rm_sexxielynn 53F
105 posts
4/23/2006 2:30 pm

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5/1/2006 4:49 pm


It has occurred to me that I really don't know what the hell I want.
Maybe it's just that I want it ALL. LOL
I want sex, I want someone to do stuff with, I want reliability, I want sex, I want commitment, I want freedom, I want sex, I want no strings, I want to be part, I friggin' want it all.

If I ever found the perfectly balanced man who could provide me what I want, I am thinkin' he'd have to be psychic. Half the time I don't know what I want so how is any guy supposed to know? I know there is some kind of joke there, but in my case I would gladly tell you - if I only knew. Perhaps it is just that sometimes I get carried away and forget what 'casual' is. And someone wise once told me that it's all casual while you decide about a relationship. So if it's casual, and then you decide maybe there is possibility for more, how do you let the other person know that something is changing? What if they come to you with that, and you aren't willing for it to change? Can there truly be 'casual sex' - sex without the emotions that the intimacy of sex demand? Or is it just me that thinks sex, intimacy and emotions are linked? If one has been 'thinking' casual and therefore hasn't been too forthcoming with personal details, when and how do you start introducing them?
Is it possible to stop the brain from thinking about the silliest dam things and focus on what is important?
Thanks for listening

rm_FreddyNG69 60M
114 posts
4/25/2006 10:29 am

It is possible. You just need to make the first move and taste test. Taste until you find what you are looking for and then get on for the entire ride.

likestowinendine 36M
1 post
4/25/2006 1:17 pm


hun, you sound about as confused as i do,lol. i want everything as well, but i guess its hard to have it all, and i have tried. all i can say is no matter what decision you make, just make sure you have fun and try to stay worry free. life is too short to not have any fun. you look like you will do well for yourself, and well, if you have any advice for myself, feel free to touch base.

tummylicker 60M
1 post
4/27/2006 4:24 pm

wow, this is something new. Anyway, I for one think that if something as confusing, emotionally and physically draining, trivial, meaningless or meaningful, frustrating and downright fun as sex is eluding you on this site, then you just aren't asking the right people! I've been a member of this site for q few years but hardly use it. When I used to use it quite often I chatted and met with a nice gire from Stony Plain, went out there and had a nice day of talking and casual sex. Nothing intended by it and nothing ever came of it. That was neither of our intentions, and we got exactly what we were looking for.

You always need to be careful and screen the other party as best as you can on line, via photos, perhaps phone calls and then get down and get the deed done. Remember, it's sex, not love. It deosn't have to be slam bam, ummm, thanks a lot ma'am, but if you want roses and a box of chocolates preceded by a lovely evening at a nice restaurant that costs whoever pays $100.00 or so, then you may be barking up the wrong tree.

I was in a relationship for 11 yrs and just broke out of it a few months ago. We had been talking about swinging or having a third party into our bedroom to explore some options. She didn't wait and had several experiences without me. The one time I stepped out was when we were on a trial separation and the opportunity was presented to me via this site.

Now that I'm single again, I am back, looking for no ties at the present. Just want to have casual sex and see what, if anything, develops from it.

That's my spiel for this topic. Have fun and contact me if you want to.....tummylicker at for now.

rm_FreddyNG69 60M
114 posts
4/29/2006 10:18 am

Aexxie Lynn, if you are interested in checking out your theory, over a glass of wine and conversation I can rang for at normfg over at hot male dot calm, or Em Ess En

rm_abutoo2 45M
1078 posts
5/1/2006 2:41 pm

I think you're right. You want your cake and you want to eat it too. You want all the great sex that you can handle, yet at the same time you want to be self-supporting, independent and carefree. Personally, I think the best sex is after you've been sleeping witht the same woman for a while. Really learn what turns each other on and then you become comfortable enough to introduce new things.

I say make up your mind. There comes a point when you can't have it both ways anymore. There also comes a time when physical attraction isn't going to be available to us as far as attracting an MOS. So, in my mind that tells me that once youth is heading to greener pastures I want to have someone that remembers me from when I still looked youngish. I love that photo too. Still do, lol. In fact, it reminds me of my "sexy bitch."

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