Mixed emotions over Mom's day  

rm_tennismaiden 61F
2103 posts
5/14/2006 9:16 am

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Mixed emotions over Mom's day


I've been crazy busy for the last week, a little up and down with moods and after sitting at the sewing machine for 5 days I feel I should write.

My boys are scattered today, two are working, one left to go and have breakfast with his girlfriends mother for "mom's day" and the last one just sauntered down from upstairs and waking up (it's already 11:45 AM)!

In past years I've tried pulling teeth to get my boys to notice me on Mothers day, also my birthday but they won't ever get it. I suppose it's a male thing not wanting to recognize anything that could be remotely important to us gals. I finally gave up and treat every holiday or day of recognition as "just an ordinary day". Looking back my ex never took this into control, he did the bare minimum and it was I that made sure his family got there due so he didn't look like an idiot. I should have let him fall flat on his face and gotten rid of him way back when.

I always have this little bitty wish that someday, someone would really understand how important it is to celebrate each other. Either on their birthday or the relegated "Hallmark" days for love and recognition. Is this really too much to ask?

Someone very special to me has a birthday coming next month, I'd love to do something outstanding so that person knows the depth of my love and the life that has been lived till now should be celebrated with enormity. This person is somewhat embarrassed over people making a fuss and has denied anyone doing so for almost all the years lived.

But why? Especially when your family and friends know there have been many hardships to overcome, why should we wait till that person has expired and laying in a box before we break out the champagne and toast to a life that was profound and made us richer for being a part of it.

I really don't get it, I'd die and thank GOD I've been admired so thoroughly...and yes I do love the attention (Goes without saying)! Why have we become so complacent to recognize our surroundings and the people in it? Why have my children not realized that I matter and even a good morning kiss on the cheek would be grande for "Mothers Day". If they ignore me now, imagine what will happen when I'm no longer living with them...they'll all but forget I exist!

The thanks I get for ruining my body, getting stretch marks and feeding them all these years...Being a MOM is sometimes a thankless job. But all in all I wouldn't have traded giving birth to them for all the tea in China.

I love my boys...so I say "Happy Mothers Day to me"!

libgemOH 57M/53F

5/14/2006 10:25 am

Better watch out, that 2nd to last paragraph makes you sound like my mother, the QUEEN OF GUILT!!

In all seriousness, Happy Mommy's Day to you sweetie!!! I think the reason Mother's Day isn't important to the kids is they HAVE NO CLUE what we go through to take care of our kids. Just don't forget, your own mother got so much wiser after you had your children and you will too as soon as they have theirs!!! -B


rm_tennismaiden replies on 5/15/2006 7:41 pm:
Pleeeeze, I wish I could guilt these boys into doing what should be done. I'm so frustrated with them I could scream. They're basically good boys but they need a kick in the pants on some days!

Hope your special day was terrific and loaded with lots of kisses from your children!

Thanks B! {=}

spacecadet561 61M

5/14/2006 11:03 am

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

How old are these sons? It sounds like at least one is at the age of "drop me off three blocks away so you don't embarrass me". The one off with girlfriend and her mom is really off with the girlfriend, which can be a terrifically strong attraction at a certain age. They'll eventually realize that you're a lot smarter than they now realize.

The two who are at work are to be congratulated for having the ambition to have jobs, even if the timing is inconvenient on this day.

SpaceCadetรน


rm_tennismaiden replies on 5/15/2006 7:43 pm:
Space, my boys are 18/18/20/24 I'm glad they have jobs but remembering their mom shouldn't be a job...they should know by now...they're old enough to vote, a card on occasion would be nice.

WayneMarie4girl 46M/39F

5/14/2006 12:12 pm

Happy Mothers day


rm_tennismaiden replies on 5/15/2006 7:44 pm:
Thank you for the wishes, hope your day was a good one too!

rm_anacortes 75M
2850 posts
5/14/2006 1:25 pm

YES... sometimes if you are not getting what you want; YOU have to do it yourself... that is why I recommend starting your day, EVERYDAY, with a good look in the mirror and saying to yourself how lovely you ARE and what a good person and Mother you are (and have been).

Good luck..
heheh don't go tooooooooo far, is it the meek that shall inherit the Earth?


rm_tennismaiden replies on 5/15/2006 7:50 pm:
Ana....I know I've been the best Mom to my boys....it's now time to let them go and stand on their own two feet, they'll be just fine I'm certain.

Mirror? I've been so busy lately the only reflection I see is that of an exhausted middle aged woman who would love to have a bath drawn for her....my body is aching and I'm not sure of how to soothe it!

SacredStarDance

5/14/2006 7:33 pm

Happy Mothers day

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat


rm_tennismaiden replies on 5/15/2006 7:51 pm:
And to you too dear woman...how's that garden coming? Butterfly's yet?

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
5/14/2006 9:55 pm

TM,

Well, if they won't say it, I will...

Happy Mother's Day...

and don't feel alone, us dads go through it on Father's Day as well...not sure if anything can be done about it, except to strive on like it doesn't affect us....

NG61...fading back into the shadows...


rm_tennismaiden replies on 5/15/2006 7:53 pm:
So I have seen...dads need a little special recognition too! Especially the really good ones..they'd get tons of thanks from me just for being around.

nedthebundler 57M/60F

5/14/2006 10:58 pm

TM,
Yeah, I feel it too on Father's Day. It's gotten to the point where I would rather not have any fuss at all on those "special" days. If you can't treat me with some respect and understanding for the other 364 days, why make an exception for this one? I just accept that on some level of awareness they really do love me.

Madness takes its toll. Exact change please!


rm_tennismaiden replies on 5/15/2006 7:54 pm:
WEll Ned...I'll say it here first "Happy Fathers day" a bit early!
WE love you even if your kids aren't showing you they do! {=}

HeardLankaMalls 56M
2925 posts
5/15/2006 5:02 am

I always wonder about people who don't want to celebrate their birthday any more. I've always thought it was the one day that was special to YOU! A celebration of your life, with those you love, or at least those that thought/think of you. A card or just a call can mean alot from the right person, more than the most expensive gifts given because "they had to get something".

So do something for your friend, and at least know for you, you've recognized 'their' day.


And belatedly, HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TM!!

Your boys will come to recognize sometime (soon hopefully) what a great mom they have. Until then, just keep blogging, and we'll keep bucking you up

Hugs, C


rm_tennismaiden replies on 5/15/2006 7:56 pm:
Thank you Cor...you forever BUCK me up!

I have a list a mile long of wonderful things to do for this Birthday coming....maybe too many ideas. Argh....what to do?

_Safira 55F
11260 posts
5/15/2006 6:10 am

I hope you had a blessed day, Sweetness.

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rm_tennismaiden replies on 5/15/2006 7:58 pm:
Hey sweetie...it wasn't bad, a little quiet though (hey thats a good thing)! I got so many projects out of my way, I suppose that was the best gift I could get...a day of peace and quiet!

SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
5/15/2006 8:10 pm

Oh my dear. We can be such sods at times.
It was like pulling teeth to find out what the wife wanted this year. She worked out. She worked the whole afternoon until 10pm.
Gave her flowers. A gift. And picked up a bagel sandwich she wanted for breakfast. Basically a non event. I tried.
The kid was at the boyfriends over night. Went out to breakfast with him and his mom. I didn't see her give her mom a card or anything but I suspect she did.
Kids go through phases as they grow. They will come back to you. When they have their own families it may make more sense to them.
I had dinner with my mom and dad and spent a number of hours with them. Mom made a fantastic dinner despite saying she was going to keep it simple. I love moms cooking. Don't get much around here.
We had a good time.
You will have what you want someday when you least expect it.
Keep the hope.
I don't know why we tend to get embarrassed when folks celebrate our existence. Just shy I guess.
SR
SR


HeardLankaMalls 56M
2925 posts
5/16/2006 4:17 am

Ahhh, but to change one letter


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