Hit the nail  

rm_mtnravyn 61M
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7/30/2006 12:34 pm

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8/1/2006 2:54 am

Hit the nail


Someone posted recently about trying to change another. I was listening to 50’s music on XM radio and heard this thread of relationship being about ownership. “I’m going to make you mine,” “You belong to me,” throughout much of the music. My favorite was “Little Devil” “Hey little devil I’m gonna make an angel out of you”
First, the fact that she was a little devil is probably what was so attractive. Second, the implied power to change her into his image of what was better for her. No wonder so many of us over thirty by just a little have some of these funny underlying ideas and they have been passed to the next generation in many subtle and unconscious ways. Regrettably that has infused our problem solving mode relationally as well. “I am having a problem with my possession and I am trying to figure out how to change her/him.” Thus, the only tool becomes a hammer and the only solution “Hit the nail”

dark_whispers 40F

7/31/2006 8:33 am

thats an interestingly true statement.. i have had to stop seeing others because of a desire to 'help them change into my idea of better' or for them 'trying to help me change' you like someone when you meet.. somewhere along the line we start the controlling 'help' i havent really figured out how to not do that sometimes .. but i am more aware of it these days.. thats about as far as i have made it there.. so i look for people who fit into my idea of what i like/want as is.. with no changing..


rm_mtnravyn 61M
890 posts
8/1/2006 2:54 am

d_w I believe that might be human nature to try and change others. The question may be choosing when and what. And of course "How much are you willing to pay?"


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