how well do u reallly know someone?  

sexsweet2005 42F
49 posts
9/20/2005 11:28 am

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how well do u reallly know someone?

The past couple of weeks I've learned about violent crimes involving people that I know. In both instances, almost everyone's reaction was the same. "I can't believe he/she did that." "They're just not the type that would do something like that." "There has to be more to it."

So I ask, "How well did we really know these people?" Obviously not well enough. It seems to me some people are openly insane while others are "closet psychopaths." Are we at the point to where we need to do a thorough background check on people before we become involved with them in any way? Or is it that some of us choose to ignore the red flags these people are sending?

I admit we all have skeletons in our closet. Take me for instance. On one hand I'm a respectful, honest, sometimes shy person who has an outstanding reputation in my community, while on the other(the life I live via AdultFriendFinder) I'm a total slut, lol. Numerous people on this site have stated that people who know them in their day to day life would not believe they have a profile on an adult sex and swinger's site.

Just a quick word of advice: BE CAREFEUL ON HERE!
#1 You don't want to become involved with some psychopath.
#2 I bet there are several ppl on here that you may already know!

RailBaron2 55M

9/20/2005 2:22 pm

I'd love to find someone on here I allready know.

SibylBatchAxile 44M
384 posts
9/20/2005 3:37 pm

Based on my experience as a human, working as a correctional officer, and being a writer....No you can never really know anybody.



And it's not because we don't want to bare our souls to other people (although most of us really don't, not matter how much we may say otherwise...) It's because very few people on this planet really know THEMSELVES. Faced with extreme circumstances, almost all people are capable of anything. Just look at what war can do to people...

Most people lie to themselves so often (however small those lies may be), for so many reasons, and from such a young age, that it takes years and a tremendous effort to really take a good, honest look at yourself, and see yourself for who you really are.

Nothing is scarier to almost all humans, than to discover you are not who you thought you were. To have all of your beliefs about yourself and the world come crashing down around you. Denial, and most specifically self-denial, is one of the most powerful forces at work in the human psyche. We would rather kill another human, than to accept the possibility that we may be WRONG. If you doubt me, just look at two of the most volitile subjects out there - politics and religion. How many people have died because of those two concepts.

We identify so much with our beliefs, that we feel we have no identity without them. And that scares the hell out of us.

Better to live in a fantasy world, than face the unknown; than face that fear.

And humans are volitile creatures. The human mind, a vast mystery...

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you can never trust anybody. Please, I am not trying to seem pessimistic or cynical. But when you look at all of the evidence, you have to ask yourself - can I truly trust anyone. As much as I dislike the answer, I feel that you never really can. Not TRULY.

And that's what scares me...

But in my philosophical musings, I've come to the conclusion that this is the way life is supposed to be. And explaining that statement would take more time and space than what I have available here..

Nosce te ipsum

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