what do you think bout .....  

rm_talktame44 57M
43 posts
2/21/2006 7:07 am

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what do you think bout .....

I'm sitting here thinking about the whole AdultFriendFinder experience. It's different for guys than girls. I read how guys are frustrated they can't "hook up" or how no one responds to e-mails. Cries about bots and porn come ons..... From the women I here frustration. Crude men and guys that just don't get what they're saying. Suppose it's not much different for the real world....maybe men really don't understand women. But in here I think it becomes more pronounced. Men seem to think this palce is the supermarket of sex. Walk in. Pick one out and away you go.....and when someone dosen't respond? they can't understand. Fopr the women.....it's yough. Outnumbered 10 or 20 to 1.....and if you make a remark in a certain way you're labled some kind of slut and remarks get even worse. yes.....there is a double standard here. I would think the women get so jaded by the avalanche of crap they become very defensive and cautious. Even the most sincere reply might get suspicion. Who to repy too? Who to trust? That's a difficult call.

My thoughts.....there are decent people here......it's just that the idiots and assholes vastly outnumber those people. Sorting through the pile is difficult and time consuming. The games. The stuff you endure.... disenchants many idealists thinking that the common decency that exists in the real world, will also exist here.
It's a shame really......but this may indeed be a refection of society. it's not always a pretty picture.

So I want to hear the opinions of others...men and women.....good and bad. What do you think?

digdug41 50M

2/21/2006 7:35 am

hey man I think you are right on point with what you wrote I feel that I am one of the nice guys if I do e-mail a female here i am always courteous and never vulgar what ends up happening tho is I get the cyber ho's who want you to go to another site and swipe a credit card? well what if i already did that here I cant call it. I know it can be discouraging but i just stick to my blog and most of the women thats I have gotten to know and admire or have amorous feelings toward live in other states so i have all but givin up if it happens it happens thats all no need to become hostile about it and be rude that will get you absolutely no where fast good post cyaroun the blogs

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

rm_1SweetBitch 56F
8575 posts
2/21/2006 7:57 am

I get a lot of e-mails from men on this site...most are very nice but, I do get some that are from rude ass men. Many men and I am sure women feel power hidding behind a screen...in real life I am sure they are very shy and sheltered. We can't judge a whole gender because of one a..hole...there are many good ones.

No Day Is So Bad It Can't Be Fixed With Great Sex!

1 SweetBitch

crazygurl2xx 58F

2/21/2006 8:08 am

It is bad in different ways for men and women, but I do think MEN HAVE IT WORSE. The number of fake female profiles, call girls, hookers, porn site ads or men wanting to give straight guys blow jobs....what a damn drag.

At least I have had real people to respond to even if they didn't read my profile, etc...

I did meet my lover here after all. He met a very few other women before and after me...most of it was porn shit. I feel bad for him that his options were much more limited than mine. Kinda glad too though in a completely selfish way... I got him, not soemone else! LOL

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
2/21/2006 8:25 am

There are lots of decent people *out there*. A friend of mine who met her husband on this site suggested that I post here and then she told me to get ready to go through the numbers. I have met alot of very nice people here and have found many REAL ones right here in blogland.

part of the challenge is becoming the partner that you wish to have and then enjoying each day in a non needy fashion. you will attract to you nice people...because that is what happens...

just keep a sense of humor in the process...
spend some time doin' some readin'
and post your thoughts along the way...
people will read them

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

redmustang91 58M  
8924 posts
2/21/2006 8:27 am

In life it is always work to winnow the wheat from the chafe. Why should AdultFriendFinder be any different? The suspense and chase just heightens the joy of finally achieving something desirable. How many hot sex partners do you need anyway? Can any one man handle more than a few true hotties?

Tristan749 39M
2 posts
2/21/2006 8:40 am

Well I am beginner here. But starting out here are my two cents. The way the profiles are set up and the whole concept of the site is built on exacerbating the communication gap that already exist between men and women. Even a woman's profile many times seems very down and dirty. It gives you the impression that that's what their looking for. But in reality that doesn't seem to be the case. Most them shy away and true the proportions are really out of sync.

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