Gender Bender  

sincitybrunette 56F
3159 posts
1/28/2006 12:47 pm

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Gender Bender

OK....I have found out recently that maybe men and women can't just be friends. I was always a firm believer that this relationship was a possibility.

I have a man in my life now that seems to know my thoughts and feelings even before I tell him. He makes me feel alive and beautiful and sexy and like a woman.

However, with this relationship beginning, I needed to let a very special man in my life know that I was venturing elsewhere. He has been there for me through some pretty rough times and for that I truly need to say 'thank you'. I understand that this bit of news hurt him and for that I am sorry. I wanted to remain friends, but his response tells me that this is not going to be possible. At least not now. I understand that and it makes me sad. I can only hope that in the future, I am able to regain that friendship that meant so much to me.

For now though, I will explore the new relationship and see if it does take me to places that I have only imagined.....


fun4allin2006 54M
1583 posts
1/28/2006 4:14 pm

Honestly Very best of luck in the new relationship. Sometimes friends need to let the ones they love go so they can flourish and grow. Have no fear I am sure your friend will always be there to help when you need a hand-friends are like that.

FUN


fantasylover_05 63M

1/28/2006 4:37 pm

Sin

I am both happy and sad for you!!

It is truly unfortunate you may have lost a very good friend... though it would seem he had expectations or at least desires for more.......

I do hope this does not destroy your belief that a man and a woman have have a purely platonic relationship! I do believe it is possible and have women that are simply friends.. nothing more... never any sexual undertones or expectations ro anything...

I also do hope more than anything that this new man in your life treats you well and takes you places you have only dreamed of!

I am a bit envious and perhaps even jealous... I was hoping I would be able to do that!


rm_magnet4u22 50F
18406 posts
1/28/2006 5:13 pm

I can so understand. It is so hard to remain friends when you see the one you love with or wanting someone else. Give him time....he is hurting.....maybe you can regain the friendship. I hope everything works out for all of you.



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micahbiguns 52M

1/29/2006 8:04 am

Give him some time to reflect on this. He was probably expecting more to come of this friendship, being men most of us do! Depending on the quality of this man you may still be able to be just friends. I always hated hearing that term. One other Question beggs to be asked does your new man know about your friend and that you are just friends?
Good luck with your new relationship and hopefully for your old one also.


vegasknight5 47M

1/29/2006 9:52 am

Friends is good. There is a chance he may have found himself in the same situation as you are in. Maybe you should just call and say hi.


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/29/2006 1:16 pm

fun4all - I knew I could count on you


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/29/2006 1:17 pm

fantasy - thank you...the new man in my life has gotten off to a very good start in the right direction.
I only hope that the friend can forgive the hurt and know that I would love to still have him in my life


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/29/2006 1:18 pm

magnet - do you really think that time will heal this one?


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/29/2006 1:20 pm

micah - we were at one time more than just friends so i do truly understand his feelings. The new man in my life knows about the relationship I had with this other man and has accepted it. He also understands that this person is very special to me and I would love to keep him in my life.


rm_bigchoklatdk 46M

1/29/2006 3:54 pm

Hmmmm, me & my ex had that same conversation about 2 1/2 years ago..........I haven't spoken to her since. Personally, I can't be friends with someone I use to be in love with.....just so I can watch her be with someone else.... Aah, aah. Holla.


rm_magnet4u22 50F
18406 posts
1/29/2006 5:36 pm

Only time will tell.....hopefully, it will.



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sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/30/2006 5:15 pm

vegas - I have spoken with my friend a couple of times and it looks like he may come around to just being friends after all. Thanks for the suggestion.


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/30/2006 5:16 pm

bigcho - I think we might be talking two different scenarios here... but thanks for the input


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/30/2006 5:16 pm

magnet - thanks for letting me bounce it off ya


sincitybrunette 56F
1668 posts
1/30/2006 5:17 pm

Loving - thanks for the guys side of it...lol...looks like he might be coming around after all...and I am very glad that he is


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