboy22 62M

1/30/2006 3:09 pm


keithcancook 61M
17930 posts
1/30/2006 5:51 pm

no preference really as i do not browse profiles much. If i had to choose, gimme by themselves every time.

slidein2meplz 63F
1994 posts
1/30/2006 9:48 pm

Looks so far to be 10 for sure out of 13 (including myself)
prefer... a pic of only the 1 person and questions answered.

singing4you ~~ So, I take that as a yes. I agree they should all be filled out because those issues to some people are just as if not more important.

kyplowboy22 ~~ Not sure if this is ok..yes...or LOL.

keithcancook ~~ yes on the picture deal.

Thanks everyone...

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~

SexyRycheBabe 46F
820 posts
1/31/2006 7:58 am

I have to say the ones that really get me are the pics of couples in their wedding gear. Call me old fashioned, a prude, ridiculous or whatever else you can think of, I think that is SO TACKY!!!!! Even if its a couple profile, I think it just cheapens the symbolism of a marriage ceremony to be on a sex site with a pic from your special day. To be honest, I would rather see a dick pic than that.

As far as "prefer not to say", to me, I think that means the answer is really yes or whatever answer is not the preferred one. Its like when you were a kid and you asked your parents for something and they answered with "maybe" but you know damn well the answer was really a big fat "NO!"

Here's how I read a profile:
Do you have children? prefer not to say = YES
Do they live with you? {I}prefer not to say[/I} = YES
Are you willing to relocate? prefer not to say = NO

For the record, I am intensely uncomfortable with people not acknowledging their children -- in whatever format there is. To me, if you have children and you answer "no" or "prefer not to say" then you're denying that child. It's not like this site is asking for names, social security numbers or pictures so why can't you answer that question honestly?

Sorry to go on and on. Thanks for the opportunity, though.

FeistySyn 53F

1/31/2006 2:43 pm

I prefer it be "him" only, not being bi, I generally will not even read the profile or blog of a guy who had pics of him with (ok, bluntly - fucking) another woman on his profile or his blog is littered with "hot chick pics" ... blech, what a turnoff.... and in my book, Prefer Not to Say is the same as saying Guilty As Hell.

Apparently the depth of depravity here is bottomless... don't you feel right at home?

slidein2meplz 63F
1994 posts
2/2/2006 9:20 am

Feisty ~~ I agree, it is a turn off to see others in the pic...and also those unanswered choices..especially the marital status to me says they most likely are married or attached.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~

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