Talk dirty to me  

sincitybrunette 56F
3159 posts
10/19/2005 9:23 pm

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Talk dirty to me

Here is the debate:

Is phone sex or cyber sex really sex? I mean if there is not physical touching involved (except by yourself) do you consider it sex.

If I talk dirty to you on the phone or on the comp screen and you get off or visa versa, did we just have sex?

And here is another thought.....is it cheating on your significant other if you participate in either phone or cyber sex?

Just wondering


AmberSolaire 43M

10/19/2005 10:33 pm

Its cheating if you dont tell them about it.But I wouldnt say its sex.But then I am from the Bill Clinton school of thought.

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scottdammit11 54M

10/19/2005 11:11 pm

Cyber-sex is the 'lite' beer of erotic activity- Looks great, less filling!


jonnyblong 56M

10/19/2005 11:13 pm

i'll take the fifth on that ?


TheQuietGuy2005 56M
2386 posts
10/20/2005 5:06 am

I'm not sure whether I'd call it sex though the fact that the aim is to enjoy sexual pleasure with someone else (even if they're physically miles away) makes a persuasive argument.

However, there's a reasonable test that applies for most of us when you're trying to figure out if it's cheating: would you want your partner to find out?


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 5:49 am

Amber - how many men arent from the Bill Clinton school? I would much rather have them tell me that they are talking dirty then find out by accident...


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 5:50 am

scott - but I would agree with biggirlz, better than handling it yourself


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 5:51 am

the fifth - typical male answer....lol


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 5:52 am

biggirlz - on this we will agree. You do have to have some sort of intimacy with the person you are talking to if you really want to enjoy the moment. Seems men find it not cheating, women have a question about it....


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 5:55 am

Quiet - I have the impression that sex is sex. If you get that final satisfaction, whether you are here or there, you have had sex.
Is it cheating if your partner knows and doesnt care?


jonnyblong 56M

10/20/2005 8:16 am

EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO HIS/HER OPINION ON ALL THE BLOGS,SUBJECTS AND ANYTHING ELSE LIFE BRINGS INTO THEIR LIVIES. YOU ASKED ME TO ANSWER AND NOT TAKE THE FIFTH ON THIS ISSUE SO HERE'S MY BELIEF, AND THOUGHTS CONTAINING TO THIS MATTER. SEE IF YOU AGREE.
IF I TOUCH MYSELF LATE AT NIGHT WATCHING ONLY A PORN MOVIE NOBODY KNOWS I DO THIS, IT MASTERBATION, NOT SEX, NOT CHEATING ON ANYONE ELSE. TO TALK ON THE PHONE OR COMPUTER IS JUST LIKING I'M USING MY BRAIN FOR SEX NOT MY SEX ORGAN. THE OUTCOME OF THE STIMULATION THAT MY BRAIN RECEIVES IS THE TURN ON ORGAN IN QUESTION, THE OUTCOME MY BRAIN SHOWS ITS SATISFACTION IS A GREAT BIG ERECTION AND THEN A MASSIVE ERUPTION OF MY SPERM ONTO MY HAND OR A TOWEL, STILL A FORM OF MASTERBATION. SO ENJOY YOUR PLEASURE WHEN YOU READ MY FANTASY WORDS ON THESE PAGES , BECAUSE YOU KNOW THE REAL ME, MY MIND,BODY, AND SOUL. IS THE ANSWER THAT YOU WANTED TO HEAR. SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS WITH ME WHEN YOU CUM INTO MY SHOWER TONIGHT AND GIVE ME YOUR REACTION.


ByteChaser2 54M

10/20/2005 11:00 am

Hmm... So, I think we really need to decide if *fantasy* is considered sex, since that really what cyber and phone sex are about right? So is say, a wet dream (a subconsious fantasy) sex? Is a consious fantasy any different than a dream fantasy? Is masturbation sex? and if any of these can be answered with a yes, is it cheating?

My personal opinion... Yes, using a phone or IM to create an erotic fantasy IS sex. Yes, masturbating (in whatever form or company) is sex. Yes, a wet dream is sex...

The big question though is the morality of it. That's a personal choice issue in my opinion. If you think it's cheating, then (for you) it is. Otherwise...

Get down with yer bad self!


rm_rick89052 59M

10/20/2005 11:27 am

Phone or cyber-sex can never beat the feeling of the kisses, caresses and softness of a woman. Sexual talk during intimacy I think is a great turn-on however over the phone or a computer is to artificial. In addition, I do consider it cheating on your significant other. The word significant to me means that you are the primary person in my life and you are a lot less than significant if I am engaging in sexual talk with someone else either on the phone or computer. Probably, old fashioned. Anyway, have to go and write a very dirty sexual email to SinCityBrunette.


TheQuietGuy2005 56M
2386 posts
10/20/2005 11:28 am

Sin ... "Is it cheating if your partner knows and doesnt care?"

I should come clean: for me phone sex and cyber are sex ... I'm just not certain my feelings on this are necessarily universal. As a result it is, in my book, infidelity.

If your partner knows and doesn't care it's still infidelity - but it doesn't matter in the same way, does it?

I'm single so I'm not sure I'm the best person to answer this anyway!


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 1:13 pm

sexy jonny - thank you so much for fessing up. You know me, I like to know where your mind is....


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 1:13 pm

lvhotmale - so true...whenever you like


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 1:15 pm

byte - thank you so much for your opinion....I believe its a personal choice to. How you look at it means more than how someone else does...


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 1:16 pm

rick - mmmmm a dirty email...I can't wait.....


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 1:17 pm

quiet - you are exactly who I would like to have an opinion from. Someone single and searching.....


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 2:23 pm

harshaw - I knew you would get me on this one. Do we need to have this discussion again...you know that I think talking dirty on the phone or the computer is considered sex. How did I phrase it the last time we talked...if you get off, its sex.....


gemini0157 60M
6842 posts
10/20/2005 3:09 pm

I guess I would have to say I wouldn't want my partner to be having phone or cyber sex with another man. I am sure it would cause problems and raise an issue of trust and be a big hinderance to my further intimacy with her. I am funny that way!


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 4:16 pm

gemini - you sound like most of the other guys I have talked to.


toothysmile 52M
16517 posts
10/20/2005 4:41 pm

1. Yes [most definitely]... for me anyway...
2. No, though I tend to agree with amber.

[wink]


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/20/2005 9:32 pm

toothy - dont men usually stick together?????


scottdammit11 54M

10/20/2005 10:16 pm

Actually, I cyber daily. I just thought that "less filling" was kinda funny.
I amuse and abuse myself...


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/21/2005 5:30 am

scott - you didnt answer the question...yay or nay on it being sex?


grisleyadams 56M

10/21/2005 10:02 am

HOW DIRTY WILL YOU ALLOW ME TO GET AND HOW FAR IS TO FAR BEFORE YOU BEG ME TO STOP. WHEN WILL I STOP TOYING WITH YOU, AND SEX OVER FORTY ONLY GETS BETTER BECAUSE OF THE YEARS THAT WENT INTO MAKING US BETTER LOVERS SO IS JUST EASILY FOR ME TO SHOUT BE QUIET AND GIVE ME SOME OUT IN THE WOODS MONKEY SEX AND I'LL EVEN GET TO TALKING DIRTY TO YOU UNTIL THE NEXT FULL MOON.


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/21/2005 11:28 am

grisley - to each his own...how far will depend on the surroundings...


grisleyadams 56M

10/22/2005 2:35 am

which is getting very limited to just these blogs.


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/22/2005 1:50 pm

grisley - and I am truly sorry about that....


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
53F

10/25/2005 11:39 pm

sex is penetration...

that's my story and I'm sticking to it lol

TTFN


grizzlybearadams 56M

10/26/2005 8:35 am

YOU ALREADY KNOW WHERE MY MIND IS,THAT IS HAVING SEX WITH YOU IN ANY FORM UNTIL WE GET TO THE REAL THING.


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/26/2005 2:50 pm

grizzly - yes I do know where your mind is.....


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
10/27/2005 1:34 pm

redlips - the best way to be...state it and stick with it....lol


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