Divorce and single parenthood...  

rm_txrose4uNTX 59F
5791 posts
9/8/2006 12:57 pm

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Divorce and single parenthood...

My response to hotsexymama541's new blog about her frustrations as a new single mom throughout the divorce process is this:

Hang in there. I peer counsel many women going through all sorts of things, including domestic violence. Don't set your sights on the present or the past to get you through these times; instead, focus on the future. What is it that you want most for you and the children? Where do you see yourself in the next five years? What is it going to take for you to get there?

Think in positive strokes; life is too short for all the negative strokes. They hold no purpose other than just holding you back from achieving the things that you want to for yourself, and your children.

Take time to go to the parks with the kids, feed the ducks and geese, share some one-on-one time with each child as much as possible (even if it is just taking one of the children out to the garden to pick some vegetables or having one of them help you fold up the laundry).

If I could do single-mom time all over again, I wouldn't work so much so that I could spend much more one-on-one time; however, my daughter seems to have survived the life of being a child of a single parent for most of her life and is now 19 and moving on to great things. I am soooo very proud of her.

Looking forward to reading more blogs from you in the future....

TxRose


Have you lived through the process? I think many of us have on AdultFriendFinder. What other words of advice would you have given her?

Just curious....



rm_GODSGURL2 56F

9/9/2006 11:12 am

All u say is true and yes, there is always light at the end of the tunnel however long it takes to achieve, it will happen. All good comes to those who wait and bide their time.
Have Faith and it will happen, GOD never forgets those who need him most just the world is so full of problems that he can't solve all at once but HE is their watching over u and will guide u as u make choices of that, that take priorty.
Keep ur chin up


rm_txrose4uNTX 59F
3289 posts
9/8/2006 2:26 pm

    Quoting IviesBidesJuste:
    Breaking from an environment that one has been emotionally comfortable with is a difficult thing to do. She'll have to take that leap herself and make a new environment which will eventually lead to her being comfortable in new surroundings again.

    It's like breaking a addiction or habit.
True. So very true!!

At the time the world seems so dismal, but there is light at the end of the tunnel ultimately. I have had my share of walking in her shoes...

Certainly don't envy her....

TxRose


IviesBidesJuste 56M
3658 posts
9/8/2006 1:54 pm

Breaking from an environment that one has been emotionally comfortable with is a difficult thing to do. She'll have to take that leap herself and make a new environment which will eventually lead to her being comfortable in new surroundings again.

It's like breaking a addiction or habit.


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