Something special brought us together.............  

rm_lovelyLady 65F
552 posts
6/23/2005 6:38 pm
Something special brought us together.............

Something special brought us all together. Could it be something more than our Intense sexual feelings?? All my life I have looked at past experiences, and tried to learn the lesson from what ever has just happened. What was it that made me, or that person do what they did?? There is always a reason… where they were born, how they were raised, their own personal physical make up (tall short, white, black, mental or physical handicap
We are all human beings…. With something to learn or share) What I have done is look for the good out of the bad. It doesn’t always come to me fast. Sometimes it takes years to figure it out. But it is my positive nature to “find the good”…

I want to take this time to thank you all for your very kind comments. As I think you can all tell I have an intense desire for something I am not getting right now. Can you try to imagine this experience you are having now at AdultFriendFinder as a learning experience??
I know that sounds funny. But it just occurred to me in the shower that maybe I Can do something for you all, although it is not what you think you want… I have learned so much about my self and my sexuality, being here, writing, reading all of your wonderful stories (more of you should try opening up and writing more ‒ let your sexuality flow in your writing), also what I see here is a lot of very frustrated horny people. I am not quite sure what to do about that. I truly am sorry I can not satisfy you all… but what I Can Do is pass along some of the things I have experienced here… that have made me who I am. I have been searching for the “answer all my life” and I see now it is made up of puzzle pieces. The individual things that have happened in my life that make me who I am. They are made up of Good (16 orgasms ‒ that is Definitely a Good Thing) experiences and Bad experiences (one experience with mental abuse ‒ that was enough for me)… We all have experiences in our lives that make us change, learn, grow, vegetate at times… The thing about our experiences is how we ‘choose’ to relate or react to what “comes to us…. My theory always comes back to “what was I supposed to learn from this........ Mostly, everything makes me stronger ‒ probably because ultimately I choose to find the Good and focus on that… So all my friends, I guess I have brought you all here to share some things… in the hopes it will help you along the way.. and maybe for some you younger ones - in 20 or 30 years you will say ‒ hey she was right. So with that thought in mind… These are some special things that have been shared with me since coming to AdultFriendFinder that have shaped who I am.

By the way - I Do hope you ALL find what you need and want...

This one is my goal ‒ “ look for the good in everything”

• one of ‘you’ said ‒ “All we need is love”

• my best friend told me ‒ “You are right where you are supposed to be”

• one of ‘you’ told me ‒ “Smile, it WILL CHANGE who you are”

• And this one too

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone may destroy overnight; Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is all between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

Mother Teresa of Calcutta

Sincerely LL

rm_lovelyLady 65F
434 posts
6/25/2005 4:46 am

About that comment about “you are right where you are supposed to be”

That sort of changed my life… Instead of wishing things were different, I got a “light bulb moment”. That very day I read that from my friend, I decided to look at “what ever” came my way, that I have a choice in how to react to it. I can be negative or positive and react accordingly. I decided to look at every encounter as an opportunity, - as my being there for a reason, so I was open-minded and was open to “see” what my purpose was. There was sort of a shift in my perception of things……. Instead of my focus being on myself and what I was doing and what I had to do, and being in too big of a hurry to give others my time and attention…. I consciously stopped and was totally open to what others needed from me “Right Then”……….. You Know ‒ like “Be Here Now”

So that night, I had 3 encounters, where I was able to help 3 people that were having serious problems. 3 people, that otherwise would not have gotten my attention, because I was at work, and I had “My” work to finish…… Which I would have thought was much more important to be doing, than to stop and listen to their problems.

In each instance each one was “really upset” about something going on in their lives and just needed to talk to some one about it. They didn’t need me to tell them any thing, or do any thing….. They just needed someone to talk to. You know how it feels to have a personal problem and you don’t want to bother any one about it? Well it was like that, and I felt so good to have been able to help them just by giving them my attention… That’s all they needed… was some one to listen and care about what they were saying. Often ,I think in that situation, people think they have to give others a solution, when just being there is really all they need.

So I got off work about an hour later, but I had accomplished so much more thanI could have imagined. I guess you can’t always do that, because yu are working for someone else ‒ you are on the clock. But, I had kept that point of view, even though I am now self employed. I just love those life changing lessons…..

Any way, that is how that little sentence changed my life in a little, but huge way…


rm_unlistedone 66M
2718 posts
6/27/2005 11:32 pm

Lovely post, lady. I totally understand this one. It seems that ever since I was just a little kid, people always came to me with their problems. I'm not sure if I even gave any advice to them helped... but what did help was just the listening. I do know, even when I was small, I always gave to each, my attention, a smile, and a hug. And you're right. Usually, that is all most need. Just someone to listen. To voice out their problems. To share them and let them know, that they are no longer alone with them.
It still goes on today. Spent two hours yesterday mornin' with a friend who needed a friend. We didn't work out her problems; but she left feeling better about herself.
Sometimes it can be hard on me. It's not easy sometimes giving a shoulder to whoever needs it. But I haven't ever told anyone to go away and not bother me. And I hope I never will. Interesting, I have asked to some, "Why did you come to me with this?" Always the answer has been, "Because, somehow I knew I could trust you." And some of those have been total strangers until then.

passionman7000 56M

6/30/2005 10:22 am

Lovely Lady:

You sound like a very kind and loving person. I agree with you that the internet can be a means for communicating ideas thoughts and other messages which can profoundly change a person's life.

Here's a thought which has provide me with some solace - " we don't know enough to be pessimistic - everything can change with new information" or "the night is always darkest before the dawn"


rm_lovelyLady 65F
434 posts
7/2/2005 5:26 am

passionman7000 - I wanted to thank you for your very kind words. I like those thoughts of yours.......... Those are very true words. Good to remember for future refference.

" We don't know enough to be pessimistic - everything can change with new information" It is amazing how we can be so wrong about something, and get all worked up over nothing.....

Just thinking something is a certain way... When realy it wasn't that way at all...

Thank You for sharing!

rm_lovelyLady 65F
434 posts
7/2/2005 5:35 am

unlistedone I like that about you, that you even when you were small, you always gave to others - your attention, a smile, and a hug. That is good...... It is amazing how good a hug or just a touch from a friend can feel. There is something about the energy exchange between friends, that can last for longer than you might imagine.......

Thanks, friend...


rm_unlistedone 66M
2718 posts
7/15/2005 1:59 am

LL... I can see why the first part of your name is "lovely." It's in the way you think and see things. Don't ever change. It fits you.

rm_lovelyLady 65F
434 posts
7/17/2005 12:50 am

unlistedone.... XOXO {=}

rm_unlistedone 66M
2718 posts
7/17/2005 1:47 am

Just made my day, LL. And it's very early in the mornin'. xoxox

rm_lovelyLady 65F
434 posts
7/31/2005 5:29 am

unlistedone - what'd I do? I'll do it again.........

LOL (lips on lips) XXXXOXXXX LL

rm_unlistedone 66M
2718 posts
8/1/2005 12:07 am

And again and again, I hope. xoxox!! All those hugs and kisses. LOL...(lips on lips) Both sets... for a verrrry lonnnng time.

rm_lovelyLady 65F
434 posts
8/11/2005 8:05 am

This is my fantasy dream........ every night!
XOXOXO {=} lol (I'd love to loose our limits) LL

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