Is monogamy only a myth?  

rm_silkditty 67F
12408 posts
5/15/2006 3:41 pm
Is monogamy only a myth?

A friend of mine, the Hot Chili Pepper, has resurfaced after weeks of absence. Turns out she went off her Prozac, but is now back on.

She relayed a conversation she had with a male gay friend, who told her, "Honey, monogamy exists only in the minds of women."

This is right on the tails of me receiving an email from an unknown woman, who was frantically trying to determine if I was the woman in a bar with her guy, who had told her she was "the only one." She thought my blog showed clues that I might be that woman. She was in pain and distraught.

I think there are monogamous men out there, but maybe I'm fooling myself.

What do you think? Are monogamous men a myth?

rm_AnOddGirl 58F
3469 posts
5/15/2006 4:09 pm

I think the whole monogamy thing is a myth. Out of all the species in the world very few mate for life. Of course in the animal kingdom the males are all dressed up and the girls get to pick and choose.
That monogamy thing - has to do with babies, or rather having some other man's bastard child. Men want us to be monogamous and like good little girls we believe if we are, they will be too!


saddletrampsk 55F

5/15/2006 4:11 pm

Im not sure if monogamy in either sex is a natural occuring trait or is a man-made forced upon us trait with all the married people on this site..great post btw..

pandoo5 61M
398 posts
5/15/2006 9:24 pm

you remind me of that love which kept me home, hun its life we have all kind of people.

southrnpeach333 51F

5/16/2006 3:27 am

There are some men and women that are monogomous. But for the rest of us....not sure if that is our nature.

ilsuconu 57M

5/16/2006 7:19 am

In spite of my sometimes flirtatious nature that I show here, the truth is, I am really a one woman kind of guy. Always have been, and I can't see any reason to change what I probably couldn't change anyway. I guess it's because sex never really was anything more than just the icing on the cake for me... and cake can be just fine without all the frosting!

rm_charlieff 77M
264 posts
5/17/2006 12:47 am

If monogamy is marriage or at the very least having a single partner, I've never know anyone to break such a relationship (cheat if you will) for a strictly platonic relationship or even for money. It's always about SEX. As long as we have a craving for sex and the freedom or opportunity to meet and connect with a willing sex partner monogamy will remain rare, if not a myth.

Even among dedicated couples where the sex is great at home, consider the number of swinging couples here on A F F.

rm_ajahn2 66M
69 posts
5/17/2006 3:26 pm

Monotonous Monogamy, Morality or Reality?

…here’s a view to consider…

The species you are examinininining (I’m a fan of The Goons,innit?)
Is by nature conditioned to procreate…
Monogamy is a conventional reality…i.e. in ‘real terms’, a fairly modern agreement between the genders)
…nothing really!(a paradox?) LOL!
A morality probably created by religious or spiritual leaders
…or karma?
The present status of monogamy as a convention could be considered unsatisfactory,
but that of course…
depends upon one’s perspective….
…even conventions are subject to the ultimate reality…

Anicca. Dukkha. Anatta
…The three characteristics of existence
Impermanence, Suffering No-Self…

The Dhamma

…………….here’s another view, to consider…………..

Hot Chilli Peppe’rs; male gay friend, is absolutely right!
…..because everything exists in the mind, doesn’t it?
Where else would it be?


Besides which another view…

Procreating can be a wonderful experience!

…but, that of course is only my present, perspective???????????????

…because of course, my perspective is also subject to Ti-Lakkhana

Love your blog!

Chris x
May all beings be at ease

Ps Have you listened to ‘the stones with Muddy Water’s? Brian (Jones) and Mick the lip, were big fans…(…so it’s said?)
Robert Johnson?
…if I may ask, what are your views on contemporary blues players; Keb’ Mo’, Guy Davis. Et al?

pps Why do I get the feeling you already know all of the above?

rm_ajahn2 66M
69 posts
5/19/2006 7:29 am

Here are some more words of wisdom...

...and I quote; "Mmmmmmm!!"

not sure if the world is ready for this, but...
let's reveal the truth...

...and again I quote "unnnnhhhhh"

from a fan
C x
May all beings be at ease
Ps Yes, I speak Zen LOL

BaronessK 53F

5/25/2006 12:04 am

I think it definitely depends on the people involved; it CAN always be done in my opinion, but I don't believe most people commit to working at it {staying monogamous}. It's work, it's not easy, and most don't understand you can be sexually attracted to someone, even overwhelmingly, and yet simply keep the pants zipped up {or whatever that leads to no sex}.

I think there are also different kinds of cheating even though they are all cheating; physical, mental, and others.

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