Time to pay your dues!!!!  

rm_mieze626 54F
87 posts
7/23/2005 5:17 pm

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Time to pay your dues!!!!

Imagine you’re on a date where you pay at the end (for example a restaurant or bar). You just finished dessert or the bartender has announced “Last Call” and it’s now time to pay the tab. Do you find this moment tense? Who pays the man or the lady...
Do you think it’s expected the man to pay as a gentlemen? If you think about it, both the man and the lady could think that way.
Does the lady make sure she pay’s her half so nothing is “owed” later?
What if the lady is in a better financial status and opts to pay ... as a man does that bother you ... Does it ?????
How do you feel when you want to pay your part ... you try to pay your part ... and the other party just refuses to allow it?
Could it be so simple that the person who made the date pays?
Thus far only discussed heterosexual couples and don’t want to leave anyone out. If you’re a gay couple ... how do you decide?

five_speed 42M

7/23/2005 6:39 pm

I always pay if I am the one who made the date. I am prepared to pay even if she made the date. If she pays, it doesn't bother me or challenge me in any way, as long as it doesn't become a habit (I wouldn't feel right if she paid everytime.)

101 posts
7/24/2005 6:13 pm

I pay but if my date wants to "pony up" then that's ok too. If its a problem for her if I pay for everything, then we can split it up; maybe I take the meal and she takes entertainment.

(Juan S)
2642 posts
7/25/2005 12:23 am

I agree with Major and Five_speed. I'm old fashioned, but I'm also secure enough to appreciate being "treated" also. Besides it leaves a little more cash to spoil her with at another time.

bloater999 55M

7/25/2005 12:27 am

I pay, unless the other party is insistent.

Jerosd 48M

7/25/2005 2:16 am

I always pay unless the other part inists....and no i don't expect something in return

__Huntress__ 56M/59F

7/25/2005 4:26 am

Maybe I'm old-fashioned ... I expect a guy to pay for a first date ... and I don't believe I owe him anything at the end of the night if he does ... but I'm also very generous as well ... I love to treat my man well ... I'll be the first to surprise him with a weekend at a bed and breakfast or a dining experience he won't soon forget ... I give as good as get ... !

rm_FreeLove999 48F
16127 posts
7/25/2005 10:35 am

I really don't find it that difficult to pay by ear -- the last time a guy expected me to pay my share, it was pretty obvious from the way he was totalling up his section of the bill! other than that, i usually let them pay the first time we meet and next time i insist on paying, etc.

[blog freelove999]

keithcancook 61M
18138 posts
7/25/2005 5:57 pm

I almost always pay. Almost, because a few times my date insisted so I graciously aquiesced.

If I was gay I would make that other asshole pay for it.

AmberSolaire 43M

7/26/2005 8:34 am

Myself I usually arrange it so she never gets the option to pay, let alone sees the bill.

But I am all for any woman paying if she really wants to.This is the one area of sexual equality where I will defer to the "weaker sex"

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