Ex Girlfriends  

rm_txttboy98 41M
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6/16/2005 8:20 am

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Ex Girlfriends

On my way to work today, I was suddenly overcome with a feeling of lonliness that just seemed to really pop out of nowhere. And the first thought that came to my mind was my ex girlfriend. To make a long story short, we were together for 5 years, the entire time I was up in Chicago. When she broke up with me, I was in the mindset to get engaged...guess we were on different pages...lol. We did not talk again until I got back to Texas in Feb, so it had been 5 months since we last talked. Needless to say, my gut instinct as to why we broke up was correct. She had met a guy she worked with from Canada on a business trip to Florida. They had maintained a friendship for over a year, that I was well aware of. Needless to say she left me for him. When we first talked again in Feb, I found out that she was married and pregnant....little to my surprise. Turns out she got pregnant 6 weeks after breaking up with me and got married that Feb. She never really gave herself time to get over me, and it sure came back to bite her in the ass, as to this day, she tells me she made the biggest mistake by leaving me and wishes we were still together. Well, the past is the past, and I have moved on, but thoughts still linger and feelings still hurt at times. Her and I talk often, but I find myself at a crossroads. Do I break off all communications so we can each move on with our lives? Or stay in touch and try to remain friends since we still care about each other at that level? At times I find myself missing her, and that is what happened this morning causing.

Soccerman0101 43M
1 post
12/2/2005 10:25 am

This comment may be too late for you. I thought you were reading a page out of my own life! Its pretty much identical. My ex broke up with me after about 9 yrs of dating. I was in the "lets get engaged" scene with her. We even looked at rings several times! During all of this, she was cheating on me! Well, needless to say, it ended horribly wrong for me, but she went out with him in public the same day we broke it off. She didn't spend one day mourning me whereas I mourned her for years! She was walking down the aisle 11 months later from the day we or she called it quits. I was devasted and shocked all at the same time. A couple of years later, she started emailing me trying to apologize for ruining a good thing. She admitted to me as well that she made a mistake. So, it came back and bit her in the ass too! She tried to stay in contact with me constantly, but it was difficult for me to continue talking to her knowing I was alone and there she is married with child at this point. After several months of emailing each other, I had to stop the emails and refused to meet her out. It was the best thing for me to do. I had to move on and close that chapter in my life completely. Yes, I still think about her sometimes, but the hurt is gone. My advise....no communication at all. Its the only way to heal and move on with your life as she has moved on with hers. You take control now and tell her how things will be since she decided on her own to end it last time. Now its your turn to end it. The lonliness does make its way to you at times, but its just your bodies way of healing itself. So, allow that emotion to enter and acknowlege it and it will pass. I promise.

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