sexymom20069 49F
631 posts
5/30/2006 10:49 pm

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Leave the one your with weather your married , attached or just dating IF you find someone who pleases you , desires you , wants to be with you to take care of you when your sick - The little things you miss out of your relationship now ? THE WILD PASSION & DESIRE
Answer if you care too - But I just wonder as I sit here fighting sleep - worried about my oldest daughter and the baby she is carrying - she is almost 11 weeks pregnant and is having some small problems.

I had a guy who said he couldnt wait to meet me but took him a week to finally talk to me on IM - he has a g/f but wants to see me too - I cant nor will I be the other woman again. Makes me wonder why is he still with her IF he is on this site looking for a fuck buddy or two ?

I want someone who I can spend time with in and out of the bedroom , spend a few nights with. I want and need PASSION along with COMPANIONSHIP.

Ok , going to sleep now -

Satyr48 69M
1811 posts
5/30/2006 11:22 pm

I would NEVER leave my wife for anyone... She's the best person, friend, lover, companion I could hope for
And we allow each other the freedom to explore and satisfy our additional needs elsewhere when necessary.
Even without this arrangement, and if things weren't 100% (or even 75, I would work on what we already had built rather than discarding it without a fight... I know - we've been there, done that... & survived...
Good luck in your situation.

Pleasing women in unbelievable ways for 45 years...
You could be next...

imLadyBambi 59M/51F

5/31/2006 1:44 am


Just like you, I want passion, companionship, and total commitment. Even though we are a couple and on AdultFriendFinder, we do not share partners.

Lady Bambi

Dowd3 44M

5/31/2006 11:08 am

What's with the tong?

Could I leave her? Well... yes. Would I leave her? Well... yes. The trouble I have is rebound. Cut loose from a relationship I tend to do no end of harm to myself. I mope and dope (I should clarify this last to mean act stupid not get high.) I tend to run down to the lowest place of my soul and stay there. Some would compare it to buyers remorse, and I'm not sure that's far from true. Would I leave her for the arms of another? Well... that's never something I've tried. My ex managed to put notches on the bedpost within hours of our separation (she hadn't even moved out yet.) But I'm not the one who can get laid on demand. Hell, I'm married and I can't get laid on demand. Is that pathetic?

It's a simple question, but the answer draws on a large portion of who I am. After all what is worse cheating or leaving? Am I less a man for giving up on vows I still understand and revere? Will I ever trust myself to make those simple vows again? Can I be trusted after ditching the bitch? The reflections these questions make on anyone's character are not flattering either way. If I stay with her I'm a fool, but if I leave her I'm a liar. I'm sure most men my age don't consider this as much of a dilemma as I do, but comparing myself to the current standard is self-defeating and wrong. Furthermore comparing myself to the standards my parents upheld lead down empty and pointless roads. I come from a family of an even dozen divorces between my parents, aunts and uncles (and that's saying a lot for just six people.) Is there happiness or even satisfaction after the dust settles? In my experience no, but anything was better than the hapless unions my elders threw themselves into.

I guess I'm afraid of losing what's still beautiful and sacred in my life. Leaving hardens us in the process, and most of us lose our more forgiving self along the way. But the conundrum is that I'm losing it anyway an inch at a time. The question boils down to how much am I willing to give in order to continue. I'm sure if she saw what I'm writing here she'd go to hitting me again and that would be it, but presenting my thoughts here would be unfair to her. I have no doubt they would enrage her, but that's why I write it down here instead of informing her. If she intends to keep me, I have to do my best to be a good man for her (even now it sounds hypocritical to my own ears but tradition binds me to it.)

Hope your daughter's alright.

Take care.

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