rm_sensualart2 44F
259 posts
4/4/2005 11:03 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


I think good manners go along way personally! Is it better to b subltle and ask for a date or to b blunt and ask for sex?! Also when u finallly meet someone is it all about physical for u? After all none of us are perfect here..One member mentioned he met someone overweight drastically here! I find taht interesting as how did he not know it? Before I meet anyone I ask for a head/body shot..I only meet people who live near me around my age who are cool,nice,interesting,attractive..after talking on phone,which speaks volumes! They don't have to b perfect. This guy it turns out was a body builder,all about working out! Ofcourse someone over weight would b a turn offf! I don't even make it to the phone stage if I don't get a nice email w/pix mentioned,not just DIX either! I looked at his profile and taht is all he had there,lol..No face pic. I understand how some want to b discreet here..but I think if u r going to criticize others u better b damn fine yourself! He clearly wasn't! What do u think?! Is it ok to b rude? Blunt? Crass? A pig?


4/4/2005 4:45 pm

I think some people find that being rude or direct is a way for them to get what they want quickly by weeding out the people they don't want. The problem with this approach is that it is purely self-serving and doesn't take into account the impact of the interaction on the other person. While some people have thick skin, most people are deeply affected by the impact of words. Contrary to the old childhood saying "sticks and stones..." words DO often hurt and have a lasting impression. Being rude is an unloving act and is an indication of how considerate that person may be in an intimate setting. I realize this is only my opinion, but there it is.

keithcancook 61M
18138 posts
4/4/2005 5:35 pm

If you say what is on your mind then there is less chance of miscommunicating how you feel.


4/4/2005 10:01 pm

You are definitely right about the pix and a little bit of screening. Crude and rude never makes it.

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