rya_marie 35F
7 posts
9/3/2006 9:36 pm

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9/5/2006 8:24 pm


How do you get a man to work though his feelings? I have a guy who says he has mixed feelings but he doenst want to work them out? PLEASE someone help.

silverhawk762 52M/48F

9/3/2006 10:01 pm

Sweetie, if he doesn't WANT to work them out, there's no way that you can force the issue. Men are as stubborn as the day is long, and there's no way in hell to change that. I would say that if his mixed feelings are about being with you, move on. If he decides to change his mind later, talk to him then, if that's what YOU decide you want to do. It may hurt pretty badly, but I don't think you have a choice in this... {=}

uhclemclone 62M
39 posts
9/4/2006 1:10 am

I agree with the last poster. As a country song that was popular a couple years ago said:

"We'd rather pick guitars and work on cars
than work on problems in our lives"

That being said, talk to him. Ask him specifically what the mixed feelings are about. Be forewarned...guys, including myself, are not very articulate regarding feelings. Be prepared for a lot of hemming and hawing...that is normal. But if you can get specific information, maybe the two of you can create an action plan to overcome his (or your) misgivings. Guys are action-oriented...they like to fix specific problems, rather than just talk about them.

rya_marie 35F
4 posts
9/5/2006 8:24 pm

Thank you for the advice I am really grateful for it. It has helped, we are working together to figure everything out. However I am trying really hard not to let my hopes get to high. I am not sure how far of a fall I can take if things dont go the way I would like them to

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