Self censorship a bloggy nightmare  

rm_tennismaiden 61F
2103 posts
3/13/2006 9:16 am

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Self censorship a bloggy nightmare


Is anyone else out there experiencing censorship within his or her own blog?

In the beginning this outlet was anonymous, safe, and sacred. Now that I have met people within the confines of these hallowed halls I must tread carefully not to expose my inner most thoughts.

This place has become my playground, and though I have met so many magnificent people I’m at a loss where to turn when complications arise and I’ve got no venue to journal. I remain closed mouthed, discreet and respectful of others whose paths I cross for fear of hurting these many people I value.

Damned if you do....and Damned if you don’t!

I’m on that flipping Teeter Totter and….this ground for playing is not really fun sometimes. The emotions are building and well….silence is best.

Again...I’ve lost my voice, just when I thought it was found....oh well


Bloggers…..do you find censoring yourself as frustrating as I do...and how are you coping?

HeardLankaMalls 56M
2925 posts
3/13/2006 11:12 am

I haven't had to do any censoring of my own blog TM, but I don't have as many experiences, and a whole lot less meetings where things/events/situations may have changed or gotten to a point of frustration, as opposed to possibly you or others here. I can think of the one and only time I met someone from this site, and in hindsight, the entire situation could have been blogging material (not in a good way). But overall, I just write of the little events, happenings and observations in my blog.

I guess you biting of your pen (or is that the keyboard ) is a way of respecting others, even though something may have happened that you'd feel better by getting off your chest. Maybe just write the story, and then either file it away, or send it to a close friend who, in trust, could comment if wanted, but wouldn't post or mention your confidences.

Hope those ramblings help.

Hugs, C


SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
3/13/2006 11:24 am

If you are talking about watching what you say for fear of offending someone, well it depends. I think one should be careful, as you say ("I remain closed mouthed, discreet and respectful of others whose paths I cross for fear of hurting these many people I value"), about singling out anyone and causing undo drama. To each his or her own. One certainly has to be careful not to divulge private information exchanged via e-mail, chat or even by phone.
But you can't please all the people. Some subjects will just not sit well with some. Hopefully when it doesn't they can disagree in a civilized manner with an exchange of opinion and information. No one is perfect. Opinions change as we learn more and grow. Just because one has a different opinion doesn't mean they won't see it your way or you their way after a polite discussion. That is what the blogs are about for some topics. An exchange of ideas and thoughts. Other times, of course, it's just fun and frolick.
I was wondering if your last post would ruffle any feathers. Is that what happened? Is it the old saying "never discuss religion or politics"?
Sorry you are having a rough time.
SR


rm_anacortes 75M
2850 posts
3/13/2006 4:05 pm

in my MIND... I wonder what a reader would be interested in...


rm_mtnravyn 61M
890 posts
3/13/2006 4:16 pm

TM I seldom censor anythng but then I go in cycles when I am posting more personal stuff and when I am not. I also do alot of emailing with those on here with whom I feel I have made a connection. I reply to others posts that way when I feel my response is too personal. I think it is a dilemma we all face at one time or another. I have never read anything in your blog that would be considered offensive or a put down.

I do know some of the members on here are thin skinned but you cannot cater to those. Thanks for all you've written


_Safira 55F
11260 posts
3/13/2006 6:58 pm

Sunshine ~ Again, I'm with Mtnrayvn. I go in spurts of revealing my personal self to just my daily affirmations and love to everyone. It's YOUR blog! It's YOUR voice. Don't lose it! (And no, I don't censor what I write, but you know that I'm discreet to a frikkin' fault.) Safira

This is my blog - Comes With Warning Labels. There are many like it, but this one is mine.

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rm_jst4blog 49M/49F
37 posts
3/13/2006 7:25 pm

You could do like we are doing. We have an alternate site for blogging about sensitive issues. We will not mention names or anything that would lead back to the real person or persons. It really feels good to get it out.

Just an idea.

Dick


blueguy1051 61M

3/13/2006 11:34 pm

I have a friend who has been struggling with posting what I feel would be a very cathartic piece to her blog, but she is afraid what people will think.


Luv2BGenerous2U 60M
36 posts
3/16/2006 6:53 am

TM, extraordinary lady, you know I once had a potentially FANTASTIC new relationship derailed by the adverse influence of certain well-meaning blogs.

You are so open and so honest that you do leave yourself vulnerable to certain potential repercussions! You confide in your blogs as if they were your personal (private) diary or your best gal pal - writing about your innermost, sometimes intimate, thoughts!

Naturally, if those private, personal thoughts involve someone who may also be one of your MANY readers, it can potentially place you in a precarious situation. The problem is that your "subjects" are also your friends/members/readers and your "diary" thus becomes an open book, subject to the scrutiny of the very subjects about whom you've written. The other problem is giving your potential suitors TOO MUCH information about you personally that you may not wish them to have until later in the relationship, if at all.

A paradox, indeed! Just what you needed - as if you didn't have enough "docs" in your life already!! Haha!! (Bad pun, SORRY!)

TM, Have a WONDERFUL DAY!!

Your friend,
Ed


SacredStarDance

3/18/2006 8:58 pm

blog,blog,blog..Don't censor... censor smensor......
Write as you feel, as you want, as you please.You will find out who are your friends... and friends do give constructive criticism, We need that...And we read your blogs because your interesting how you express your thoughts and feelings.. I personally dont read to find out, who?, what? or where?.. Your blogs and many more took my Brain out of deep freeze,,, its slowly thawing because of People like you.



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We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
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rm_jst4blog 49M/49F
37 posts
3/20/2006 12:50 am

We do it from this blog. We feel the same way you do about not wanting to hurt a friend but we needed an outlet for our frustions. Thats why we set up the just4blog profile. It's not the profile we search for others with. There are so many on here who are not what they say they are that it drives us nuts sometimes.

If you got a story to tell that you really want to get off you're chest you can email it to us an we can post it for you. The only thing we would add is that the story is from a friend. The blog isn't very popular yet so no promises on how many views it would get.


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