Emotional Awareness  

rm_watever00 43F
257 posts
9/2/2006 12:26 am

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9/8/2006 11:25 pm

Emotional Awareness

I was surfing the net aimlessly, while trying to understand my current situations/emotions. So I just typed "awareness of your emotions" and went into the website .. the article there quoted "The emotional virus lives and thrives in the gap between expectations and perceived reality".

Indeed, many unpleasant events tat happened in our lifetime is due to the deviation of both elements (expectations and reality). Do we often communicate with our partners (be it husband, bf, lovers and even friends)about our expectations in this relationship? Or rather do we even bother to tell them at all? Could it be for the fear of being rejected of your expectations by the other party? But is it right to remain slient while guessing whether the other party meet up to your expectations? I know and u know tat "expectations comes with disappointment, so dont expect." But truly, at the end of the day, learning to accept (which is not easy) is a much better option. Dont you think so??


rm_Blinded1969 40M
916 posts
9/2/2006 9:55 am

yeash i must agree, dont expect but accept... and as time goes by you'll learn to live with it...

mr_simply_me 46M
842 posts
9/5/2006 10:53 am


Expectations... Raising it and then drop it... Expectations is always what one think.. Perceive the other parties' thoughts and wants... No one will know the thoughts of the other if they do not talk....

I often like to do things without expectations. In this way you will gain most when you just have a little gain. And you will be very happy when you have gained more.

Don't expect too much when you meet me ok?


rm_watever00 43F
70 posts
9/7/2006 3:56 am

Blinded, yeah .. doesnt tat sounds more like "I leave it up to fate" ..

Hey msm, no lah, I dont have designs on you, where got expectations??!! LOL

goodtry 56M
918 posts
9/7/2006 11:48 pm

Then you are talking about give and take. Well, it all depend on individual. It may be good to set expectation and tell others about your expectation or voice out if they deviated from your expectation, however not everyone take things easily and at time they may be offended.

Communication, again this is something needless to say, many people take things for granted, they assume that the other party understood and knows but in reality it wasn't and then the emotional bit drive in.

It may be true that if you adopt a give and take aptitude you may be happier.

mindz0ne 42M

9/8/2006 7:55 pm

If there are no expectations, than how does one make plans? Objectives and goals can only be formed or reached provided that certain expectations are met.

Reality, perceived or not, is what matters. Of course its best that its reality and not some perceived/imagined state.

Expectations change with time and reality. There is no such thing as no expectations. The moment you are with someone, a whole slew of expectations are automatically tagged. These expectations differ because humans differ in personality/charaters/needs.

So yes, communications is key. Acceptance is a must. Compromise is necessary.

But to simply just accept the other party's behaviour/action/decision/etc in order to avoid conflict, because he/she won't compromise even though its obvious they are not being fair or honouring the state of the relationship?

I don't know bout that. That will simply lead to two people, being together on the surface, but leading 2 separate lives. Meaningless.

We're NOT talking about fuckbuddies/ONS/etc here... but even in those relationships, expectations exist.

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