rm_jacina_n 44F
187 posts
8/12/2006 12:11 am

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9/12/2009 1:13 pm


Tolerance is a great thing and something W/we all should practice, just because someones interest in the BDSM lifestyle is not the same as O/ours doesn't make it wrong or less valid than O/our own.

This one tries her hardest to be tolerant of others and girl has been judged far to many times for her to judge others.

For A/any that don't know this one is kajira which means she is a Gorean slave, girls years going to the basement in AdultFriendFinder have loosened up her mannerisms somewhat but this one is still far more formal than alot of others...... its this formality that seems to be a bone of contention to some.

This one was taught that all Dom/mes were to be referred to as Sir or Ma'am until such time as they proved themselves unworthy of respect then girl was to ignore them and/or avoid them, her One would be referred to as Master.

However this seems to be were the problems start, girl has been informed by several people over the past year that her addressing Dom/mes as Sir or Ma'am is not right, girl has even had one take offense to it......why???

This one doesn't comment on the way others speak so why does one little word in a sentence cause offence to some?

In this enlightened time of tolerance why do some have no tolerance for so small a thing?

Why is girl made to feel ashamed of the way she is to appease others and why should she be made to change?

BadAssBlonde1 58F
4989 posts
8/29/2006 10:35 pm


Be yourself. I am unsure as to what is going on about the judging issue. However if you feel comfortable with this, as I know you do; and the Dom/me does not have a problem with it; what is the problem here ? Perhaps others have a different view-point, that is natural. Tolerance is practiced in the real world. Those that do not nor have not lived real time do not understand such. The way you conduct yourself in a chat room is what I go by to see if I want to meet or speak with the person further than just a mere acquaintance.

Do not let anyone make you feel ashamed of who you are. Who is making you change? That can't be done unless you consent to it. I have know only 4 (true) kajira's in my life. Cuummdropbeing one of them. It is apparent that the two of you have been well trained. It shows! Action does speak and read to you. I look forward to October in KY. Perhaps someone should write a blog about that

A flower for you from my garden.

Bright Blessings,
Lady Hunter

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009

Suicidia 51F

8/30/2006 2:04 pm

You are not only a kajira sis, you are an English kajira and, as such, your manners are traditional. Don't take it to heart when anyone gets "offended" by your greeting, just hold your head up and chant your mantra...."I am British, I am special, I could give a shit!" *lol*

rm_Melciber 63M
214 posts
8/30/2006 2:55 pm

Empty vessels make most noise, jacina.
They are just the objectionable rattle of the envious.
Those without foundation grating against the basement floor looking for support.

If someone demands an explaination of your use of honorifics, know that your motives are not negotiable: If a "Dom/me" belittles your usage - they only undermine "T"hemselves . . .
anyone else questions "why do you say "Sir" or "Ma´am" . . .", take a deep breath and be positive in your response.

I have never asked you to call me "Sir" - but would not ask you to stop - - - from you, I like to be called Sir and hope that I never place myself in such a position as to have you drop it.

Others can do what they like.

Fallen Angel, One Melciber.

lily_of_hmslf_ 46F

9/7/2006 3:37 pm

i completely respect your right to address anyone you wish as Sir or Ma'am! do i do things that way? no...because hmslf requires something different of me. do i condemn you because we are of different disciplines? of course not! (and i wont hold it against you that youre British,

i do, i must admit, have a problem with those who address EVERYONE as Sir or Ma'am indiscrimately, with no real understanding of the meaning. they are usually the ones who turn right around and disrespect "so-and-so Sir" in the very next post! *grin* but you do it with understanding and honesty, and that makes all the difference!



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