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LustyTaurus 49M
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6/16/2006 10:04 am

I think names are very important and can affect our attraction to someone, at least at the start...which is odd, because we normally don't choose them.

vrec_dawn 41M

6/16/2006 3:57 pm

"Is cutting people off or opening up more based on name association fair or logical? No. However, we don't always move in rational circles within our own psychology."

From a black-box standpoint, I'd agree with you. But we know so much more than that today. We know that the brain maps pathways in relation to one another. So we know that the association is a physical closeness of the nodes mapped along a shared pathway, and that the memories of the past are always going to be right there at the tip of the new information, flying in your face even when you don't want them. Is it fair to the person who's name has been spoiled by our experiences? No. But it is logical and rational once you take into account the mechanics of the medium involved. Such are the joys of organics.

It's still disappointing, but at least it's not irrational. It's just unfortunate. All you can do is shrug and say, "oh well."

Of course if it were important we could build on that and outweigh the bad by building new good. In theory that might work. **shrug** But the real question is would it be worth the effort? There are plenty of fish in the sea after all.

Anywho, that's my two cents. So really, you don't have to beat yourself up over it. It's a flaw in the design of the mechanics, not a flaw in your personality. It's just the way brains work.

And good luck with the positive resonance 'hang out' tonight. May your combined wave be greater than the sum of your parts. Or something like that...

SexDriven75 42M

6/17/2006 10:22 am

I cannot believe you pussies are backing her up on this, of course it's irrational! Ridiculous! Proposterous! Not going out with someone because of their name? You gotta be f**king kidding me. I'd hate to think that it'd be possible to be blacklisted by something so petty.

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