Gone  

sincitybrunette 56F
3159 posts
1/13/2006 6:57 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Gone


My daughter has been home from college for a month now, and goes back tomorrow. I missed her terribly right after she went to school, and talked to her almost every day. She was home for Thanksgiving, but I didnt get to spend much time with her. Now we have spent a month together and caught up on all the happenings in her life.
I already feel a little lost with her leaving again, and not having my best friend to talk to. She seems to understand everything that has been going on in my life and has such a fresh outlook on life. Her input has helped me in so many ways the last month.
I know that I needed to let her out in this world to grow and become her own person. I just am in awe of her and who she has become.

fun4allin2006 54M
1583 posts
1/13/2006 8:04 pm

It just goes to show you that you raised her correctly. Way to go Mom, Job well done!


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/13/2006 8:53 pm

fun4all - thank you very much


fantasylover_05 63M

1/14/2006 7:02 am

HERE HERE!! AGREED.. WELL DONE MOM!!

Having had two sons and experienced the same seperation twice... and watching them "come into their own".... it is indeed a humbling and proud moment!

What I find the most interesting and encouraging in your comment.. is that you consider her your best friend and seem to talk on an open and honest ADULT level with her... and further more you have mutual RESPECT!! I have always tried my very best to talk with my boys on an even level and not down to them.. even from the time they were young... and I think that makes all the difference in the world... they learn to respect themselves and others!! I wish I had that kind of upbringing.....

Sadly... I must admit I worked wayyyyy to damn hard all the time they were growing up and I missed sooo much... that is probably the singular thing in my life I am regretful about... but I will also say I have a better relationship with both of them today than ever before!!

It is funny how our minds work... all those years I honestly believed I was doing my best to "provide for my family".. and I suppose there is truth in that as they had many many advantages others do not such as college without the typical "money worries" (though it was EXPENSIVE AND PAINFUL for me!! LOL LO.... in looking back I truly wonder if I did indeed give them "advantages" or would they have been better with fewer "comforts" and more "comforting"......

They are both pretty much on their own now... oldest graduated college and starting a career.. and youngest in college in HAWAII (life is indeed a bitch some times LO...........


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/14/2006 9:27 am

fantasy - third time I have sent this, lets see if it works this time. I think that we do what we think is best for our kids when they are growing up, but it also is what is best for us. To have the relationship with my kids that I do now, continues to amaze me.
You get kudos for the job you did with yours. You gave them opportunities that a lot of others will never have and they are still there with you.

Good job to you too


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/14/2006 10:52 am

lvhotmale - I am, very proud of her


vegasknight5 48M

1/14/2006 7:16 pm

I can only hope to build such a relationship with mine so that when we get older they will see me as a friend.


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/14/2006 8:35 pm

vegas - I think you already have a good relationship with your kids, just keep building on it.


RockPebble 70M
2493 posts
1/15/2006 3:10 pm

Sounds like you're doing it right, keep up the good work. Another quote (only a partial) "If you love something set it free..." I forget the rest but this way at least you'll be friends and be able to see how it turns out.


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/15/2006 4:30 pm

Rock - I did let her free, to be just who she is turning out to be..


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