Need help with my profile ...  

rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
7028 posts
5/17/2006 7:10 pm

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5/23/2006 4:55 pm

Need help with my profile ...

Time to sort through the email again. I am starting out with my profile as a point of reference.

My Profile:
I'm active, enjoy watching sports, going for hikes in the woods, fine dining and satin sheets. Love to travel, like to stay in fancy hotels and go shopping!

I have never dated a man younger than I am, or even my own age. I am attracted to men older than I am.

No face pics, deleted immediately. Genitals only, deleted immediately. One line emails, deleted immediately. Outside the local area, deleted immediately. Offers of money, deleted immediately.

My Ideal Person:
I am not looking to meet people right now. I would love to find people to chat with, especially women and POLITE men who can spell. Don't send me network invites unless you have pictures worth looking at and unless you fit 100% of the profile of what I'm looking for. Please!?

I'm looking for intelligent people in the local area. No pain, no filth, no animals, no children, no strange contraptions.

PLEASE NOTE: Standard member. If you're going to write or wink, please provide me with a way to respond. Also, no face pics, no response. I don't mind nude pics, but genitals only is a no no. That's not so hard to understand, is it?

Please read my blog before sending me emails. I delete most of them unread. I don't accept very many network invites, and only from those I know from blogging. I do not respond to winks.

Candidate # 1
I am a singlemale, all I want is a friend - with benfeits if it works out. I am experienced and respectful. in the bedroom, I don't need to talk too much only feel oyu and give you pleasure. no kidding - a man who thrives on a woman's responses.
Ok, you don’t know how to use spell check. Or capital letters. I guess I don’t need to ask it you can read. You say you don't need to talk too much. That's probably good. Your main profile pic of a cock was bad enough, but you really didn’t need to send three more pics of the pathetic little thing just to emphasize the fact that you’re a dickhead.

Candidate # 2
You are spectacular. My god, your derriere is prefect. I am older than 30 and a man of means with free time to share. I would be honored to hear from or talk to E-mail is: xxxxxxx and my cell is: xxxxxxxx.
Ok, I guess this is technically not a one-liner … I’m so glad he has free time to travel. Should I quit my job? Oh, wait, I didn't see an offer to support me, or even to pay for my travel ...

Candidate # 3
Hello MS kelli4u2dew:
The photos you posted with your profile are exquisite. You are a beautiful and a very sexy woman. I would like you to grant my request so I can see the contents of your album.
This is from Mr. Prefer Not To Say. That’s what he answered on everything from sexual orientation to age to location. My answer? If you are too cheap to visit the normal porn sites on the web, then perhaps you should look for one of the women who has 12000 “friends” in her network, not one with 70. Have I ever seen this guy on my blog? Never.

Candidate # 4
> > > Sender: lawyer
> > > To: kelli4u2dew
> > > Date: May 15, 2006 6:45 PM MDT
> > >
> > > Hi Kelli,
> > >
> > > Since I am abit older than you, that would be my first question. Is that a problem? I am a 51 year old tax attorney who resides in xxxxx and also has a place in the mountains. I spend most of my weekends in the mountains as I love skijoring and cross country skiing in the winter and hiking with my Samoyed (dogs) in the summertime. Just did a 5 mile hike at Mt. Falcon yesterday. I am considered to be attractve, and certainy professionally successful. I tend towards the mildly kinky as far as sex is concerned but my primary goals is always complete satisfaction of my partner.
> > >
> > > I will write more if you think the age difference is not a problem for you , it is not for me.
> > >
> > > Thanks for reading this.
> > Sender: kelli4u2dew
> > To: lawyer
> > Date: May 15, 2006 10:26 PM MDT
> >
> > I find it interesting that you passed the bar exam but obviously are unable to read.
> >
> > Exactly what possessed you to write to me? Was it my pictures? Other than that, what made you think that you have any interest in me? You did not read my profile, that is obvious.
> >
> > K
> >

> Sender: lawyer
> To: kelli4u2dew
> Date: May 16, 2006 6:56 PM MDT
> > at least I was smart enough to pass the Bar. You need to work on your attitude.

> > Sender: kelli4u2dew
> > To: lawyer
> > Date: May 16, 2006 10:26 PM MDT

My attitude?
You disregard what I put in my profile, if you bothered to read it at all, and then tell me that MY attitude needs fixing?
Oh, well, another idiot who thinks he's smart because he passed the bar. You and 20 million other losers.
Obviously he didn't read my blog. I thought I said ... oh, yes, I did. Anyone who has read very much of it would know my opinion of lawyers. He may be smart enough to pass the bar, but not smart enough to use a spell checker. Again, capitalization is a mystery. At least he didn't want me to ride his motorcycle.

There are more, some with motorcycles, some that are too young to get into a bar, many who are hundreds of miles away, some in other countries. 481 emails in my filtered mail.

So, I need some suggestions. What do I need to add to my profile? What can I do to at least cut down on the spam I get? HELP!!!

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
5/17/2006 8:33 pm

OK, now this is an off-the-wall idea and the guys are gonna murder me for suggesting it. Am not sure what your self image is, but you have a great body, very attractive, obviously youthful in figure, so I was thinking...why don't you try an experiment and post a different photo for a week or so. A real one, but just a suggestion of what you might look like - a hand, or foot or something like that. It would be interesting to see if it changed the caliber of email. Just a crazy thought. Just temporarily, as your current photo is wonderful. Just as an experiment.

What you write in the profile is almost beside the point. They only read with their other brain, lol.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/17/2006 10:20 pm:
A great suggestion! I tried posting just my eyes for awhile, but several of my lady friends talked me into changing it back (the guys' suggestions didn't matter). I'll have to see what I can come up with.


phangasm2003 107M

5/17/2006 8:58 pm

    Quoting magahee77:
    [quote]So, I need some suggestions. What do I need to add to my profile? What can I do to at least cut down on the spam I get? HELP!!! [/quote]

    Well one thing you can do is change your account settings so that only members that fit what you are looking for can email.

    ie location/age/interests ect.

    That might drastically cut down on some of your mail.
Exactly, especially if you have some requirements that are set in stone ("No one younger than me"), or to get rid of Mr. Prefer Not To Say (How about "Reserve the Right To Change My Mind Without Notice"?)

Now how about a filter that uses the spell checker on the way in - anything that falls below 90% goes into the bucket? Or a capslock checker - my personal favorite. Filters out those who can't find the shift key.

There's an old saying in computer science: "Artifical intelligence is no match for natural stupidity"...

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/17/2006 10:22 pm:
Now how about a filter that uses the spell checker on the way in - anything that falls below 90% goes into the bucket? Or a capslock checker - my personal favorite. Filters out those who can't find the shift key.

Can you do this?

macg76 60G
8 posts
5/17/2006 9:03 pm

Well, perhaps you might consider going with your "eyes" photo as your main introduction. A nice silouhette photo would be attractive. Your profile statements are clear, concise and succinct. That said, it would seem that some can read, just not with comprehension. Even when you write with short words in your profile!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/17/2006 10:25 pm:
"short words" ... god, I can imagine if I dug into the thesaurus ...

rm_macallan4u 48M
968 posts
5/17/2006 9:09 pm

Let's be honest, we're not the brightest of the sexes. We see picture, we like picture, we want picture in real life. Words? What are those? They just get in the way. Sexy picture girl want me, I make her want me. I right her. She want me.

Put a picture of an unattractive woman and the spam will stop... well, maybe not stop, but at least you won't get as much!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/17/2006 10:27 pm:
LOL!!! I know there's a lot of male bashing on this site, but there are so many smart, nice guys in the world. I just need the magic formula that gets them to email me instead of the lawyers!

im_curious_4u 51M

5/17/2006 9:13 pm

Most guys, I said most but not all guys, only look at the pictures. They see the long brown hair, not red, and your firm rear, I assume, and they think "Yea I gotta shot!" Wrong asshats! This is a woman that KNOWS what she wants and it isn't 99.9% of you, or me for that matter, but I digress.

I agree with magahee77 and tighten up your account settings if you already haven't. That is a place to start.

BTW me no loyer.

Good luck Kelli.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/17/2006 10:28 pm:
Not you? I'm not so sure about that ... The proper attitude is a good start ...

ProFotoFreak 46M

5/17/2006 9:18 pm

I agree with macallan4u and others that say the picture is the problem.

If you take your picture off of your profile, the email will dry up considerably.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/17/2006 10:29 pm:
Yeah, but I don't want it to dry up completely ...

jst4fun915 35F

5/17/2006 9:38 pm

Well, I spell it out in big, bold letters for men, and STILL get all kinds of stupid emails. There really is nothing you can say to deter them, even those who can CLEARLY see that they do NOT meet your criteria, because half the time they don't bother to look at anything but your pictures. Other than that, I must say... Girl, you and I are from the same mold, I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who knows what I want!!!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/17/2006 10:31 pm:
Just click on women's profiles from the comments on any blog, and you'll see the same issues. You'd think they'd get tired of jacking off and get a clue!

jst4fun915 35F

5/17/2006 9:42 pm

    Quoting Wordsmith2004:
    You want help cutting down on your mail??

    Get a sex change operation or buy a "Grow Your Own Penis" home kit.

    You should be able to find them at any Walgreens or Wallyworld pharmacy.....right next to the ch-cha-chia pets!


    Seriosuly, there's not much you can do...hell I think I have a pretty spifftastic profile myself, making it clear I'm as straight as a Mormon accountant, yet I STILL get mail from bi and gay guys wanting to "hoover" my "hot young cock"

    Some waitng to PAY ME for the privledge!!

    Craaaazy man, craaaazaaaay!! lol
And don't feel bad, Wordsmith... my husband and a few other VERY STRAIGHT guys I know have gotten similar emails. He and a friend of ours got one from the same guy, some Brit who begged each of them to just lay back and let him suck them off. EWWWWWWWW, what part of STRAIGHT do you not understand???

JuicyBBW1001 56F

5/17/2006 10:02 pm

Kelli I have the cure for your spam. Post my picture on your profile that should keep them away in droves. Seriously though I would consider the use of quick reply and block as you go. Some men just don't get it that just because this is a sex site doesn't mean all the women are "instafuck" babes.


rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/17/2006 10:33 pm:
But what would I do if I liked them and they wanted to meet? I know some very sweet BBW on this site who have the same problems ...

whats4dessert2 50M

5/17/2006 10:51 pm

Hey Kelli:

Wanna know something? Don't change a damn thing. You're a physically beautiful girl. As a result you'll inevitably get spam and fucktards that care about getting inside your pants instead of getting inside you're head.

Don't fret over it. Don't get distressed. Just keep putting it up here for all the people who care really care about how they represent themselves to get some enjoyment out of lol.

As far as your attitude goes...that, more than the butt pics or the boobs is what I absolutely adore about you. For as long as we've been interacting I've maintained that and always will. As a guy that tries his best to be principaled and always do the right thing, I look to you as a model of strength and conviction.

You make me proud to be principaled cause I know you appreciate that sort of thing and, being appreciated by someone such as yourself makes a guy happy to be the person that he is. (sorry if that's baffeling...just got back from too many martinis with friends)

Yuh know I luvs ya kels (and yes...I'm thinkin about coming back and writing some more so yuh may see more of me)

Keep making me smile


puntachueca 107M

5/17/2006 11:45 pm

The first thing I noticed (seeing your picture next to a comment in another blog) was an extremely erotic image. Immediate thought: who is she? So I did look at your profile. And then your blog...

That is a great picture...but it is obviously going to attract a specific sort of interest. I would love to be around a woman who I would wander into the living room and see her on the balcony like that. She would have to enjoy being "upskirted". If you aren't into that, then the suggestions to try different pictures is a good idea.

As far as the geographic is the "world" wide web...
while I would prefer to find a woman within a reasonable driving distance of where I live now, I'd jump on a plane for the right person. Don't discount the possibility the guy you might really want to meet might be an hour or two away by air.

Regarding email...having gotten virtually none I have nothing to offer. But, via my blog I've started up a lot of very cool cyber communications that are fun. My guess is the best chance of meeting someone will evolve from the blog.

Maybe put a mandate in your profile that says "read my blog and put a blog title in the email caption or I won't respond" might help.

As far as the spell check requirement...some of us are still learning how to use the goodies on this site.
And don't dis all lawyers. There is a community called "recovering lawyers" who are working on becoming human beings again.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/17/2006 11:50 pm:
There is a community called "recovering lawyers" who are working on becoming human beings again.

LOL!!! That's the best joke I've heard tonight!

puntachueca 107M

5/18/2006 12:20 am know that there is a serious crisis in medical research. Due to the objections of animal rights activists and people with ethics, research can't be conducted on animals or humans. Thus, something plausibly human, that won't engender any affection from lab workers, or objections from animal rights people is needed. The answer of course is...lawyers.

And...there really is a movement called "recovering lawyers". The problem has been in creating a 12 step program. They all get together and argue. assuming they could agree on 12, as opposed to 8,9,10,11 or 13 steps, the "amends" step is going to be the most difficult. After realizing how much damage and hurt being a lawyer has caused others, how do you apologize to thousands of people?

One day I decided to become a "healing" lawyer. Only do good things that helped and empowered people. Things that made people happy. Ran into a law student, and told him this is what I was going to do. Immediate response was "how can you make any money doing that?"

So I quit practicing law and got a job managing a garbage collection system. The first day on the job I volunteered to go out on a route and throw garbage cans into the truck. One of the workers said "You used to be a lawyer, right?" Answer "yes". He said, "if you can throw garbage from your mouth you can obviously throw real garbage into a truck".

rm_LoyalCumpany 47M
3204 posts
5/18/2006 12:21 am

Look at tit this way, if you didn't get messages from guys like that, how would you be able to distinguish from the guys who are honest, genuine, and just plain nice guys? Makes them/us (I have to throw myself in there, I'd be too intimidated to send you a message anyway) look much better by comparison.

And don't change the pic. Not all of us stare at your butt...

What? Did I say something? Got lost looking at your..... words.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!

rm_acer57 60M
124 posts
5/18/2006 12:45 am

It's an interesting problem.... It seems to be just a exaggerated repetition of what women and men go though in daily life. Men, the more courageous ones, run around asking "Yes?" of the women and women run around saying "No." The difference is on the 'net men can cut and paste and feel emboldened by the computer, thus a woman gets many more 'hits' in cyberspace than meatspace.

In some way or another we are all marketing ourselves on here (yes, some more honestly than others), and marketing counts (unfortunately since some great people market themselves very poorly).

The impression I get from your profile is a lot of "don't"s and that can be off-putting for some nice guys. It makes it appear you have been on here a long time and that you are irritated. It may be true, but have your prohibitions really stopped the idiots? Would the guy you're trying to meet do those things anyway? Male spam seems to be an unfortunate penalty for women online.

Please keep venting your irritation here though... it's always interesting to see how the 'lower half' communicates!

TabithaElectra79 39F

5/18/2006 1:44 am

Urgghhhhh don't get me started on this, it totally pisses me off, especially the guys that send email with the title 'I read your profile' and then go on to bombard me with email addresses, phone numbers, requests to meet....I mean come on, what part of the profile did they read, and why state they have read it when it's pretty obvious they haven't???????!!!


Sorry, rant over, just been getting alot of these lately!

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/19/2006 6:26 am:
Exactly! The ones that really get me is "i red ur blog an i want to fuck u". Uh ... you mean you looked at the pics of the ladies who commented on my blog?


5/18/2006 2:31 am

I was almost going to whine about barely ever getting any email but after reading all this I've decided that I might actually be lucky that I don't get much.

I'd suggest maybe trying out a belly button picture for a bit and see what happens with that.


JazzDlight 61F

5/18/2006 3:26 am

I understand how you feel Kelli, have the same problem myself. I really don't think men read our profiles or only read/see what they want to. Hugs, Jazz

JuicyBBW1001 56F

5/18/2006 3:36 am

Hmmmmm good question Kelli. I have met some awesome men on this site. But I am very pickie about my dickie. So they have to pass the juicy test before I will even meet them. From the looks of your replies you have the juicy test down to a science.


RevJoseyWales 70M/67F
14393 posts
5/18/2006 4:07 am

Point one. There is NO such thing as a lawyer who is also human. They are ALL lower case demons.

Don't change a thing about your profile. Look at all the fun you can have dissing these assholes. ESPECIALLY the lawyers. Gawd what I wouldn't give for some idiot mail to play with. Look at it this way, on dull days you still have plenty to blog about. You probably have a backlog of material. The rest of us have to WORK to find shit to post.

Remember, closed minds and idiots make WONDERFUL playtoys. Go have fun. Uncle Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

rm_skyeone2 65M/46F
7186 posts
5/18/2006 5:02 am

Glad I don't have that problem, quite frankly though, I don't get any e-mail. But to be fair I do believe it's because I don't have any pics on there. If this is what a pic does for a person, I'm quite glad to not have any!

Sorry I don't have any suggestions for you though.


Blessed Be

Cowboy_Deluxe 39M

5/18/2006 5:46 am

Okay, what if you put, Hey batter, batter, batter swing, batter, batter, batter, batter swing! I'm a damn good pitcher and I'll strike you out. No..this and that (rules)

Ohh and put down as well, that you are extremely attracted to Bronco fans..

I like that idea anyways.

sillyperv 56M

5/18/2006 8:32 am

Well Kelli, for most men it's "PROFILE! I DON'T READ NO STEENKIN PROFILE". It's not that we're obnoxious particularly, it's just that men are optimists, even the most insecure male thinks "PROFILE!? I DON'T READ NO STEENKIN PROFILE!" And this is not, generally, a bad thing. Our optimisim has gotten us to the moon. Of course, it's also caused some to mutilate their genitals in ill advised attempts at pleasure with a blender, optimistically thinking that spinning liquids would - well, you know.

Now some might call this stupidity and our optimism a genetic flaw but really, really when you think about it, um, HOW THE FUCK DID WE INSTITUTE A PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY AND HOW DID YOU LET US GET AWAY WITH IT?

Anyway, could I give your bum a hickie? What? It could happen.

And I'll show you mine, if you show me yours. FACE! DUH! You have to go first cause I'm a lowly standard.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/18/2006 5:31 pm:
I don't know why we let you do things like that ... obviously some of our ancestors weren't any brighter on the female side than on the male side ...

The chances of giving me a hickie on my bum are probably significantly higher than those of my showing my face on this site, however. Keep up the optimism!

SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
5/18/2006 8:51 am

From all those bad e-mails, how many good ones do you get?
There are always going to be guys that don't read. They are playing the numbers game. Might also be new to the site and really not with the program yet.

The guys who think reading the blog to find out about you is too much work certainly isn't worth your time.

I'm not sure what you should put. It seems to be a chronic problem. You have put in what you want and what you don't want. You have put in your interests.

A lot of guys probably are focusing in on your handle and your picture and disregarding the profile for the most part. Maybe less is more. Short and sweet on the requirements.

Change the negatives into positives. No face pics, deleted immediately. A face picture is required. Not sure if that helps get the message across better but I thought I'd throw it out as a suggestion.

Hopefully on of the bloggers who is a professional writer can help. Me, I'm more of a technical person.
Good luck.

OK, only one spelling error on the first shot. I'm getting better. lol. No help for grammar I'm afraid.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/18/2006 8:59 am:
About 1 in 20 is interesting enough to read and respond. About half of that is from people I know, or people I recognize from the blogs. Only 1 in 40 actually makes it through the filters and lands in my regular in box.

Thinking positive ... maybe ... Thanks.

JudeL5 47M  
1596 posts
5/18/2006 1:49 pm

...what to change in your profile?... nothing... because anyone who doesn't get it, isn't going to get it if you say the same thing a different way

...and Wordsmith's advice is one SURE way to reduce your email... become a guy

Other than that, use as many of the auto filtering features that AdultFriendFinder gives you (Cupid settings etc.)

... and I don't think Mr. Lawyer had a chance in hell with you anyway

new2here05 51M

5/18/2006 3:26 pm

Kelli -
You do know you are quite attractive...! So naturally you should expect red-blooded males (and females, zombies, etc) to write you. We write you even if we know we are not in your ‘league’ or don’t exactly match your criteria - just for the off chance you might find a place in your heart to respond positively (or click the ‘accept’ button by mistake).

Think back to your high-school days... Imagine if a ‘geek’ asked a Cheerleader on a date... well the 'geeks' have grown up and discovered the internet. With e-mail and the like, society has become impersonal in our communications. Once hard / fast societal boundaries now get blurred or broken outright. Some think this change is good... Others don't. We just need to be a little more flexible.

What I am trying to say is us ‘geeks’ feel it is okay to e-mail the cheerleaders. I am sorry your e-mail box is flooded… but it really seems like a small price to pay for beauty and popularity…?

As I just started following your blog with your posting of you very personal story ‒ btw, thanks for sharing - I cannot imagine how hard that was for you. You can say I don't know you at all... So my comments might be completely off-base.

Oh ‒ I am NOT a lawyer... but I think you were a little too hard on the poor chap. He seemed sincere in his first e-mail (I took it he thought he might be too old for you). Heresy, I know. Go ahead ‒ I await your punishment. Banish me...

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/18/2006 5:38 pm:
Having been a geek/nerd/freak/unpopular-4-eyed-flat-chested-pear-shaped girl in high school, I know that we all should grow up. However, not having any manners is definitely not the way to approach 90% plus of the women on here (there's no accounting for some people's tastes).

I get a fair number of emails that are polite, articulate, and interesting from guys who are hopeful in spite of not meeting my criteria. You don't see them posted on my blog or any other woman's. I answer quite a few of them, thank them for writing, and in some cases we might start chatting.

But if someone has read my blog, not just looked at the pictures, they would know that I don't date bikers and lawyers. No exceptions. So ...

rm_smosmof2 68M
3240 posts
5/18/2006 4:47 pm

Ooops. I may be just lucky you didn't jetison my recent email. I've been doing so much blogging and webcamming lately that I've started not using caps and descending to "shortspeak". I've even caught myself doing it in live conversations. Anything to cut down on the number of keystrokes, and therefore, the amount of backspacing I must do to complete a thought.

And, while I've been blogging for a while, and we do run in some of the same circles, I'm not entirely sure that there has been that much direct communication.

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/18/2006 5:41 pm:
See above ... and if you notice the part of my profile that says "if I know you from my blog" ... I recognized your pic immediately, and answered politely, just as you've always been polite to me. Even if you do eat those ugly green things ...

rm_LovelyKgrl 39F

5/18/2006 7:51 pm

This cracks me up. It's so obvious that they don't read the profile! My old account (SilkenKiera) it stated very bluntly in bold letters that I AM MARRIED, AND I AM NOT LOOKING. Yet, every figgin day..."Do you want to meet me somewhere? I'll blow your mind." yeah, OK

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/18/2006 10:32 pm:
Check your email.

im_curious_4u 51M

5/18/2006 8:38 pm

kelli4u2dew replies on 5/18/2006 12:28 am:
Not you? I'm not so sure about that ... The proper attitude is a good start ...

Oh I have a good attitude Kelli. The only reason I'm discounting myself is that I'm not in your area. You know because otherwise I'm sure you'd be all over me. LOL

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/18/2006 10:30 pm:
LOL!!! and so humble tooooo!!!!!

rm_smosmof2 68M
3240 posts
5/18/2006 11:14 pm

Anyone who thinks we're living in a patriarchal society isn't paying enough attention. It's all set up so that it looks like the men in charge, but all they do is run around rattling sabre and screwing everything up. The society itself is run by the women. You just have to distinguish between managing society and playing politics. Men (mostly) play politics, and we've all seen how much constructive stuff that ever accomplishes... (What a joke!)

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
5/19/2006 1:03 am


I'm sad to say that the only thing that I know works is if you post something to the effect that NGs_lady has in her profile where it says that I will be reviewing her email and having the final say on whether or not she responds....she also has something similar to that on her auto reply.

Sorry, my friend....that's all the advice I can offer...

btw...I enjoyed our chat the other night....nice to have an intelletual discussion every now and then...very nice...

NG61...fading back into the shadows....

rm_kelli4u2dew replies on 5/19/2006 6:20 am:
Well, I don't want to totally turn everyone off from writing me ... But I don't have "looking for men" as one of my selections ...

_Adriane_ 48M

5/19/2006 5:49 am

Wahine had a great choice! I know what you look like otherwise, that is the benefit of having you as a close friend, and I cherish you greatly!

The Lawyer, older as he says, is either lacking in his Viagra supply, or needs new glasses, or both.

I wanna see your belly! Mmmmm, yummy!(the eye thingy wont work either, simply because I am sure there are others like me that have an eye fetish! )

GleesFlakyShawl 51M
1620 posts
5/19/2006 10:15 am

kelli u might want to ask this friendly site to develo a custom-made filter just for you. And then you can set it up for only accepting bloggers emails......

new2here05 51M

5/19/2006 5:30 pm

Kelli -
Wow - can't imagine you as a 4-eyed-flat-chested-pear-shaped girl...! lol

I'm glad you entertain polite, articulate, and interesting e-mails. I got the misimpression you didn't.


blackleather2006 52M/50F

5/19/2006 5:33 pm

To quote puntachueca (although I won't since his response was so long...) I agreed with his first paragrah. I too saw your pic in another blog and my first reaction was "Hello!" and "Wow!" - OK so maybe being bi has turned part of my mind into the horny thoughts of the male species. Nevertheless, you have a great body and I really don't have any suggestions for you. Men are men (and some women think like I just wanted to post in your blog and hope that someday I might send you an email and you might respond...LOL I am just teasing! I loved your profile and your blog! Keep your standards high and DO NOT settle! The right man is out there for you, but sometimes we need to dig through a lot of dirt to find that one gold nugget!


PS If only I lived closer... my parents still live in southern CO so if I come to visit in June can we play? (just teasin again)

rm_pleasuresex3 53M
520 posts
5/20/2006 2:12 pm

I really don't think there's anything you can do about it, keli, short of leaving the site.

It comes with the territory. The man/woman ratio of this site ensures that there's a flood of e-mails coming in the women's direction, and a trickle back in the men's.

The people at AdultFriendFinder can do something (they can do lots of things, I'm sure). Here's a suggestion:

The AdultFriendFinder people can post a diclaimer for prospective male members (is that a pun?) to read (sic) before they are allowed to join. It could go something like this,

"Because of the large amount of idiotic e-mails the women on this site receive, we have deemed it necessary that you take the reading and writing test you see below.

As you can see, you have to read an imaginary woman's profile and then respond to it. If you can show that you have read and understood the profile by responding with an e-mail that is polite and adequately literate, we will give you the green light.

If not, we WON'T accept your offers of money and you will NOT be able to join this friendly site".

Fat chance.


As for your (and others) attitude towards lawyers, can I assume that Ed McBain was correct when he wrote, "He was a lawyer, and therefore subject to a deep-seated American animosity for the legal profession". (the quote is from the book, "There Was A Little Girl")

rm_pleasuresex3 53M
520 posts
5/20/2006 2:24 pm

I have no idea why there's a "winky face" at the end, must have hit the wrong key or something. It was not intended.

MaggiesWishes 61F

5/20/2006 9:07 pm

For a good laugh, just read my profile
It sures keeps the men away .... mailbox 0 Go Figure?

warm huggies 2ya Sis

"there's a fool born every minute and most of them are verified once they open their mouth" yea, I like that much better.

ironman2769 56M  
12794 posts
5/23/2006 3:15 pm


I was amused by this post...the sarcasm for most is well deserved. I don't think you need to really adjust your profile per say. What most women here don't realize is that its truly a numbers game here.

Fact is that men outnumber women by a huge ratio. So its going to cause several problems. You will always find large amount of emails in your box. Most of them are going to be worthless. th reason is that guys become frustrated and just begin emailing anyone...everyone.

I have to say your pic on your profile is nice expression of how you feel. The truth is also attracts more men.

How to slow down the flood of emails...or should I say improve the quality?

Keep your pic on your blog...the interested will see it. I would not load a pic on your profile. Your a very attractive woman...just let the truly interested peek.

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