Sex, Respect and Lies We Tell Ourselves  

sexpirate19125 53F
162 posts
1/23/2006 7:43 pm

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Sex, Respect and Lies We Tell Ourselves

Someone posted this as a response to one of my blog entries about bad behavior:

"Well Honey. I sympathise with you.. But this is a SEX site. You must be out of your mind if you think you are going to meet ANYONE on here to have a long lasting realtionship with..."

... now, while my first impulse is to agree (hence my perpetual ranting in this blog) at the same time... I had to consider what he was referring to and here is what bothers me.

This statement means that (in a man's mind), common courtesies are reserved for women you are dating and not women on AdultFriendFinder because THOSE women are.. well... you know... well, they don't warrant respectful behavior or courteous efforts.

Wow. Is this the part where every woman on the planet is reminded why men are pigs?

Is my expecting good behavior such a strange idea that asking to be treated like I warrant common courtesy is tantamount to (a) being taken seriously (b) being treated like I have feelings and finally (c) must obviously mean I am looking for MORE than a human dildo (and that is not what men on AdultFriendFinder are good for)?

(Truth be told men aren't really useful for dildo service either but if all women were honest about that, they would be absolutely NO living with men at all then.)

Yah, maybe I am out of my mind thinking that there might be ONE sexually open minded man who doesn't make a distinction between women who deserve any modicum of respect and those OTHER women who should be treated like cheap mattresses in a no-tell-motel. I keep thinking we are in the 21st century and continue forgetting that men's fragile egos can't handle much more than a woman's fragile vanity can (and that isn't much in reality).

While I may be spending all my blog time wondering what the hell I am doing here...say what you will about me.... I want to ask you... in your heart of hearts... what are YOU doing here and what do you expect to find? And if your answer is less than noble or ideal, is that really enough reason to keep coming back?

RockPebble 70M
2493 posts
1/24/2006 8:34 am

I think a lot of the men on here do think that way but not all of us. I'm looking for a FWB and I have considered that that does start with friend. It would be pretty hard to be/have a friend without respect. That's one reason I spend more time blogging and trying to get to know people and very little time using the search page. You sound like a sexy lady with standards, I wouldn't want less but I guess some/most do. WTF, they're not for you anyway. I guess that's why a lot of my comments refer to how many frogs there are and how few princes.

rm_ohsolustful 59M
859 posts
1/24/2006 8:56 am

Everyone deserves to be treated with common decency and respect, maybe i'm a lil old-fashioned but people should be treated the way you yourself wish to be treated. just because you are hooking up with someone for some sexual adventure does not mean you should treat her any differently than you would some woman that you were taking out on a date, You still should be opening doors, helping her with her coat, answering phone calls and messages. Treating her right..I know I'm on here for sex and that is not the noblest of reasons considering my personal situation, but I like to think that even if a woman is willing to have a lil romp with me on that basis, that she is still a lady and deserving of respect...maybe I am just a product of my upbringing and stuck in the past, but certain things once breed into you dont go away...I'm stuck with em...I want a woman to have an affair/tryst, with that won't interfere with my home life, someone good and decent,attractive in her own way, someone who can converse about many subjects, snuggle when the time is right, and satisfy my sexual urges all at the same time, and someone for whom I can give the same things too, It might be unrealistic, but its what I want, and doesnt seem like too much to ask for........

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