Help me celebrate!  

rm_quackhunt 50M
9 posts
5/17/2006 8:19 am

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Help me celebrate!

That's right, celebrate! It's been 5 months since I've last had sex! Whooooohoooooo!

It's not from the lack of trying but everytime I've tried the Mrs. is just not in the mood. We've talked about the lack of sex in our marriage but still have no solution to this problem. I've tried massages, candlelight dinners, soft music, bubble baths, roleplaying as a servant, foot rubs, oils, lotions, soft porn, tried to introduce get the idea. Well, I'm running out of idea's!

I've tried all the obvious things also: keeping the house clean, doing the laundry, clean the carpets, cleaning the window (yes I do windows)

Whatelse should I try? Any hints?

Darkpassion 58F

5/17/2006 8:46 am

A new wife lol!!
I know lots of women on here who'd love that kind of treatment

Seriously though, you don't say what her response is to all this. Does she participate but just doesn't get turned on or is it all a complete no,no.
Maybe you should just talk, no pressure, just ask her what she wants.
Patience is certainly one of your virtues. Good luck!

rm_quackhunt 50M
11 posts
5/17/2006 12:53 pm

She says that she just not interested in sex, in any form. We have talked about this quite abit and she says the samething each time, "I'm just not interested." So as a change of pace I've tried what I have mentioned before with the same luck.

Last night for instance....I set up the bedroom with candles, music and put rose pedals on the bed. When she came into the bedroom, all she said was, "Could you please clean this up so I can go to sleep?" Needless to say I was a bit set back by this. This morning there was no acknowledgement of it.

TnWitchyWoman 57F
6852 posts
6/8/2006 8:41 am

That's not normal. You've done all you can physically and mentally, now maybe it's time you suggest she go see a doctor. There is a REASON why she's not responding. It could be 1) medical 2) emotional 3) that she simple doesn't care for you any more. But having NO desire, no matter what you've done to set the mood is definitely screaming that something is off track. I used the depro provera shot for awhile and it took away my sexual fact I was pretty much "emotionless" in general. Went off that, temporarily took some hormone replacements to get things back to normal, and then the guys were kind of afraid to come in the door...or were hoping they'd at least get IN the door before I "jumped their bones". LMAO I wish you luck in getting the situation resolved!

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