One thing that my experience with Beau has left me...  

rm_txrose4uNTX 58F
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7/13/2005 8:00 am

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One thing that my experience with Beau has left me...

is a greater sense that good things do happend to people who are particular......

Sexysteve900, from Tennessee, posted a response on one of my postings that inquired about seeing how we would fit "sexually and socially" with one another. My response back to him was:

"Ok. To do so, you must be willing to (1) travel to me; (2) banter with me on my blogs for weeks, maybe months; (3) willing to YM me back and forth for days on end; (4) talk excessively on the phone to me; and (5) answer a list of questions ( not no small 20 question list either - ) !!! You ready for all that???"

He may be thinking that I am joking, but in a sense I am not. After all, Harshawj did it (and so much more) in his 1,000 mile journey to me...and I have no regrets. We had the best of time.....and it was well worth the pickiness.

What are your thoughts on long-distance relationships? Would you really travel a long-distance without really truly feeling that you know the person????

rm_txrose4uNTX 58F
3289 posts
7/15/2005 9:26 pm

smileguyqc - Thanks!

_QT_ - That is absolutely incredible!! There is hope then??? hmmm...

rm_txrose4uNTX 58F
3289 posts
7/15/2005 9:24 pm

alice593 - No doubt!! That is pretty bad....

mi_mwpm - Thankfully, last weekend was built around a lot of background b/4 we took that risk!!

1eroticjoe - Oh, trust me. I do too! The long distance thing is hard....and I truly enjoy someone being much closer. However, I was willing to take that risk with Beau b/c he and I clicked soooo heavily on the phone with soooooo many commonalities. We still do in many ways, which has made the week following sooo very hard.

redswallow777 - I bet you would if you thought and felt something absolutely magical was there....

brandnewman2003 - I do believe in that great minds CAN think alike!!

mzhunyhole - Even if you were 99.9999999999% sure????? hmmm...

AmanteSpeciale 35M
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7/15/2005 7:23 pm


redswallow777 49M
6811 posts
7/14/2005 5:10 pm

Nope. Wouldn't do it and wouldn't recommend it.

1eroticjoe 57M
3777 posts
7/14/2005 2:47 pm

I do not know, never tried it. I know that most women want to find someone really close by so that they can see them a lot. I would definitely travel to see someone, if I were looking, which I am not. But, like you, it would have to be after getting to know them really well by several other means fist.

mi_mwpm 52M

7/14/2005 10:44 am

Have to say that I'd have to know someone pretty well to travel any significant distance specifically for them. I might be willing to meet up with someone for dinner/drinks if I was passing through on business, but just to see them... that requires some depth of knowledge.

alice593 72M

7/14/2005 8:48 am

txrose, Yes I do have a few things of my deceased wife left with me. Mostly are pictures, but the memories are everlasting. I wasn't saying a person shouldn't keep anything, because after being a big part of one's life, you do need something material to keep with those good memories. One thing this gal did, was ask me how to rearrange a room. I suggested something, but she said he ( her deceased husband) wouldn't like it that way. Everyone told her she needed to do things the way she would like them. In other words, she needed to try to move on.

rm_txrose4uNTX 58F
3289 posts
7/14/2005 8:41 am

74ShovelHD - Soooo very true; it isn't unreasonable to want to meet to see for certainty whether or not the magic is there, etc., especially when everything else seems so very right.

PillsburyCodeBoy - Sooo true too! When I lived in SC, it was like they were planning a huge trip, when they were just travelling across there State in a few hours. In a few hours here, we might be in another city...and, to some cities, it would be a 12-15 hour trip and we have never left our State!!!

talldarkavg1 - (*blushing*) you think so?? (gaining wisdom at an early age) Certainly, I am not going to travel to meet what I know to be "Mr. Wrong"; however, if someone seems like "Mr. Right" in every form or the fashion, I am going to make every effort for a visit to be in the works.

smileguyqc 54M

7/14/2005 7:59 am

I like your style Txrose, I would want to know someone very well and feel that they were something very special before traveling a long way to meet them.

rm_talldarkavg1 107M
10172 posts
7/14/2005 7:55 am

Rose clearly as we age we gain wisdom. Of course, you obviously gained it at an early age, I didn't. Your approach is the only approach. Why travel next door for the wrong person? For the right person...there is no real distance is there? 2 miles or 2,000 miles, right is right.

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PillsburyCodeBoy 61M

7/14/2005 7:26 am

I think long-distance relationships can be wonderful, if somewhat frustrating. I'm carrying on one now. There are times when I want so badly to touch her, to put my arms around her and comfort her, and I can't, and it hurts. I feel bad for both of us. There's really nothing that can substitute for physical contact when it's needed. But the rest of the time, it's a joy. When everything clicks, it's like being in the same room, right next to each other.

I would want to get to know each other really well before I would travel a long distance. Although as a fellow Texan, Rose, you know how we have a different sense of distance. What would be a cross-state trek for others is a zip out for milk to us!

74ShovelHD 54M

7/14/2005 7:26 am

I think you can get to know a person's mind pretty well without meeting face to face. In fact, it seems people communicate better that way. Too many times when dating, you're doing things that take away from talking to each other (movies, clubs, dancing, or meeting with others). It seems that on the phone or chatting, you're one on one, focused on getting to know that person (vs. in person, the focus is on getting into bed!!)

Once you get to know someone, and determine that you're somewhat compatible, I don't think it's unreasonable to travel to meet.

rm_txrose4uNTX 58F
3289 posts
7/14/2005 7:19 am

GetDeepInYou - Oh, I do too in many ways. Internet dating, if done with minding the p's & q's can prove very worth the while. But, why are most of the women you date, out of the state???? hmmm.. ANYHOW, hope you continue to have fun!!!! Laters....

rm_txrose4uNTX 58F
3289 posts
7/14/2005 7:14 am

Highwayrunner2 - No doubt....

xLonelyHusbandx - Thank you!

ExploreMore4Me - Yeah, I would consider travelling myself; however, for the past year I have been so underemployed it isn't funny. I love travelling and would do it under the right circumstances. Thanks for the confirmation about both the safety and respect issues. I so totally agree.

rm_txrose4uNTX 58F
3289 posts
7/14/2005 7:09 am

alice593 - Well, here is to hoping that you never have to have another long distance relationship wherein the woman still has a shrine for her deceased husband. I have a couple of things left of Kevin' of his fav shirts, a candle we shared on a wedding day, our wedding rings, etc -- but they are tucked away in a memory box. Only I know that they exist and when I do miss him, I pull it out. The good news is that I have had to pull it out less often as time has gone by. I believe that the best things of Kevin's that I have are our memories and some photos of those memories. No one should expect for everything to be wiped away from the past because it is actually a part of your personal growth. Surely you still have a couple of items left from your deceased wife. Same thing. Of course, going overboard is definately another story.

I have recently had a wonderful experience in a long distance meet. I have no regrets, and would be willing to do it again some time, if the person was right.

rm_GetDeepInYou 54M
8 posts
7/14/2005 6:37 am

Of course not. You need to get to know a person first. I perfer dating over the internet now however. Most of the women I date live out of state. I visit them or they cum to visit me.

I love it.

ExploreMore4Me 60F

7/14/2005 5:41 am

Trose...agree completely with your "guidelines" absolute must for me as well. The only exception I MIGHT consider, is traveling to meet that person. However, I would NOT travel to meet that person without knowing more of them, on many different levels. For me, it's not only about safety...but it's about self respect, self worth.

Nice Post! Thank you!


xLonelyHusbandx 46M

7/14/2005 5:05 am

I don't think I would travel any great distance just to be with a woman. Besides that I am married, if I was that interested in going off on the side there are more than enough local people, but I'm happy for you. Good luck in the future

Highwayrunner2 47M
6 posts
7/14/2005 4:51 am

I do it all the time its great fun and if there is magic there its even all the better.

I learn one thing no matter what country you are in or the package (meaning race) at the end of the day it all feels the same mmmm

alice593 72M

7/14/2005 12:22 am

I have to add something to my previous response. There were a lot of good endings I heard about in long distance relationships. They let to sucessful marriages.

alice593 72M

7/14/2005 12:20 am

txrose, I did have one long distance relationship after my wife died. I knew this woman on the computer for over a year, before my wife died. While my wife was in the hospital, she was picked to have me let her know how things were going, and she would relay it back to all my friends on the computer. When my wife died, we talked for hours on the phone and IMed each other. She was doing this originally to help me through this bad period of my life. After a while, I found out she had fallen in love with me, and I had a lot of affection for her. We decided to get engaged, so I flew from Iowa to Maryland and we got the rings. Everything was going good, but I was apprehensive, because after two years she couldn't get rid of her deceased husband's belongings, and a memorial to him was outside her door. My apprehension was right. The next time I flew out to Maryland, she said she couldn't do it, because she couldn't get over losing her husband. I think I fell in love, because we got close and I wasn't thinking straight. It was way too soon for me to get married again. I wasn't ready. I was over the loss of my wife by a long shot. That was the only long distance relationship I had.

rm_txrose4uNTX 58F
3289 posts
7/13/2005 10:01 pm

cumtounge44 - Thanks. From my perspective, a gal has to be very careful!!

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