Sex outside a relationship.  

rm_rugglesat13 43M
4 posts
7/20/2006 1:06 am
Sex outside a relationship.


I am in a long term relationship with my partner and have been living together for nearly six years. I am Very happy and we have a active sex life. Though from time to time it drops of more due to the fact of the hours spent at work and the lack of energy.
What is it that drives me to have a relationship with an other person at the same time. I have been showing attention to a person at work that I have no intention of settling down with but would like to sleep with.
What are your thoughts and comments on this subject.

rm_nicenaughty3 40F
1 post
7/20/2006 1:36 am

When that happens it's because something is missing at home some exitement. Maybe u need to talk to ur partner introduce new ideas and adventures to bring out the inner beast.


young_n_playful 33M

7/20/2006 1:54 am

I believe its alot more simplier you haven't changed feelings for your partner and its (i assume) that the sex you do have is bad or unwanted your just not as pressured by her or yourself to communicate through that medium.

However your sexual urge/drive is still just as active as ever and like you said your too tired at home so you focus on what "might" be convenient by way of energy.

Your energetic at work, you conscious mind is preoccupied and the subconscious rules. Greedy little bugger.

I wouldn't worry about it if you find yourself making excuses to spend time with this girl at work instead of your partner then I would say its a relationship issue.

If anything I would say its a healthly attraction and prob benefical to your relationship with your partner in the sense that while you look and don't touch your not looking anywhere else.

You can tell from how you write that your partner is more important to you so be happy with that.

Now go find your partner and ravage her...


young_n_playful 33M

7/20/2006 1:57 am

Sorry stuffed up the previous comment should read as follows...

I believe its alot more simplier.

You haven't changed your feelings for your partner and its (i assume) that the sex you do have isn't bad or unwanted your just not as pressured by her or yourself to communicate through that medium.

However your sexual urge/drive is still just as active as ever and like you said your too tired at home, so you focus on what "might" be convenient by way of energy and alertness.

You're probably energetic at work, your conscious mind is preoccupied and the subconscious rules. Greedy little bugger.

I wouldn't worry about it, if you find yourself making excuses to spend time with this girl at work instead of your partner then I would say its a relationship issue.

If anything, I would say its a healthly attraction and probably benefical to your relationship with your partner in the sense that while you look and don't touch your not looking anywhere else.

You can tell from how you write that your partner is the most important person to you at this point in time so be happy with that.

Now go find your partner and ravage her...


ninjacock2 39M
6 posts
7/20/2006 2:04 am

i say go and see, you only live once. we are always looking, human nature, why deny it, go ahead and shag him!


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