Advice - being a strong woman?  

rm_jiinxxss 58F
113 posts
4/2/2006 7:57 pm

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5/16/2006 3:23 am

Advice - being a strong woman?

Hey all - I wanted to share with you a moment of my day - and to ask for advice from you - so if that means being flamed as well - so be it - I posted - or rather, I shared with you (I like that way of stating I brought to you - my AdultFriendFinder family, a glimpse into my life) the fact that I had a date this weekend - a guy that I met at work - many commonalities - and quite an enjoyable date - walking and talking through the Mall of America and then a lunch - a plan to meet again - I admit, I was excited about it - until today - and right now I sit here fighting the urge to shove anything in my mouth because I don't understand what happened - He called me today - and expressed how much he too, enjoyed our date - and enjoyed meeting me outside of work - how nice - and then he tells me that he can't see me again ... because "I'm too strong of a woman" .... it's like "what the hell...." Is being strong .. one that stands up for herself....is independent and self sufficient - I fight for what I believe in - especially when it comes to matters of the heart - for those that are close enough to me that if wronged - I want to right that wrong and am willing to stand up to whatever adversity may come my way.... Is being strong being able to take life by the horns and go forward handling what may come my way.....good and bad.... Is being strong one that takes control of their life - to make a choice (regardless of how drastic that choice may be) to become healthy again - this is something that he mentioned - that the level of energy that I have - and the fact that I am becoming an "attractive woman" he wouldn't be able to keep up with me???? What the hell kind of excuse is that? I am sitting here feeling a little depressed - a bit defeated....and find myself suddenly feeling a bit .... like why me.....I want a relationship - yet at the same time and in the same sentence ... I refuse to settle for just "anything" Suddenly I realized - one of those moments where it can honestly turn into a time when in the past I would revert to food - for comfort.....and I refuse to do it....it would certainly mean sabotage...of everything that I have worked for to this point... I have done things recently - where I sincerely looked into the mirror and liked what I saw....and therefore, did things to "feel even better".....highlights, nails, etc. So then, why am I feeling like this - I HATE rejection.....what is wrong with me...am I really that bad of a person....why would he say something like this....ackkkkkkk.....advice please....need help here...


cedarswamp444 42M

4/4/2006 9:54 pm

Just keep true to yourself. Instead of looking it as rejection, look it as a positive step towards finding the right one..weeding out the wrong ones. If you can handle this you become a little stronger and confident and it will show on your persona and correspondence. Luckily, you don't have a lot of time invested in him. Being strong, as you put it, is something to put before your next potential before the actual meeting. Personally, I and alot of other guys, I think, like strong women. They're sexier.


rm_daveman45nz 57M
42 posts
5/6/2006 2:36 am

The problem hun is with him NOT you.
I think him saying that is a reflection of his problems, not yours.

Stay true, to yourself,

You ARE OK.


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