The aging virgin gets flustered.  

rm_jaguar6961 56M
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6/4/2006 10:27 pm

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6/6/2006 8:26 pm

The aging virgin gets flustered.

I am creating this blog as a way to see if anyone else is in my predicament. I am a single parent who took over the raising of his children after the death of my Ex. Because of all the heavy load that comes with doing the right thing, I have not had sex in almost 10 years. I joined this group late one night on a lark. Man does time go by fast when you are Mr.Mom! It seems like it's only been a few years, but it will soon be a decade. After reading some of the other blogs on here, that fact is even more mind boggling. Seems like 15 minutes is about all some require before they look again.

Anyway it seems that I have lost all the skills I had in the dating game. Example: The other day I had to take child #1 to the doctor. Before I knew it, one of the receptionists was flirting with me. I was so into getting the kid registered on time and planning what I had to get done over the weekend that I totally missed the boat, again... She was hot too. Can you say STUPID? I thought you could.

My innate clumsiness is now right back at Seventh Grade Highschool level. It's really retarded and sad. The former Mr. Cool of the 1980's is now a total choke. I can't even open a conversation without stuttering or mentioning ny entire family battle history in 30 seconds. I'm battle scarred with blue balls and so horny at night lately I can't sleep. At first I was able to keep my sensual side on ice for all the years I had to to get through the divorce with my scrotum intact. That seemed to drag on forever. Then BANG! To keep it up after being called into Yea old family doctors office and being told to plan ahead buddy, because soon you will be the only parent, just seemed to make my sensually frozen state the norm. "I had to do the right thing." I kept that chant up and still do, when confronted with my sometimes odd situation. Now I get the begrudging respect of others on occasion and I do appreciate it. But now that my war is over, why is getting up to bat, back in the saddle, back on the bike, so HARD?


toph429 35M
3 posts
6/4/2006 11:04 pm

I don't have the same amount of time(or even close) out of the game as you do but I absolutely know what you mean.

For example I ran into a old girlfriend of mine and we talked most of the evening. I caught a few passes in her words and I let them pass unintentionally. I was surprised and at the same time did not know if I was just taking them as something else. Over analyzing I guess.

I wish you luck. It IS hard.


rm_jaguar6961 56M

6/6/2006 7:55 pm

Thanks. Any more guys/gals stuck in park and wanting to vent? Come on Down!


rm_jaguar6961 56M

6/6/2006 8:26 pm

OK here is part Deux: What is funny and very odd about being in my predicament is that, after you finally decide that your libido is not dead, just rusty, that you, ahem, get distracted at the worst times. Like today, I'm late getting one kid to school. (Big kid had finals and kept me up late helping her study.) I had a mild run in with a faculty member. While she is expressing her concerns to me over my kids end of school attitude, I'm distracted by the fact that this teacher has changed her hair, is now wearing contacts and is starting to look good, almost smell good, to me. All the while she is calmly venting about my kid to me, It's like her voice just went into a tunnel or something! So then all I could do was shrug my shoulders and say something like "Oh it'll work out." and walk away. Right now I have almost no clue what she said after the second sentence! OMG! This is a woman who I know is a barracuda! I was so stunned at my own reaction that I had to question my sanity at that moment. I just walked back to my car, turned the key, cranked Led Zeppelin up to 11 and after the 20 mile commute to work, I felt normal again. I find that happening a lot lately. It's like since spring sprung something also sprung in my head and my hormones are churning! WDF? I'm doing absent minded girl watching like a 17 year old, and I'm a little freaked out by it. Classic midlife crisis? Not sure what a midlife crisis is, but if anyone deserves one I do! Lol. It is slightly reassuring to watch the other guys my age at work. Sometimes I catch one doing the same thing I did. That makes me think I'm not becoming a loon. You know you got it bad when you find yourself looking for the positive attributes in anything female from 16 to 50, on an almost subconscious level. I'm no dog, but I worry about becoming one. I worry about becoming the stereotypical dirty old man, ala Jethro Tull's "Aqualung" protagonist: The old fart sitting in the park watching for panties and remembering his glory days long past. Obviously not having had any for 50 years. The desire for which having driven him both mad and afraid of human contact.

Stay tuned for more.....


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