Damn scary situation  

rm_jynxgurl 31F
175 posts
12/29/2005 5:13 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Damn scary situation

I have a problem with a guy one of my closest friends is dating and i think she should have a problem too!!

First a history lesson, my friend is 6 feet tall and used to only weigh 125 pounds, thats 5 pounds underweight for someone her height. She is skinny as hell!! and this guy she is going out with has said to her face that she is not THIN enough for him!!!

Another little history lesson, he is a BILLIONARE, so according to my friend, he is used to dating really skinny supermodels, and hanging around this superthin crowd with him is making her feel fat.

For awhile now she has been dieting and eating hardly anything and only weighs 118 pounds, 12 pounds underweight for her height (thats just the last time we worked out together and weighed ourselves, which was over a month ago). and she continues to diet cuz HE still thinks she isnt thin enough!!! I feel like killing this guy!! What the hell is his problem?!

What is my friends problem? she is 18, he is 27, 9 years older than her and only satisfactory in the looks department, even worse compared to the totally gorgeous guys she used to go out with that absolutley adored her! i used to get soo damn jealous, whenever she was around no guy would ever even look in my direction!!

According to her she really doesn't like this guy that much, but he is a billionare and all those zeros are getting to her head i guess. There is major talk of them getting married, but I am really worried about my friends future...

This guy is a total ASS, what kind of life will she have with him? I am especially worried on how far she is going to take this dieting thing, and it wont get any better till she dumps this guy, marrying him will probably be a major aggravation of the problem.

I do NOT want to lose my friend... She is my ONLY close female friend and has been my best friend for 5 years, all through highschool (even if i suffered alot from her hogging all the guys attention). I really do not know what to do, I have mentioned how worried I am about her but she just brushes it off... I just feel lost, I am losing my best friend and there is not a thing I can do about it...

(ps, who the hell thinks the image here could ever consider being seen as attractive? its disgusting, but my friend is actually envious, yep she is definatly anorexic if she thinks this is a good pic *shudder* so gross, hope to god she doesn't turn into this...)

frell1975 42M

12/29/2005 6:02 pm

Wow, I can definitely see the problem your having. I think the trouble is that they are both playing games with each other. The guy is rich, so unfortunately that brings delusions of power. I'm sure he thinks he can control anyone if he throws enough money at them. Your friend is totally engrossed with that money, so much so that she's willing to take risks with her body to keep it. Perhaps she's looking to divorce pretty quickly after marriage to gain a nice settlement and start eating again. The only thing you can do, I think, is be there for her support. Don't give up the fight...keep on telling her that you are worried she's damaging herself and only setting herself up for disaster. The dude is always going to be an ass, let her know that there will be no changing him. She either bows to his every whim, or he's going to control some other girl...to him, your friend is just as expendable as his cash. Just remind her that you have and always will be her friend...through thick and thin...(sorry, really bad pun intended...)
And that photo? Major Ewwww...who wants a skeleton draped in skin? She's gotta wear heavy shoes in windstorms...
At any rate, I hope things do turn out well for you and your friend...maybe you guys can get new cars out of it.

Nymphellina 46F

12/29/2005 6:19 pm

Actually I think that picture is "gross" too, though I must admit I am fascinated by the fashion world and the super models, the model in this picture is too skinny, she looks like she's been in a famine or something, I say she should eat some pasta and look healthier.

Brainy42 54M

12/30/2005 7:18 am

What pisses me off is that this prick is essentially prostituting her on the hint that he might pay off. He's buying her without spending any cash. Perhaps a smart strategy in the business world, but certain immoral, disgusting and absolutlely abhorent when applied to human beings.

Maybe you might suggest that she's prostituting herself in the worst way.. with her life. I'd have far more respect for her if she just ate something and charged the prick a thousand per lay.

It might be interesting to see his reaction if she did demand money...

If he goes for it then she would know how much he thinks she's worth. If he gets angry and calls her a cheap whore then she can simply negotiate the price up to find how just much he really does value her in a very tangible way.

A loving boyfriend would realize there's a problem, take her in his arms and stick some food in her mouth.

And yes the photo is disturbing. I like a little more meat with me bones... something like Nymphellina (yum yum!)

tillerbabe 57F

12/30/2005 10:58 pm

Believe it or not..before I was a bodybuilder and a Firefighter, I was an aneorexic dancer - ballet, jazz, tap. It come down to beign a self esteem "control" issue. It's going to be really hard to help her if she can't see the danger in what she is doing to herself. i'm hoping for your friend's sake, that the guy is so much of an "ASS" that he dumps her.
Have you told her exactly how you feel and how much her friendship means to you? I'll be thinkin' 'bout you guys...continue to be there for her.
AS far as the pic? GROSS!!! Can you imagine having all those bones poking into her boyfriend? OUCH!

jadedbabe78 107F

1/1/2006 10:30 pm

Before I had kids---I was 15 lbs underweight for my height. I'm 5'8" and weighed 105lbs on a good day. No curves, nothing. I'll take my weight and curves I have no over what I used to be! I had a fast metabolism though, mine had nothing to do with starving myself. Still sucked though since people assumed I was anorexic.

And as for your friends, she needs to dump his ass. Age really isn't an issue for me, but he sounds like a major asshole who needs to get himself in check. Money isn't everything, your friend needs to realize that.

rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
1/2/2006 8:39 pm

Honey, if you want to save your friend, you're going to have to get her into professional counseling. Anorexia doesn't fix itself, and dumping the guy won't help. If you can talk to her mom, do it. If not, then slip a word to someone else who might have influence on her. Your talking hasn't helped, right? Someone else needs to take a crack at it. And telling her the guy is the problem won't help. Forget him, concentrate on her.

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