What I've got cookin  

rm_naughtynjcpl 58M/55F
225 posts
5/26/2006 6:07 am

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What I've got cookin

Ok Maybe I do go a little overboard. Sometimes I like to put alot of detail into things. It's not always a bad thing. When working I'm always the best dressed in the office. My home is impeccably clean. I like to punctuate things I do.

About two weeks ago I go out to buy a BBQ. I've never really had one. Growing up in NYC and then getting married to a guy that was too white collared to cook, I never had the chance.

But knowing that Mr Cent and his kids like it I decided to get one. I did spend more than I thought I was going to, because I like detail and nice things. Mr Cent thought it was a little too much, but then again he would probably rub two sticks together on the deck if the community board would let him.

So now with the holiday weekend coming up I wanted to prepare on what to get for the weekend. Trying to find out how many people and what times people would be over was like pulling teeth from Mr Cent. In the end me and Mr Cent started rubbing each other the wrong way, and had a disagreement.

Right now we are playing the 'not talking to you game' and it sucks. I am the type that unfortunately says things that I shouldn't, so I have to admit that I add fuel onto the fire. I hope and believe that we will kiss and makeup soon, I just hope it's before the weekend.

It's hard to believe that even as adults people still don't communicate and talk things out from the beginning. We don't take time to compromise and work things out from the get go. How many times have we all promised not to hurt the ones we love??.... Have you ever promised not to do it again??.. I have...


njopenmindcpl 54M/54F

5/26/2006 6:35 am

Hello,
Being an empathetic person, I can understand how you feel. It's the thought that counts. The bigger picture is, you were trying to do something considerate and thoughtful, but you got a negative response. It hurts when two people are not on the same page.

The soooner you resolve this, the better you will feel. Dont wait for him to break the ice, Suggest you come right out and first appologize for anything hurtful that should not have said in the heat of the moment. Then ask him to hear you out and just clearly communicate that you were trying to do a good thing in anticipation of the weekend. It takes 2 to communicate, but someone has to initiate.

Sincerely,

Jerry


rm_naughtynjcpl replies on 5/26/2006 7:08 am:
Thanks for some sound advice. Love should be a two way street.

rm_rlandma 42M/41F
476 posts
5/26/2006 10:15 am

from one native new yorker to another sweetheart, "forgheddahboudit" .... the people who dont dissagree are the one who should be worried, as its obvious that for them something is just plum wired wrong, its in our natures as humans to have individual points of view, and its the blessing of communication that gives voice to this as yet uniquelu human attribute. dont get me wrong, i'm wicked guilty of "excessively loud and persistant verbal discourse and dialog in an advisorial juxtapation ...(ok so yeah i'm just makin up words that sound fancy to say i can yell me bloody head off too if i get my boxers in a twist)', but no worries, you have the perfect means of making up just round the corner. the bbq, and more importantly: booze. if ya still havent made up fully, chances are you'll both put on the friendly faces and act all civil for "cump'nees" sake and all, so my advise, start out acting like your not fightin, booze it up, and by the time everyone gets out, you'll both be so sloshed and horny you wont even want to waste any energy you could be using on make up sex to still be fight'n. (besides, you bought a grill, let the man use it and hell be so full of "ugh ...look ...me ... make fire in pretty box ..." self machimiso that he'll soon forget the argument without the aide of johnny walker and his brother's redd and blue. )


rm_naughtynjcpl replies on 5/30/2006 8:47 pm:
I am feeling better now. Thanks for the support. {=}

rm_naughtynjcpl replies on 5/30/2006 8:47 pm:
I am feeling better now. Thanks for the support. {=}

firestarter665 43M/40F

5/27/2006 7:55 pm

Mr. Fire and I have been married for 7 years and still have our times where we don't communicate well. I never promise not to do it again only because I know it will happen again. These arguments happen to the best of us, but in the end it all comes together.

I agree with jerseygem, making up is the best part.


rm_naughtynjcpl replies on 5/30/2006 8:48 pm:
You guys were both right. Thanks A for the support. {=}

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