Right or wrong/good or bad  

rm_mtnravyn 61M
501 posts
1/23/2006 8:39 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Right or wrong/good or bad

I have posted the following story on several blogs lately. I believe we get so wrapped up in what is right or wrong, good or bad, that we start missing out on life. Much of out discomfort comes from trying to put a label on an experience rather than just being in it, or learning from it. I certainly have been guilty of that many times. It seems, for me, it was often more about trying to provide a reason not to feel a certain way than anything to do with the actions involved. "She" was not good or bad becasue of what she did. Neither was she right or wrong. I make an effort every day to follow the tenets of this story and my emotional life and my spiritual life have gotten, I believe, much healthier. I know that judging is soemthing I cannot afford and honor and respect me.

In a small country somewhere on the Scandinavian peninsula lived an old man and his son. His wife had died years before. All he owned was his small farm and a horse. One day he awoke to find the horse was gone.
All the villagers were saying “Old man, this is bad thing that has happened. You have lost your horse. What are you going to do?”
The old man did not seem to be upset. “I do not know whether this is bad or good, I only know that yesterday I had a horse and today I have none.”
A week later the old man awoke to see seven horses in his open corral.
The villagers were strident in their praise. “Old man you were right. Losing your horse was not a bad thing. Look you now have seven horses. You are rich now.”
“I do not know whether this is bad or good, I only know that yesterday I had no horses and now I have seven.”
Two weeks later, his son was breaking the horses so they could be sold and was thrown and broke his leg in two places.
The villagers were again very vocal “Old man you were right. This was not a good thing because now your son cannot help you for along time because of his broken leg.
“I do not know whether this is bad or good, I only know that yesterday I had very healthy son and today his leg is broken and he will be incapacitated for a long time.”
Not long after this the small country went to war. The army came through all the villages conscripting all the young men. But the old mans son was not taken because of his broken leg.
The villagers were vociferous in their response “Old man you were right, this was not a bad thing. Because of his broken leg the army did not take your son.”
“I do not know whether this is bad or good, I only know that my son is not going to have to go to war.”
Trying to judge any event or choice, or even trying to gain enough information to ensure you do not make a wrong choice or make the right choice most often will deny you or delay the possibility of experience. In the long term, make your choices, engage the experience and do not judge. You always have choice and you always have time. To squander time or fear the wrong choice can keep you in the cultural quagmire of mediocrity.

caressmewell 54F

1/23/2006 9:02 pm

Thank you...your words did make me feel better.

dark_whispers 39F

1/23/2006 10:04 pm

and i have considered this story.. and.. thought about things ..in my own life.. and.. have been trying to..just live.. smiles.. odd.. it kind of works that way.. just a bit.. i can quit life.. but..life doesnt quit..laughs.. i open my eyes.. and time is still passing.. i think..for me.. i still try to find the good in it all.. hugs..kisses

MillsShipsGayly 52M

2/2/2006 6:25 am

I love this story ... you are such a wonderful guy

tillerbabe 57F

2/3/2006 4:23 pm

So many people need to read this. We all just need to be more thankful, if we aren't we will be shown that we should have been. (I wish folks would take 4 hours out of their lives...go to their local Trauma Hospital/ER and just observe for 4 hours on a Fridy night.) Kind of puts things in perspective. Thanks Ravyn..Ditto to what Michael said!
(No, I'm not following him around.. I just like to look at his butt!)

rm_mtnravyn 61M
890 posts
2/4/2006 7:37 am

Thanks fro the responses. Hope many do take this to heart.

onelittlesecret 34M
1579 posts
2/4/2006 10:57 pm

I, for one, need to read this. Now to take it to heart...


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