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AdultFriendFinder vs The Personal Touch
Posted:Jun 28, 2007 4:49 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2008 9:42 pm
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Hey everybody,I'm back,but I'm seriously cosidering deleting my profile.
Let me explain,the reason I joined the site was that at the time,I had just gotten out of a seven year relationship,and I found it difficult even thinking about getting back into the dating game.So I figured,I'd post my profile and it would help because anyone who I'd meet would be someone who would have the same interests and some of the same "kinks" that I do.I joined the site and I must say I've had some success with the bolder females.
These women however are in the minority.There are a lot of beautiful women on this site and some very interesting profiles,so much so that I wonder what they're doing on this site.
The problem is that I've had lots more success hanging out in bars and pubs than I've ever had on the site.I'm a carefree,funloving guy and when I'm out,I try to enjoy myself and that goes for anyone who's with me.
I've learned that once you can make a woman laugh and relax,you are a good listener and she can trust you to be discreet,she will open up to you so fast that you'll wonder if she's the same person.
In person it's easier to do that,especially while sipping on a cocktail or scotch and soda.On the site,it's much harder as the women have no idea who they're talking to,no idea if the pic you posted is really you,there are trust issues and so on.You can send messages to 10 women and only get one reply.It's much harder to convey ideas with written text than it is to do so orally.You can read one sentence and depending on how it is read,it can have two entirely different meanings.
So,to my lovely women of AdultFriendFinder.I love you all,but you must be willing to take calculated risks.Be willing to call,but take his number instead of giving yours.Be willing to meet,but at a place of your choosing with an open environment,like a crowded restaurant,pub or bar.Have a friend nearby,so that you can signal them in case you need to bail.That's the only way we can make any progress."Nothing ventured,nothing gained."
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Looking for Mr. Right
Posted:Sep 1, 2005 2:12 am
Last Updated:May 20, 2008 9:43 pm
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I've noticed that in our little corner of the world,that the women all seem to be looking for long term relationships,whether they admit it or not,and the thought of "no strings sex" is alien to them.It is something that they read about in books or see on TV,but they can't relate to it personally because they've been brought up to believe that "good girls" just don't sleep around,and if you do,you're a slut.
This I understand to some degree,I've met some really nice women on this site,but they aren't looking to cheat on their "significant others",they are just looking for someone to talk to,but isn't that kinda like looking for a steak at KFC or Mc Donalds?
So my advice to the ladies out there is that there are a lot of cool and interesting guys here on the site and you should judge us for who we are and not compare us to some fairytale notions of the ideal man.It's like a bargain sale at the shoe store,you gotta try on a few and walk in them a little bit,who knows you might find one that looks and fits just right.
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False "Advertising"
Posted:Aug 23, 2005 10:11 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2008 9:43 pm
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I am taking this time to address the growing trend of women posting pics that they found on some porn website.These women portray themselves as the persons in these pics,and for what?Let me speak for myself,when I say it puts me in an uncomfortable position.The very first Trinidadian woman I met on this site was one such female.I saw her profile and pics and was immediately interested.We chatted,exchanged and spoke at length for a couple of weeks.When we agreed to meet at her house,I was excited,but when I got there I met someone else.
We spoke at length for a couple of weeks,but she never found the time to explain that the pic was not hers until that night at her house.
The story was that her "girlfriend" from St Vincent,(or was it grenada,)posted her pics and profile when she was last here.
This put me in an awkward situation as I had grown to enjoy our conversations,but was not in the least bit attracted physically to the actual person.I did not know what to do or say afterward,because of the mutual flirting that had gone on before,and so like a typical guy,I said nothing,hoping that the answer would miraculously come to me,and she blew me off.She probably thinks I'm an asshole because I never called and I really felt like one for the same reason.
So women,I beg you,You are all beautiful and you come in all shapes and sizes of the rainbow.There is someone out there for everyone.This site is not for models and actors,but for REAL PEOPLE.
If you don't have the self esteem to show yourself for who you are,how do you expect someone to like you for who you are?
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What does it take to make a woman feel safe?
Posted:May 15, 2005 4:52 pm
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2007 4:29 pm
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I would like to know what makes women feel comfortable enough to meet.I don't think this happens worldwide,but on my small island we live in a very close minded and in my view a very hypocritical society.A large number of the society is secretly longing for sexual freedom and openness while at the same time publicly condemning it.Women here,especially the AdultFriendFinder members talk a lot of freaky shit,but when you come down to it,that's all it is,a lot of talk.A lot of women from here view my profile and chat but they do not have the courage to take it further.
So I am asking any and all women,What can I do or say to encourage them to make that extra step?What do you as women need to make you feel secure?Please help me out here.
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Why do some people join AdultFriendFinder?
Posted:Apr 5, 2005 5:06 pm
Last Updated:Jul 29, 2007 4:39 am
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I don't know if it's just me or the country I'm from,but a lot of people join this site to fulfill some sort of voyeur fetish.They try to blow your mind with all kinds of sexy stuff they feel you want to hear,just to provoke a response.I've met some really nice genuine people on this site,but I've also spoken to a lot of people who I know for a fact are never going to do anything more than chat if you're lucky,some don't even respond.I understand that especially with women,there are security and trust issues,but my point is why visit the pool if you don't want to get wet?
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