Sex and the married man  

rm_spitfire856 59M
20 posts
7/12/2005 5:34 am

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Sex and the married man

I came to AdultFriendFinder to find someone who would like to have fun and enjoy sex with no strings attached. I am married and in many respects happly. My only problem is if you want to call it a problem is that I find women attractive. I love the way there hair does or the way there lips move. The way there hips move when they walk and well I could go on and on. I love women in all shapes and sizes and yes I love to make love to them. What I found is that when I put I was single I got many responses but when I decided that was wrong and to upfront I put down I was married. How many responses since then, a big zero. Although I understand this I just wonder how many women met men on here who say they are not married but they are and they still see them. But when someone is upfront and honest they just don't seem to want to give that person a chance. I know some will say I want my cake and eat it too, of which I would reply yes I do. Ladies, what is your take on this? I am in good shape, a good listerner and just want to have fun. What is the harm is that? Just being honest. Thanks

fireflygirl6 44F

7/12/2005 6:13 am

i know what you mean. i am a married woman who has been with my husband for 12 years. i love him with all my heart but the sex is static. just looking for a little variety and something to spice up my otherwise predictable life. when i am at the bar i get more responses if i wear my ring than if i don't but i don't get this.

Discreetongue4u 58M

7/12/2005 6:21 am

I think you are right, but it is different when a married woman does the same, or better yet you see more women looking for women, I have nothing wrong with this but I thought the same about joining this site and since I joined and have been honest I don't seem to get many responses and believe me I don't think after looking at some of the males here we aren't as bad.

babsygirl 56F

7/12/2005 6:22 am

Spitfire....the problem is that married men you be upfront and that will take you so much longer to find someone willing to accept your situation...although I always ask the married man..what's up at home? You made a committment to pledged your vows to her to love, HONOR and cherish til death do you part. Perhaps she's not into sex...if so...get her to agree to let you see's much better when the wife at least knows he is going an playing.

I met a man on here...told me he was not married....we chatted for months...we met at an AdultFriendFinder meet and greet in March...we hit it off...oh so well....he's just so adoreable...hmmm then we meet and have sex....then I find out.....he's married and lives with his wife, and daughter....

So it's not a matter of being single or attached, it's a matter of integrity....and how you handle things...

So now I've seen this man for almost 5 months now...yes I still see him...but the married thing...rings in my head loud and clear....

Problem is you must be asking>?>>> I'm very single and have been for 4 yrs now..and I want someone in my life....this man has made it even harder for me to trust men are telling me the truth...ahhhh that integrity...

So I know he's not relationship material for me...but I do enjoy him so much...and he's a window to my sexual self...he helps me explore a side of me....that I can't share with for now...he works...

good honest...and continue....even with your wife.....

rm_cumshoteyes 56M

7/12/2005 6:48 am

Interesting topic and comments. I was a married man for 16 years and got more come-on's by women (married and single) than I have in the past 4 years of being single. Its a crazy, wacky world.

rm_pleasin_u_39 54F
4 posts
7/14/2005 5:01 pm

i don't think there is any harm in wantin ur cake and eattin it to.......i see alot of married men weather they tell me up front or not.......besides it's better when u r sleatin it...(lol).

rm_wanna_do2 64M
5 posts
7/18/2005 11:53 am

Firecracker. I would really luv to meet u. I am in the jackson area. Drop me a line, We'll do lucnch, see if we r compatible. Then go from there.

rm_wanna_do2 64M
5 posts
7/18/2005 11:55 am

I am a MWM/51 who is looking for a Secret Lover. IT is reaaly tough to find a married woman in W.TN who is looking for the same thing. If any of u ladies r interested, PLEASE get in touch?????

bnabadcpl 46M/49F
1 post
7/20/2005 12:33 pm

The important thing is to be honest with your spouse. I know that's not easy but the secrecy will lead to tension. I love the female body in all it's splendor and struggled with it for a long time. I told my wife and it's been a wild ride ever since. Just tell her how you feel and how much better it would be if you 2 could enjoy the cake together!

tnladynw8ing 57F

8/8/2005 6:33 pm

I've dated several married men over the years. I was actually more attracted to them once I found out they were married for the simple fact that I felt #1, they were safe, and #2, no worries about getting too serious with a married man. I just kept reminding myself that they were married and there was no future in it for me and it seemed to be very freeing. Besides, I always loved to do for them what their wives wouldn't. It made me feel superior to the wife in a way. It may sound twisted but its true.

1polishedjem 56F

8/22/2005 1:52 am

I have to admit, I think you should talk to your wife. You said you love her, and that you do still have sex!? Right? Just because she's "really religious" shouldn't mean she wouldn't want to talk about sex with YOU? I could understand you saying that she wouldn't approve of you doing other people (lol) but as long as it is HER she should at least keep an open mind?

Or are you trying to say she is so prudent she won't even go down on you?? (horror thoughts!) I am Christian too, have been through a rough time, made it through, so now I just use this as a venue to blog and chat (NEVER MEET, sorry) but heck, I LOVE sex with my husband! My biggest problem is getting him in the mood! lol.. but once he is, we are up for any and all of it. Try approaching her... slowly, with one new thing... you never know.

Just curious, you said she's a very devout Christian... what about you? (I only asked because you brought it up! lol)


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