The sex part comes later...  

sac_geek_cpl 42M/43F
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5/28/2006 10:18 am

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5/28/2006 10:19 am

The sex part comes later...

I don't want to get anyone's hopes up. I don't want any of our new possible friends to think that after a couple dates they're gonna get laid. Friendship is so much more important to me than the sex part.

My husband and I could have explored the Swingers scene years ago. We weren't blind to its existence. But we didn't take that route because sex and intimacy are linked for us.

We don't need a polyamorous commitment but we do need a friendship commitment. I'm thinking about this a great deal because we're at the next point in this process. It's time to start setting up dates and actually meet some of the people we've been corresponding to on AdultFriendFinder.

I'm a little nervous. We've met some really cool people here, online, but I think it's easier to know if people click with an in person meeting.

But part of the reason I’m nervous is that I don’t want to find out that these friendships aren’t going to happen because we want to wait for the sex part. The sex part comes later, after the friendship is more solid.

I guess the only way to confirm or disprove my expectations is to dive in.

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