Movies.....Chick Flicks  

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6/2/2006 12:58 am

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6/2/2006 1:02 am

Movies.....Chick Flicks


I just got finished watching "The Mirror Has Two Faces" with Barbara Streisand. It is a favorite of mine.

For those of you who have never seen it, it is about a woman in her forties who falls for a man that wants a marriage with no sex but friendship instead. She of course falls in love with him and he rejects her. She gets upset and leaves him, he is distraught and wants to get her back, in the end it is music and kissing. Happily ever after, right?

Well, in most cases real life does not turn out this way. We find "love" and it feels fucking great. But it usually doesn't last for whatever reason is given. Why doesn't last? Is it because that in today's world we have lost the ability to love. Has society, Hollywood, or just our evolution caused the human race to lose the ability to love? Procreation has no need for love. The human race can continue without humans loving each other.

Sex is not love, yet sex is better with love. I have loved, really and truly loved two men in my life. My ex-husband and my current boyfriend. It is the "I would do anything for you, die for you, go to jail for you, spend the rest of my life with you," kind of love. Yet that love did not last for my ex-husband. It faded when he went to war and came back a changed man. It wasn't his fault completely. He did destroy my self-esteem by making hurtful comments about the way I looked and acted, from which I am still recovering. Yet, he claims, he did it out of love. His love was destructive. So we decided to end our love and our marriage.

My current boyfriend left me after I had give up my whole life; job, family, friends, to be with him. Yet, out of love for him, I took him back. He lives 150 miles away from me. We talk once a week because he doesn't have a phone. He works at a bar and I call him on Friday nights when the bar closes. Even though I love him and want to be with him, how is that in anyway a relationship. Long distance relationships can and do work, but only if you are in constant contact with each other, and we are not. I want him, but I don't know if I can keep him.

You see, movies about love and romance have ruined us for love. We want "Happily Ever After," but what we have to realize is that the "Ever After," isn't always happy. It's hard and rocky with lots of fighting, compromise, and failure mixed in with some good times. Men and women who have quit wanting sex yet want their spouse to be ok with that. The deprived spouse puts on a happy face and accepts that and then goes behind their spouses and finds what they need with someone else. Maybe we all just need communication, faith in love, and a good therapist.

Enough!!!! My ramblings this evening have gone on too long.

I am tired and wish to find my bed. Good night all, have a pleasent tommorrow.

Love you later,


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