ryanrdl 39M
31 posts
8/27/2005 9:51 pm

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I realized something tonight. Maybe it wasn't tonight, but the thought formed in my head tonight, but the feeling has been building for quite sometime now. Tonight was just like the wave crashing on the shore finally.

I am not, nor will I ever be, the type of man that a woman looks at from across a crowded room and thinks "damn". Sure, I am "cute", or "nice looking" to some people. But very rarely do I elicit lustful feelings in a woman who has never spoken to me.

I am torn on how I feel about this. I would love to say that it does not bother me. But honestly, it does. I want to be wanted, craved, at least one time in my life. I want to know what that feels like. But I just don't think that is something that is in the cards for me.

I know I have other gifts. Once I break the ice and start talking to a woman her perception generally changes. Mostly they think I am really "nice" and "sweet" and "smart" but almost in like that "he is just like a little brother" kind of way. God, I hate that.

Even though I am smarter than your average jock, there are times I feel like I would trade that to be one of those moronic, stereotypical, shallow guys that every girl in a crowded room looks at and thinks, "damn".


Sweetest_Sin_Jes 38F

8/28/2005 5:31 pm

Hey Ryan:

How do you know that no one has had those thoughts? I have thought it many times about others but have never said anything. You can't know for sure that it has never happened (even more than once) and the girl was too afraid to say anything or was too shy to meet your eyes so that you could tell!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone has different opinions about what deserves a "damn" and what doesn't! So I would say it's safe to assume you have received a "damn" from a girl (or a few), but just haven't heard it yourself!

Have a great rest of the day!


heavensent1123 53F

8/29/2005 7:42 am

I'm agreeing with Jess on this one Ryan, there have been times when I saw a guy and thought "Damn" but was too shy to say anything. Then theres the times when you look at a guy and thing ok he's attractive but then you get to know him and it's really SOOO much better than damn. Also be careful what you wish for Ryan, beauty doesn't last forever, and unless you are the "nice""sweet""smart" guy there isn't anything there.

rm_cjcj9 42F
188 posts
10/10/2005 5:44 am

I have to disagree with you...I know I am writing this late, but there is no way I would think you would be more attractive being like someone else. Those moments that you talk about when you feel desired, they just happen. They aren't created. I am 30 years old (did I say that out loud) and that has happened to me 2 in my life. Once in college and once recently. The first one I acted on and it didn't turn out...the second, there was no possibility of it going any further than the lustful glances. You are remarkable just the way you are....that moment will happen when you least expect it. And, trust me, it WILL happen....

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