work place problems.  

rm_wpg_security 33M
4 posts
4/18/2006 1:24 pm

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4/19/2006 10:56 am

work place problems.

I am currently trying to persue a relationship with a co worker. but that is not a problem, the problem is today i found out that another co worker is also on this wonderful site. I have a feeling that because of my firendly nature the she may have been getting some signals that were not intended. I am not attracted to her in any physical way. but i don't know whut to do know. how do i not make it uncomfortable for the both of us. and if she does happen to stumble across this blog then i'm sorry i just don't feel that way and i would like to be firends. so people help me out.

hungry4luvin21 49M
17 posts
4/18/2006 4:29 pm

Dating someone that you work with can lead to real problems. My advice, for what it's worth, would be to not persue either of them and find someone who doesn't work with you. That gives you the perfect excuse for the person that you are not attracted to. You can simply tell her, as a policy you don't date (or sleep)with co-workers. If you absolutely can't resist the one co-worker then make sure you keep it descrete.

lexingtoncock 53M/51F

4/18/2006 4:34 pm

1st you shouldn't date anyone you work with that only leads to problems.....2nd be up front and let her know that it an't like that and don't apologize just don't be an ass she may just have a crush on you and she'll get over it as long as you don't lead her on. good luck man your gonna need it....

my husband says just fuck her thats what she wants and it maybe the elusive pussy your searching for........

angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
4/18/2006 8:24 pm

Welcome to the blogs!

winnipeggal 43F

4/18/2006 8:26 pm

First off, everyone says its a bad idea to date someone you work with. Yet we spend 1/3 of our weekdays at work, and for many it's the only place to meet like-minded singles. Over 40% of people polled reported meeting a partner or spouse at work.
Can it get messy when/if it ends? Sure. But that depends on the maturity of the people involved. We can't like everyone we work with. Many of us can shrug off workplace conflicts; why would interacting with an ex be any different.

As for what you should do with the coworker who is also on AdultFriendFinder... if she shows *obvious* interest (ie. asks you out) be direct and honest, stating your feelings clearly - in an email if you have to.

rm_wpg_security replies on 4/19/2006 3:56 am:
of all the people that posted so far you are the only one who actually made sence. thank you for your advice and it is well taken.

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