Why do men not want to go on dates anymore?  

rm_reesee9669 51F
46 posts
4/1/2005 11:09 am

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Why do men not want to go on dates anymore?

You know I am the first to admit that I love Sex! but i also love to date, go out, have a good time. thats what makes me horny, anyone else out there feel the same? Holla back. and check out my prefrences also.
Is dating just a white thing? I hope not!

jmanmetro 63M

4/1/2005 11:54 am

Oh, I do not think so. There is nothing better to get you in the mood, than some fun times like a fine dinner, conversation, walks on the beach, some athletic activity, coffee together, etc.

I defintely prefer getting to know the whole person. I makes all things better and complete.

ExcitedSenses 40M

4/1/2005 12:00 pm

guys will date, but if u meet them off here, its more likely that sex is the main motivation

LeEnchantress 56F

4/1/2005 12:38 pm

No.. it really doesn't seem like they do much... There are the exceptions but most of the men i meet seem to want to "hook up" only. .In order words... a one night stand or casual sex... Have the word "boyfriend or girlfriend" become a dirty word suddenly?
I, myself. like to get to know the person i am thinking of having sex with.. that's why dates are so cool.. you can spend time and hang out and figure out what kind of person you are getting involved with..
You really cannot do that with just meeting.. having a few drinks and then going back to their place, not that i even do that anymore in this day and age.. Just too risky!!

cfManishere625 32M

4/1/2005 12:45 pm

Here's my take: the concept of the "date" has gotten so sexist that it's sad. The guy's expected to do everything, go meet the girl, pay for everything, sometimes even get a gift, etc. Meanwhile, all the girl is required to do is give the obligatory right hand wave when he drops her off. I love going out and having a good time, but for the very reasons I mention above, I NEVER consider them dates, just goin out, gettin to know one another, having a good time. "Dates" are just too formal nowadays, it's not the same as going out and having fun anymore.

rm_RoamingTom 71M

4/1/2005 12:50 pm

Could it be that we are just so busy that when we see a photo such as the one I'm looking at now ,, I would think, "wham bam thank you Ma'am" it's probably just the internet mind set. What else can be said??

Solo849 53M
2 posts
4/1/2005 12:58 pm

People who work in Restaurants spit in food or worse. For Black people especially blackmen/ and a lot of whitemen too. Too many problems out there
.Better to just stay your ass at home.

rm_BUTT_MAN_696 49M
11 posts
4/1/2005 12:59 pm

me me me me me me me ,look at my horny dingdong,so tel me what you feel.
its hot and ready for you any time .

rm_Hobiecat66 51M

4/1/2005 1:06 pm

Well I don't know about everyone else, but I think that if dating is part of the foreplay! It takes time to get a girl all warmed up and ready to play! Even if she is one that is looking to get fucked right away or not. I think that men should be men and treat a lady the way she likes to be treated! If that means going on dates...then go on dates! If that means grab a hand full of her hair and make her go down on you, then that is what you should do. But the only way to find out all this is to get to know her and the best way for that is to, You guest it.GO OUT ON A DATE!
I hope you find what you are looking for. Not all men Black or White think that your just for fucking!

cutta1000 58M
1 post
4/1/2005 1:16 pm

I like to penetrate you

fun4unme60 58M
3 posts
4/1/2005 1:22 pm

Hell yes I love going on dates! I love taking a woman to dinner then walking around the mall hand in hand waiting for the movie to start. Watching the movie and playing with each other knowing that after it is over we are going someplace to have hot sex. Now just have to find a woman who likes that!

Riddick197703 41M

4/1/2005 1:27 pm

My opinion is:

Well I am a guy myself and have lived through it just recently. You meet a woman that you actually like. You take her to a date, let her pick what ever she wants pay for everything and have a great evening. ‒ Good so far.
One week later take her to a date again, same game. Your polite, you treat her like a lady, you have discussions and a great time.
Following is date 3 and 4.

That was the point where I said ok that’s it. I tried as hard as I could to make her feel conferrable and got her everything she asked for or possibly wanted.
The hole deal would have been great if I was her girlfriend !!!!
But I’m not I’m a guy !
Guys take Ladies out to get closer to them and not 11 kisses like me.

Now, after a man went something like that you can imagine that he is not going to go throw something like that again ! During that time I put her in front of friends, in front of my sports, basically in front of y life before she stepped in.
Men want to f**k ! That’s why we are men ! If you want to eat and talk all the time go with your girlfriend.

Now I am not saying a man should not take his lady out on a date or talk to her, no that is very
Important I think. Also maybe the woman should at least let him know that she likes him.
Maybe even give him a piece of peach
That ladies don’t want to have sex on the first date is totally understandable !
But after the third date you should think about : “ok, this is a guy not my girlfriend so if I don’t want to be with him I should maybe just leave him alone”.

I am still under thirty, so by the time I’m thirty five probably I have been to stories like that for ten times or more. So one day my brain will tell me “no” first you check if she wants to give you some of her peaches >> you start taking her to 50 dates.

So Mrs. reesee9669 I really don’t think that the guys don’t want to go out with you ladies , we love taking you out !
There are just some of you out there that “ ‒the date “ and since mostly we are looking for a little more then just to take you out and treat you like our private queen (witch men enjoy doing) we turn the thought around.

But don’t worry there is still men out there that try.
Id you ever date a guy like three times and figure out you don’t want to be with him, be fair and let him know.

..hope this helps you to understand

** oh and has nothing to do with white or black or purple ! Myself I am mixed Native American, Black and my mom is white. ‒ on top of all that I am German and have just moved to the US a few weeks ago. Believe me it´s just HUMAN !! INTERNATIONAL ! every country you go to there are different inside rules. …but if one thing will never change it’s MAN KIND.

rm_catberry19 66T
1 post
4/1/2005 1:41 pm

Reesee I'm a TV but agree with you. I prefer to go on a date, be seduced, and if every thing clicks, go for the sex!!! Nice Picture!! I'm Bi so I still appreciate a nice ass on a woman!!


LoyaltyandHonor 36M/32F
1241 posts
4/1/2005 1:45 pm

I feel the same way, but many people today treat dating like a sport and it has made it rather boring to me therefore I no longer date at all nor do I ever get to have sex either obviously lol.

I just wish people were more mature in today's world, it appears that this is no longer the case though!

I am glad to see you like dating for reasonable reasons though. It is nice to see someone who likes it for good reasons and not negative ones.

Kadeem1965 53M

4/1/2005 1:58 pm

Dating is not a white thing

Listen I understand that a woman motor starts when you from the time you arrange the date. I even know why.
It is because a man is making the arrangements and calling the shots. It makes women feel appreciated and slightly submissive. And even the most dominate women know they enjoy it when a man takes the lead.
He opens the doors for you - shows he is sensetive and concerned.
He arranged the place to dine and oders your food without your input - Shows he is going to take charge and keep you on the recieveing end all evening.
Keeps you laughing and smiling all night with wit and charm - Actually concerned with you having a good time.
Fliraticuous and suggestive - makes you feel like a million bucks becuase he is making you feel as sexy as you are.

Dating is a pre cursor to everything in a relationship whether it is a short romp in the hay or looking towards the long hall. It tells you the character of the person you are with in or out of bed.

blackdick4234 49M
2 posts
4/6/2005 12:13 pm

fuck a date, lets fuck a few times then go on a date, u meet females at the club, they want dranks, buy my friend a drank, take us out to eat after the club, give us a ride home, same shit all the time, its getting old and guys are tired of playing the game, fuck first, then date, hell, after the fuck you might decide to go different way anyway, so why waste time.

12 posts
4/12/2005 6:02 pm

Come now brothers, Lets us not forget how great it is to see a women who has gotten dress just for you went out and got matching panties and bra in your favorite colors, wearing that body spray that drives you nuts. Or when we take the time to find the right slow mix cd for the ride home you know the one (Fuck action #35) Or the way it makes a brother feel to walk into a club,show,or restaurant with a beautiful woman on his arm knowing every other man in the room is thinking "DAMN!!!!!! she would look accross my bed tonight " It's the best form of foreplay.

rm_pplschoice 43M
1 post
2/15/2006 9:44 pm

Im sorry for resonding so late but I didnt see an expiration date anywhere. I like to date, but like every other man on here said, it seems like a game. We are men and think about sex all the time and thats the way it is. Now the ladies who are looking for dates on here, hang it up. Unless you specify a meet and greet first then you are wrong. Now outside of this site, into the real world then you are all good. It amaze about women on here, hey say no games with ass and tits showing and when you drop them a line, they seem to blow you off instesd of just saying your not my type. Im the last of the dying breed at what I do for a woman but when will she learn that if we go out and her mind is on lottory ticket and not conversation, she is nothing but game in its self.


Solo849 53M
2 posts
6/4/2006 10:35 am

I'm sorry. Some of the guys in here sound sooo cold. I do rmember in my past. I took my ex-girl friend with me music shopping. I was looking for the music of a Japanese Group called," Absarius ". We did find the album and later got some italian food and then went to the movie and I must say; before we were able to get into the house our clothes were coming off. Good thing I got the door opened in time. But yes, women do respond very well fellas when you take them out. I just hate going out anymore, myself. I always worry about people spitting or pissing in my food. I mean, "Have you seen the movie, " Waiting " " ??????

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