Dimensional Relationship  

rm_txrose4uNTX 59F
5791 posts
7/23/2005 9:08 am

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Dimensional Relationship

In my prior blog entitled, Would you want to know?, WizardTim12 brings up a point that many people do not want to really know a person through and through, but merely have what he terms as those having "surface" relationships.

"Dimensional" relationships are the flipside of things and are those who really look deep at the heart of a person to get to know them.

Just curious.....

Do you consider yourself to lean towards a more surface-type of person when it comes to your relationships -- or more of a dimensional-type of person?????

ALSO, there is probably times that we are only comfortable at revealing our own surface views -- and, at other times, we will be more comfortable revealing our dimensional side. Where do you draw the line????

rm_WizardTim12 51M
44 posts
7/26/2005 2:06 am

Guess I'd better make a remark here, since TxRose was kind enough to expand on my comment

I certainly want to have an in-depth understanding of the person I'm with, and for them to have that same understanding of me. Certainly, as someone commented, you wouldn't really want to do that with everyone you met, but the discussion originally was mostly considering "significant others", although the question can be expanded to include any relationship at all.

With a "significant other", and with close friends, I want a very, very in-depth relationship, as that is by far the most rewarding and the most significant. However, there would be other casual acquaintences, co-workers, etc. with whom I would have, by design, a surface relationship. In many ways, I'm a private person, and wouldn't want to share significant things with, as they say, "just anyone".
Sharing deeper thoughts and feelings is rewarding, and brings you closer together, I think because you feel like the other person is accepting and understanding of what you consider "the real you", because of what you shared with them. It can certainly backfire on you if the person abuses what you've shared, but I feel like it's very much worth the risk.

Also, I don't think you'd have too many people saying they usually stuck to a lighter, surface relationship. Some would, but not very many, I think. Mostly because the people doing it generally don't think of it that way, they just do it that way.

rm_D7avid 46M

7/24/2005 10:29 pm

Well at the end of it what type of people would you surround youreself with, I think we all agree dimensional are the type of relationships we would all prefer but now I am thinking you do have to put up a surface personality now and again because you just can't give yourself fully to everyone that you meet even in friendship it is just to draining or maybe I'm missing the point?

BetterSomething 41M

7/24/2005 5:14 pm

I'm still looking for that blog....i'm interested to know what you are talking about. Based on what I can gather from these comments I am grasping a faint picture.
jim5131 seems to understand exactly where i'm coming from, and couldn't have explained it better. There is a connection to what he is saying and the beliefs that I am exploring right now, which gives me electric vibes (chills). This earth is so big and we think we're so exclusive in our realities, but if you watch for the signs (theres a trick to it) it becomes evermore clear that we are a part of the same picture.

jim5131 57M
1296 posts
7/24/2005 11:48 am

Dimensional. Anything else is unreal. The trick is accepting those 'real' friends for whom they are..the playboys, the wannabes, the goodhearts, the gamblers, the desperate, the shallow and the deep. Don't try to change them, love them for their personalities and spirit. Be who you are and let your affections affect them. They will recognize the honesty and change themselves when they want to, asking for advice and expecting honesty. Good for the heart. Yours and theirs.

redmartinigirl 44F

7/24/2005 11:19 am

I want dimensional relationships - whether they are platonic, friends with benefits or romantic. I enjoy sharing myself with others and enjoy learning the true selves of others. If for no other reason than the sex is so much better if there is at least a slight emotional connection!

However, I've found that many people do not want the same thing. They are after things on their own personal agendas and it makes sharing that much more intimidating to do. So learning the fine line between the two is the trick for me.

alice593 72M

7/24/2005 2:14 am

I would like to know the person, that I am in a relationship well, as I let people know all about me. If you try to hide something, and it comes out, it could ruin a relationship. That is the way I feel, but if the other party doesn't want to reveal everything, then that would be no problem also. It is up to the person, who I am having a relationship with. I'm not a person to judge a person, I deal with what is in that person's heart.

rm_txrose4uNTX 59F
3289 posts
7/23/2005 6:07 pm

redswallow777 - Hmmm... If the bloggers would take a survey, I would suspect that a lot of them might be seeing this transition -- whether or not they presently realize it or not.


redswallow777 49M
6811 posts
7/23/2005 2:54 pm

If one tracked my profile over the last 12 months you would have seen a shift from surface to dimensional relationships. I think I was there all the time but just didn't realize it.

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