do u feel the same? please give a response!  

rm_lkndllsgrl 38F
86 posts
4/17/2005 9:19 am
do u feel the same? please give a response!

it seems to me that no matter what i never find what i am looking for. i get messages from men all the time but i just cant seem to find one that is interested in what i am. i aint looking for much, just someone to be my "friend". its not like i dont have options in my circle. i just find that i am bored with the norm. i get tired of the "guys" sometimes. most of my friends are guys, and i pretty much know every one they have shared there bed with, and it would probably be better not to know. some of the people that message me are so out of my age range it is almost scary. i know that that comes with the territory, at any rate, scary all the same. i was instant messaging on yahoo with this guy that saw my profile and as soon as he found out i was married he quit talking to me. he didnt bother to find out the story, which is in all reality that my husband will be gone a long time, and we have a certain arraingment. so why does it even matter. i have not lost hope. what i really want is to just happen upon some one. its seems when things are set up that it creates awkward moments. or maybe that is just me. but really how can you be your self when you are so concious of everything and trying to make sure you say the right thing or look the right way. no matter how i try i seem to always wonder....



1/19/2006 5:05 pm

I would really like to talk to you AdultFriendFinder

bjxxx42 61M

4/24/2005 8:29 pm

I definitely feel the same way. But coming from a guy's perspective at least you've got a variety of suitors to pick from. That's what I'm looking for really. To talk to and meet enough people that I finally find a woman I'm really compatible with. Maybe it's a friends with benefits arrangement or maybe it develops into more.
But I've never had women seeking me out. I'm not the kind of guy who's got women throwing themselves at his feet. I've had to be the pursuer, the initiator in every relationship I've had. Dealing with rejection has been one of my weak points. But I'm trying to see those moments as a way of telling me she wasn't right for me. Still it would be so nice for a woman to just happen by my profile, contact me and turn out to be a wonderful LTR. Ahhh I can always dream. Short of that happening I've got to find a way to meet enough women here and offline that makes me finding a perfect match a reality.

rm_lkndllsgrl 38F
67 posts
4/18/2005 2:27 am

First, I would like to say Thanks to those who have responded thus far, I hope to hear more feedback! I would also like to add, that I have had a few long term relationships, and the strange thing is, the man that I have children with is the one man that I was never able to undress in front of, or make love in the day. Unless of course, I/we/more like he, was drunk. Only then was I uninhibited. The other two "long term relationships" I found that my men loved me and my body, for exactly what it was, with the exception of my bitchy days. I wish that all first time meetings when you are trying to hook up were as relaxed and uninhibited as the relationship that has been around for a while! Keep giving more feedback, Please!!


ladyg0215 48F

4/17/2005 12:15 pm

Stop trying to say the right thing or appear to be what you perceive they want. I am up front and honest with everyone I meet on here, and I have had no issues..You will happen upon someone, believe me, there are many on here..explore your options...I've found the older ones really do know what they are doing and make for some very yummy other words, don't limit your options because that in itself is limiting you...

nightstogether 58M

4/17/2005 11:50 am

You mean that you're looking for someone intelligent, thoughtful, considerate, deep and who can also listen, is suitably emotional when the moment is right and understands the difference between a fond cuddle and a quick grope?

This may take some time!

private-intellectual (.de)

1 post
4/17/2005 10:53 am

Spontaneity is an extremely attractive but elusive idea when it comes to meeting someone new,especially on a quest for friendship.It requires risk taking.However,if you find someone willing to take those risks along with you,spontaneity can become an adventurous reality,an arousal like you've never known.Ready?

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