How do you know a man is sincere?  

shniffles 35F
35 posts
4/22/2006 10:13 pm

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How do you know a man is sincere?

So I fell for a guy and he fell for me. We were in LOVE. He got in trouble with the law and had to be sent back to where he came from. As it was all going down, he asked me to move with him to stay with him. I did. I gave up my job, my friends, and my family to be with him.

It was all going good for many months, when all of a sudden he gets up and leaves me in the middle of the night while I slept. Leaving me a note in my car explaining that there was someone else, he makes sure to drive the fact that I drive him fucking crazy home.

Well, we don't speak or see each other for a month. When I decided to pack it in and go back home to my family, I call to tell him that I am leaving. He comes to see me off. He then precedes to tell me he still loves me but it won't work between us because we are too different.

Well, I'm back in my home town for a week and he calls me. He tells me that there never was another girl, which I had checked out and it is the truth, he just said that so it would be easier for me to get over him. He just got scared of commitment and how much he loved me. So he left me because he was scared.

Now he tells me he still loves me and can't live without me. He must have me in his life and I must be his. He loves me more than air, more than anything.

All this time, my love has not faded for him. I would lay down my life for him. So what I am asking, should I trust him again? Should I run into his arms trusting he won't leave me? Is he going to do the same thing? Is it stupid as a woman and human being to say, "It's ok, I forgive you and understand. I love you too and want to try again."? I don't know. My heart says, "Yes, take him back you love him." My head says, "No, you idiot. He'll just fuck you over again."

So what do I listen too, my heart or my head?

I don't know.

Love you later,

rm_LoyalCumpany 47M
3204 posts
4/23/2006 12:23 am

Everyone knows how it feels to be torn up over someone, but I think if you reread your post as if someone else had written it, you might get your answer.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

tycosales 62M

4/23/2006 10:08 am

I think it's time for a little game of tag. You did all the giving and giving up the first go around, if you want to try this man again, it's his turn to give up and give. Stay put where you are now, you'll need your family & friends for support.

downspiralgurl 42F

4/24/2006 1:25 pm

ditch him

shniffles 35F

4/28/2006 4:35 pm


He and I have been talking. We have decided to take it slow and do everything right.

All the cards are in my hands, or so he says. I have all the power in the relationship right now. I am not going to run off back into his arms. I need to stay where I am at and work out some issues I am dealing with. He needs to stay where he is at and work out some of the issues he is dealing with. When everything is straight, we have decided to give it another try.

Everyone in this life deserves a second chance. Our relationship scared both of us. I just chose to stick with it and be brave and he decided to be a coward. He knows he did a stupid thing and has bucked up and decided to be a man about his feelings.

He has even offered to help me out finacially while I am back in my home town. I don't want to be dependent on any man, so I turned that down, but he didn't have to offer.

He loves me and I love him. So I have decided to give love a second chance.

Love y'all laters,

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