Honor Thyself when exposing your soul....  

rm_tennismaiden 61F
2103 posts
1/6/2006 1:00 pm

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Honor Thyself when exposing your soul....

Self respect….paramount in keeping true to one’s belief system.

Honor……….offering truth to those that surround your everyday life, new and old.

Integrity……..being conscious about morals and holding oneself accountable to them.

Intelligence….(not degree certified) but learning through life experience enough to communicate verbally using skills to problem solve and seek knowledge.

Sex/intimacy..An act between partners that arouse the senses towards mutual orgasm and pleasure.

AdultFriendFinder/ Passions…a web site created for like minded individuals to meet, exchange dialog and pursue mutual satisfaction regarding mating.

Game players…individuals/humans that don’t practice the first 4 most important practices written on the TOP of this page.

Being “INTO” someone…...emailing, phoning, text messages, exchanging intimate thoughts, ideas, philosophies, validating one another, taking interest by asking questions, sharing personal histories, investing emotion, wanting to touch the partner and please them, offering parts of the soul, complimenting or adoration, being attentive, lusting and wanting that individual/making love. Verbally or poetically expressing all of the above through words actions and deeds. Being accountable and vulnerable to let another enter your heart. Using loving words...…terms of endearment with depth and genuinely meaning it.

Confusion...…sending mixed messages, aggressively pursuing an individual but forgetting to let them know they are not the sole partner being considered.

Chemistry...…a phenomenon between two individuals that defies all odds, sparks, excitement, stiff phallus, moist vagina, souls and hearts that beat as one, profound kinship rarely joined, reciprocal...50/50 nothing less.

Deceit.... withholding crucial information from your partner, living a lie, not being forthcoming, not feeling obligated, don’t ask/don’t tell mentality, what he/she doesn’t know won’t hurt them, betrayal.

Rejection.... painful truth of being deceived, wearing one’s heart on ones sleeve, giving of yourself unconditionally in the hopes of connecting spirit only to learn you were being fooled.

Confidence...an inner voice that keeps vigilant about knowing one’s personal worth and value...…never taking less then what should be required to sustain joy and happiness

Humiliation...realizing you’ve been deceived and become insecure for not recognizing the truth sooner.

Pain (emotional)…. a nagging hurt that takes much time to subside and let go so that one can begin this process all over again with another potential mate.

Summary….. Clearly Tennismaiden must be insane for believing in these ideals!

Any Questions?

Fallic40 54M
1858 posts
1/6/2006 2:26 pm

Believe in these things, anyway. They are what separates you from the herd. You can only control who you are. Others have to answer to their own consciences for the acts they perpetrate. You cannot be their conscience - it will steal your soul.

But by writing what you did, let the healing begin.

caressmewell 54F

1/6/2006 4:09 pm

Then you are not the only insane one

rm_anacortes 75M
2850 posts
1/6/2006 4:40 pm

WHY are you DISAPPOINTED dear???????????

(your "mood")

Then you write; Summary….. Clearly Tennismaiden must be insane for believing in these ideals!

Any Questions?

Yes, I have questions... but mainly it seems that in the above quote, you are "working AGAINST yourself". Because you are NOT insane..and your beliefs are YOURS (unconditionally).. and since they are your beliefs, you can CHANGE THEM any time you want, as far as I am concerned hun..........


_Safira 55F
11260 posts
1/6/2006 6:17 pm

Tennismaiden ~ I'm with our beloved Fallic. Let the healing begin. May I suggest you read "Phenomenal Woman" by Maya Angelou? I love you! *MASSIVE HUGS*

This is my blog - Comes With Warning Labels. There are many like it, but this one is mine.


WoodyDiaryKepis 63M
99 posts
1/7/2006 4:46 am

Hmm, a comprehensive lexicon of love. Perhaps AdultFriendFinder should post it on their home page!

Live, learn, LOVE!

"Nature always favors the hidden fault. "- (Murphy's Third Law)

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
1/7/2006 5:28 am

Oh Tennis,

This reminds me of where I was a few months ago and just want to reach out and hug you. As I said there are a lot of FROGS out there before you truly find the Prince. I agree with Falic, they will have to answer to their own conscience and one day they will go to far and perhaps they will such pain as we have.

I did a lot of blogging during my time of pain and it really helped.

Hang in there and keep the faith and I want to leave you with these words:

I know your life has been turned upside down
I know the saddness has seeped into your heart
I know that the doors keep slamming back in your face
But friend, you don't know where this road is leading

I know family and friends all seem to have the answers
I know you can't see that bright light at the end of this tunnel
I know that not being here seems so much easier
But friend, you don't know where this road is leading

I know you are kind and caring
I know that heart of yours is filled with love and tenderness
I know each day seems like forever
But friend, you don't know where this road is leading

Give it time and take each day as it comes
You are strong and can find your way home
See my friend, no one knows where this road is leading
But we all follow along to see how far we have come in our lives

I put this up Where this road is leading when I was hurting real bad. I hope it helps.

Purry {=}


Plano69 55M

1/7/2006 7:26 am

you've got such an intense analytical mind...
have you ever considered becoming a scientist?
But , yes. I think you're right. No games... be up front from the start...


1/7/2006 12:20 pm

No, no dear Tennismaiden...you are absolutely right in your beliefs. Sometimes it's not enough to know what you want; it's just as important to know what you DON'T want. Hold fast to what you consider a "deal breaker". I am new to this site and stumpbled upon your blogs and have read most of them. You are a terrific lady, smart, beautiful...you should have your own newpaper or magazine column! We are somewhat kindred spirits; I, too, love to talk and laugh hysterically with friends on "taboo" subjects.

It bothers me when people don't read what I've written,ie: don't care what I'm looking for; young enough to be my son, old enough to be my father, etc. If I say I'm not into pain why on earth am I contacted for S&M, Bondage, humiliation, whipping, nipple clamping...ugh! Just read the damn profile first! I feel what two (or more) people do amongst themselves is their own business. I would not insult them by calling them perverts...go ahead and enjoy yourelves. But just because I'm not into that stuff doesn't mean I'm a prude or "unenlightened" either. On other sites I've also experienced deceit, players, pathological liars, etc. It seems the better the person sounded the worse he seemed when we finaly met. I don't know why people get so much joy in hurting others. I've also noticed there are several people on this site that are also on several other sites. On each site they present themselves as completely different people. I guess they're casting our a larger net! But not only are they deceitful, selfish and self-centered, they're stupid, too. You think they'd at least post a different picture to complete the deception!!! Oh, well, there are nice people though. I was contacted by one very nice gentleman here, but we realized we had met some months ago on another site; it wasn't meant to be. What a nice, decent and handsome guy...I wish him well.

So, I will probably be leaving this site soon and try my luck on more "traditional" sites. But I didn't want to go without contacting you and telling how much I've enjoyed reading your "Little Nuances". Hold fast to your beliefs. Pride yourself in your intelligence and intuition. Don't sell yourself short. This will save you from hours of heartbreak, hours of frustration and anger. Most of all it will save you from reading/listening to HOURS of bullshit.

All the best to you dear Tennismaiden.

rm_excited69fun 61M

1/10/2006 8:22 am

It seems that you have built up walls around your heart. Sad that this has happened.
You are beautiful and desirable-that is a fact-You will get a lot of men that want you for a one night stand. This is what this site promotes.If you are lucky--maybe more. It just depends what you want.

I believe that you must trust yourself---your first"gut" feelings about a person--it could be good, bad, sexual whatever--but your first reaction is the truth because you mind --through your experiences---reminds you and your heart what to do. Trust in that.It is the best!

You have to look at life in terms of "times" not "years". For example, how many "times" do have to enjoy the fall, Christmas,the 4th of July, your birthday---So maybe you only have say 30 "times" to see the seasons-not 30 years.Each year that goes by you have 1 less "time" to enjoy these moments--it's not x amount of "years", it's only x amount of "times" you have to celebrate and embrace these moments---My " celebrate times " theory has help me enjoy life because I too was skepital and on gaurd of people and life like you.

There is no law that says we have to wake up everyday and be miserable, afraid or sad----we choose to be that way.
I choose to be happy

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