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2 girls,1 guy  

shysexygal 43F
325 posts
3/11/2006 4:40 am

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2 girls,1 guy

The thing is I don't have a problem with the guy I am seeing casually also seeing someone else. It's clear that he's not my boyfriend, we are just friends who hook up when we see each other. And that's ok...not my ideal situation but it's ok. Everyone is happy,at least sexually. But the thing is I think once you have made the decision to see two girls they should get equal time. I mean at least look like you're trying to get with both of us.I have to hear the stories of exploits with the other girl..cause I like to hear basically (Voyeurism can be auditory too as well as visual,I believe) So I hear the stories,am very aroused by them,mind you but then I am left to wonder 'How come she sees you so often that all these wild tales are even possible?'
I have been left high and dry (literally) for over 6 weeks as plans get made and cancelled.Seems to me that he has moved on right? But still there is contact between us where he makes it seem like he is still into hooking up. But now I kinda just think of him as the other chick's man. It is all quite confusing. I am of course a little jealous,hard as that is to admit. But mainly,it's just with lack of attention from him he moves more and more on to the back burner of my mind so to speak. I was wildly attracted to him and maybe still am cause he's really hot but I thought when we got into this I'd have more interaction with him. I thought I'd get fucked all the time and I'm just not. And I'd like to.Question is why do guys string girls along? Is that what he's doing though? Or am I being too senstive?

ArgosPlumyKooky 46F
3902 posts
3/11/2006 6:52 am

 you are not being too sensitive. you're sexy and deserving of more.


shysexygal 43F

3/11/2006 9:04 am

 Thanks snatch...glad someone thinks so


dmad316 38M
7 posts
3/11/2006 2:15 pm

 well i will start by saying what you are feeling is perfectly normal.sometimes we get involved with people and tell ourselves that the relationship is one thing.but during the course you may deveolp deeper feelings.notice i did not say fall in love.but you see there are people out there who care about the feelings of others,and i am sorry to tell you by what you just said.this might be the case with you.you should find a partner who would treat you the way you would like them to treat you and accept no less.so don't stress it .your a smart and beautiful woman,if he does not see that, well his lost.


shysexygal 43F

3/11/2006 2:20 pm

 Thanks so much dmad316 ...you hit the nail right on the head there.


phatkat_tt 38F
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3/12/2006 9:11 am

 maybe u need to let him know how u feel, cause i am in a similar situation with u and i let the guy know how i was feeling and he explained to me that he felt the same way and that i deserved to be treated better that what he was offering right now and he was trying to keep his distance in order to starve off those feelings. so talk to him! let him know


shysexygal 43F

3/12/2006 9:36 am

 I will phatkat..thanks for the advice...


duke1268 44M
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3/12/2006 8:47 pm

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rm_MandingoFan 40M
41 posts
3/16/2006 1:44 am

 I think its important for you to let him know exactly how you feel. Sometimes guys believe that just because they've been open and honest and told you about the "other woman" they can pretty much get away with anything. Unless he knows exactly how you feel or what your expectations are, he's unlikely to change or make a decisions.
Good luck!


rm_kamus1127 42M
11 posts
3/17/2006 7:39 pm

 some guys are just plain greedy... i'm not defying or debating what most of these folks have said, but if you are at the stage where you feel exclusivity is right... firstly, you need to share this with your partner... and secondly, based on his response... and how well he sticks to it, decide whether he is really right for you.
Unfortunaltely... though i am in a relationship and have been faithful and exclusive thus far, i have been through much that makes me want to seek extra relationship, not cause i am greedy, but out of curiosity and to decide whether it is for me or not. My g/f even wanted me to do this... but i still cant tell her i'm out here looking... i'm sure it will hurt... but at the end of it... i love her... and would do anything for her... and if this guy is right for you... and feels for you as you seem to feel for him... he will at least be honest with you, to allow you to not question yourself as you seem to be doing right now.
hey... i would like to chat with you though... you seem pretty cool... and intense (from your blogs)... just to chat (cause you sound taken) kamus_33 excite com


shysexygal 43F

3/19/2006 3:41 pm

 Thanks for all responses guys...I thought maybe it was just me ...but happy to see other people see where I am coming from..


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