The past...knocking at my door  

rm_summer765 54F
27 posts
9/28/2005 2:34 pm

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The past...knocking at my door

O.K. this is a recent dilemma I am facing.A past acquaintance has found me.I was with him 11 yrs. ago.He wants me to come back to him.He says he has been looking for me for quite some time.He loved me then and says he still loves me.The problem is I don't love him.Not the way he wants me to.I care about him and love him in my own little way but definitely not enough to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him.That is exactly what he would like to happen.I've always been straight with him.He doesn't seem to be hearing what i'm saying.Only hearing what he wants to hear.BTW...for those of you who have read my past blogs...i'm still having fun with my "conquest" as Sizzle referred to's strictly a friends w/ benefits situation.I'm totally happy with that.Why should I give that up to agree to be with someone I don't matter how much easier my life would be and also how miserable I would end up being? So,my question do I make him understand that there can't be what he wants to be without hurting him too much? Should I even care if he's hurt or not? As long as my point is made clear to him about the situation.Any suggestions anyone? I'm all ears

realmom2 60M/52F

9/28/2005 2:55 pm

Let him know exactly how you feel. Honesty is "usually" the best policy. Tell him that you still care about him as a friend, but don't feel the same about him as he feels about you. Let him know it wouldn't be fair for either one of you if you "pretended" to be happy in a relationship that once was, but no longer is, or can be. I know, easy for me to say. Good luck.

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/28/2005 3:43 pm

You have to be upfront and direct...and basically stick to it, without going into hours of...but what if's

blackcoffeemmmm 50M

7/2/2006 5:59 am

Baby ,you know he wants he misses your sweetness he wants to fuck you once again ask him ok i am going to give you this body of mine use it as you please for the last time and i would never wanna see you again ? see what he says if he says ok , yes kick this guy out he only LUSTS over you

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