why I can't give up sex...  

rm_jdaniels8 33M
3 posts
4/26/2005 3:48 pm

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why I can't give up sex...

well this is the long overdue second installment of such a popular blog (lol). I'm hoping that the Title of this post might attract many of y'all to read and to post your own comments.

I'm at the point in my life where I'm starting to make decisions in life so I can get where I want to get. For the past 11 months, I have had a fuck friend (we'll call her Angie). Naturally, she was my 1st and I haven't been able to give her up. At first, I felt I needed to redeem myself for terrible performances in bed (never being able to last more than 2-3 minutes). When I finally got the hang of things, I constantly wanted to "improve" and pleasure her more. Now, we're finally at a point where sex is amazing for both of us. I just slept with her Saturday and she orgasmed 5 times.

But (yes there's a but), she is not the "one" for me. I know it. The thing is, she is confident that I am everything she wants. Since the beginning, I have told her that I didn't want emotions to get involved so I have been treating it like a friendship. But she's seriously fallen for me and I don't know what to do anymore.

The sex is so amazing and everytime I'm with her, I obviously want to have it. Since she loves it, she never refuses it.

So confused,

rm_BigDnLady 44M/42F
1140 posts
4/26/2005 4:07 pm

First of all, you have said she is a "fuck friend", have you discussed the emotional ties again with her since the first discussion? If you don't think she is the one I for one say you need to explain that to her, but be prepared if she decides to "cut you off"!! I truly wish you and her the best of luck!!


sweethoney616 48F
1 post
4/26/2005 5:19 pm

hi im sweethoney616 it is best to tell her how you feel that way if you wont to look further you can belive me theres a big wide world out there an its yours for the takeing you will find plenty of fuck mates out there that wont no strings good luck frm sweethoney616...nz

wetnwantingmore 47F
1 post
4/26/2005 5:27 pm


It sounds to me that you have a great deal of respect for this woman. If you can't reciprocate those emotional feelings that she has for you, you need to come to terms with the fact that your only choice is to cut her loose. Remember, in the big scheme of things, sex is just that, just sex. You owe it to "Angie" to treat her with respect and be honest with her. Although it's hard to give up great sex, you will thank yourself someday because you'll remember that you did the right thing.


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