Why is it so hard?  

sccrma32 45F
8 posts
1/24/2006 11:38 am

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Why is it so hard?

Online I find it so much easier to be daring and express myself in ways I'm not sure I could in person. I'm so much more sexual on here than in person. Some thing is really holding me back and I want to change that. Like most people on here I am married but really want to experience sex in ways I've only dreamed of and ways I've never thought of. Why is it so much easier on here? Isn't sex suppose to be a natural part of life? Have I just lead that sheltered of a life? I'd love to hear your thoughts.

rm_mrlonely544 68M

1/24/2006 12:36 pm

It is easy on here because you can tell all and since no one really knows who you are, they cannot judge you and they except you for what you say you are and what you want. You have not lead a sheltered life, just a married life, because when your married they say you should not dream or wish for anything you cannot get from your mate. I disagree with that, I believe that even married people can find friendship with the the opposet sex and if something more comes out of the friendship then that is the plus.

rm_ohsolustful 59M
859 posts
1/24/2006 1:06 pm

I thik part of it is the pressures of society upon us, we are taught to have one partner, be faithful, not fool around, when i think naturally we have the urge to merge with many different people and in a natural perfect world that is what we would do...but alas we are here with all the peer pressure, rules, regulations and consequences of our actions...as far as being more open on here, its like a fantasy world where you dont have to worry about getting caught....I am sure if you knew you wouldnt get caught or thought of badly you would have already fulfilled those fantasies of yours

rm_Pro_Boxa 60M

1/24/2006 1:46 pm

We're all sexual beings - sometimes the feelings are overwhelming and we think with our loins before anything else.
So you're just being you, expressing yourself here sexually with no constraints beyond your own limits (and the moderator's)
Have fun!

stillgoodbadboy 59M

1/24/2006 1:46 pm

Easy to hide behind annonimity and let go.... when you find someone who truly allows you the comfort to be expressive and the security to be daring..... no judgments only thoughtful protections and you will be all you desire.... there are those that will be so and it is not always your mate.... look him in the eyes and just speak... first response to first insight of you will tell all... if not move on.

tigger4u75 42F

1/24/2006 3:15 pm

They r right. u can be much more open w/anonymity. I am in the same situation myself. Married, but hungry for more. I adore my husband & he and I view sex differently. I see it as natural and fun & he sees it as only emotional. if u knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that u wouldnt get caught, u would be more open to it in person. If u act like youre doing something wrong, people will think u r. Just be open minded and have fun! Sex is one of the best stress relievers - all kinds of wonderful endorphines r released! We should allllll get more of it!! LOL Good Luck!

BendsLuciaHinds 56M
10 posts
1/24/2006 3:45 pm

It seems to be easier to express feelings when you do not have to look the other person in the eye. Most women have a need to express their desire but do not have the need or are afraid to fulfil their desires. The fantasy is in the thought of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence. It is hard to follow through because of the fears of leaving a comfort zone. Some spouses just do not understand or want to understand the needs, desires and wants of their mates. So you are left to dream or talk about the dream of being with others. The comfort really lies in the belief that you are comfortable with your actions without fear of hurting others. Try to find a man who can be understanding to your mindset and then go for it. It is OK to be selfish and think of your own needs. The more the stress builds the harder it is to leave your comfort zone.The only way you know is to take the next step and see how good or bad it feels.

ErosHunger 48M

1/24/2006 6:02 pm

I have to agree with the power of being anonymous and hiding behind the mask of a screen name as far as helping one be confident to express sexuality to strangers.

In general I'm an honest soul who pretty much always says what's on his mind in real life...but when it comes to sex and erotic fantasy I am very shy, since I've had a limited romantic life and have bad experiences opening up to women. Here I'm taking my erotic nature to the front line and hoping that having it out in the open will attract someone that's okay with that side of me. This way I'll have no reservations about my sexuality or hers if we ever meet. I will weild the power of my blog and use it! Let's hope it doesn't go off and shoot me in the foot!

rm_wenchang1966 47M
404 posts
1/24/2006 8:59 pm

Yes, my sexy lady, the married lady need more sex love.

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