The truth about why I'm here  

rm_tauri1982 36M
28 posts
6/2/2006 11:42 am

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6/3/2006 7:16 pm

The truth about why I'm here

This is a sex personals site. There's no wonder about why a vast majority of people join AdultFriendFinder. But what are the reason that lead that reason can vary a million times with a milion people. Today, I'll tell this world why I chose to enter it.

For all 24 years of my life, I've been a nice person. It's probably true that the nicer you are, the worse is the treatment you get. That's how I felt/feel. Like a substitute person. So often has it happened that girls started interacting with me because they found some attraction. They'd realize that I'm a genuine, helpful person. But the moment they realized I was interested in them, things would change - they'd become fascinated with the idea of being chased, of having the attention of this man, but never giving in to him. They'd stick around at the right moments with the right amount of hints and indications ("I-fancy-you" kind) enough to keep me enamoured. My problem was that I was too nice to say rightaway or do something to the effect of "I fancy you" or "I want to get into your pants". I'll get along well with them in some time and after that it'd be even more awkward to do something like that. At that stage, if you are interested in a women, they can bloody smell it. The equation changes - the nice guy gets the carrot and stick approach.

Now that I think of it, it may have happened many times in many arenas of life. But there are two that made me take this decision. Let's call them X1 and X2. X1 initiated conversations with me, would hang out with me on a daily basis (in her room or my room), conversations of topics ranging from studies to sex & relationships, once she even called me to her room when she was wearing her two piece night clothing. What was I to think of! I fancy her and like her. Everything changed from then on. It was carrot and stick. She'd get all the help from me she needed. But otherwise, she doesn't feel the need for a guy in her life. Then came X2. A different story. We met a couple of times. She was never a potential, because she was taller than me. She was a blonde but even then (yes, I have a thing for blondes). Because it's hard to make a taller beautiful (or even decent) girl fall for you. Then a pubnite happened, where we started talking. This time, I did something which I seldom do. I went for a kiss when I saw an opening. She kissed back. Twice we kissed. So what was I to think. She at least fancies me. Just then, X2 said "I can't do this. You're a nice guy and I'll feel bad about it." Who in the world said I was in love with her. She barely knew me well, and we were only kissing. Why not just go with what you want. Why does it have to be a not-nice-guy who gets the shag!?

I'm in a foreign country. I was pretty sure I wouldn't be getting lucky being the person I am. A combination of the fact that I'm nice and of a different color. (Although the second is not something I mind. Because it happens back where I was born too.) I thought let's give it a go on AdultFriendFinder. What the heck! Albeit, so far it seems that AdultFriendFinder only works in the US.

All this being said, in plain words - yes, sex is what I'm here for. I can't help it that I have an amazing drive and need for sex. Being the person I am, I'd have preferred to have a girl who'd love me just as I'd love her. Be happy and all that. But straightforward things such as that seldom happen to nice people. So instead of trying to chat up some potential who'd later torment me by ostracizing me to the "substitute land", I thought it's better to invest time in finding some people who're looking for love - of the carnal kind, among other things.


ohsodelicious 58F
1922 posts
6/2/2006 8:14 pm

tauri...Sweetheart! It does not always 'happen' in the US...I can tell you a few 'horror' stories...why do you think 'I'm' a blogger...got tired of the...stories

Keep an open mind...OhSo{=}


rm_tauri1982 36M

6/3/2006 12:27 am

    Quoting ohsodelicious:
    tauri...Sweetheart! It does not always 'happen' in the US...I can tell you a few 'horror' stories...why do you think 'I'm' a blogger...got tired of the...stories

    Keep an open mind...OhSo{=}
Ah alright! It just seemed like that. I'll keep an open mind and look forward to what may come.


MOfunNOWWOW 56F

6/3/2006 9:32 am

Shocked! Seriously lots of sexy wishes for great success on your search sweetie!!! {=}


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


rm_tauri1982 36M

6/3/2006 10:05 am

    Quoting MOfunNOWWOW:
    Shocked! Seriously lots of sexy wishes for great success on your search sweetie!!! {=}
Just being honest.
Apparently, being honest isn't the most rewarding thing!


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