lower expectation.  

rm_riversexam 46M
87 posts
6/6/2006 6:25 pm

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6/8/2006 10:05 am

lower expectation.

I have been in open relationships before and as long as everyone is honest no one gets hurt. I think it works because everyone is one the same page and no one is left thinking that he or she is the one and only. There is no reason to lie about where you were or about why you were there. Everyone gets what they were looking for. Sometimes you get with someone who doesn't have the same sex drive as you and it would be better if this person went outside of the relationship with all parties knowing than to find out later that this person was cheating.

See, to me open relationships make sense because I don't see sex as something that is all emotional. I see it as a physical urge that needs to be satisfied. Not much in difference than scratching that itch that you can't reach. The problem is when people allow sex or the pursuit of sex to change who they are. the problem starts when Jane starts to want more than Jack is willing to give. I'm not saying this doesn't or shouldn't happen but I just feel that Jane should be aware that Jack doesn't have to want what she wants. Jack might be happy with the situation as it is. The problem is when Jane thinks that giving up some booty will make Jack love her and want to marry her. This almost never works out. Jack is happy for the ride and she needs to see that.

There is nothing wrong to me with having sex just because you enjoy it. But there is something wrong with thinking that someone will marry you just because you slept with him. Don't get me wrong sharing your body and mind with someone is the ultimate sign of love and devotion. And I feel that doing that is the highest thing to ultimate happiness but that doesn't meant that the other person feels this way. Sex to some people is not no different than scratching an itch. Making love is something totally different.No offence intended, just my 2 cent worth of thought...

MaggiesWishes 61F

6/6/2006 7:00 pm

ok, my question would be ... why the lower expectation of said open relationship?

happyladychat 49F
3740 posts
6/6/2006 7:41 pm

I don't think it's lower or higher expectation, personally, I think it's a matter of matching expectations.

Let's face it... women are emotional creatures. WE ARE BORNED THIS WAY. We can't help feeling emotional attached after rounds of intimate sharings.

So to women, I always advised, don't play unless you think you're mentally prepared.

And to men, well... if you sensed the change of expectations from your partner... GET OUT when there is a chance to pull the brake! Else both you and your partner must prepare to suffer more mental torment.

Like you... it's just my 2 cents worth.

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