You're Such A Man  

rm_hotmamaNcols 40F
460 posts
4/19/2006 4:40 pm

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4/21/2006 7:28 am

You're Such A Man

I don't consider myself to be weird or abnormal. Actually, I think I am quite normal in the aspects of personality and behavior. So why are people telling me "You're such a man"??!!?? What does that mean anyway? With such a statement, I am starting to grow a complex!

I can tell you a couple of instances when I was told "You're a man minus the penis".

Once, it was after I popped the hood of a friends car to see if her serpentine belt snapped. I don't know about you, but I think every one should know basic car maintenance and troubleshooting. And given it's a minor repair and I don't have an important appointment, I take care of it myself.

Another time, was after I told a friend that I didn't want to hear about her problems when she had no intention of listening to me. What is so wrong with that? Was that her way of saying I was being insensitive? Was I supposed to repeat the "He's a piece of shit" speech to see her go back to him and cry to me the following week about another fight?

Another time, was when I let a stranger have it in the middle of the grocery store for saying something vulgar to me within earshot of my kids. Hey. The way I see, if you harass a woman while her children are present, you are asking for it! A forced apology by means of a thumb grip is necessary punishment for lack of respect and decorum.

I even had an ex-FB tell me that too! If you've read my blog, then you probably know that after sex, I like to rush off to a shower and BAIL. Sorry to not "cuddle" but sometimes love juice + both PH's of sweat + saliva = NASTY MESS. There's nothing wrong with hygiene. I also have a billion things to do to prepare for the following day, and if it's nothing more than a sexual relationship, I'm certainly not going to act as if it is more and invade space.

So, in your opinion, DO I behave like a man?

slimcountryboy2 39M
46 posts
4/19/2006 4:58 pm

You have a certain approach to things.... You may have some extra hormones that are more prominent in men . There's nothing wrong with that... It is likely to make you, well, maybe the way you are... Maybe more "agressive" then other females... For example... That might explain why you're not usually a "cuddle" type person after sex.... You also have a good sex drive, correct? .... You also know what you want... Alot of women, and men , do not know what they want.... I'm usually one of them...

No, you dont behave like a man.

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/19/2006 8:38 pm:
OK, OK... I have the prowess and bedside manner of a typical male, I have a take charge, get it done attitude...I am still feminine though

Jeepidiot 43M

4/19/2006 5:28 pm

I hate to say it but yeah I think you probably do a bit. But that's okay because I probably behave more like a woman. Can I be your bitch? Okay that was a joke. I ain't a bitch to anybody.

I don't care for all girly girls who are afraid of getting dirty sometimes or getting their hair mussed up. I like a girl that can take care of herself and has a clue about real life. Not sure why I think it's a man thing, but I love a woman that can drive a stick shift.

On the other hand though, I don't want a girl that's all guy. I want to be the one you come to when you need a jar opened or the dishwasher fixed(my fix is to hand you an apron and dish rag and say get to work *duck*).

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/19/2006 5:50 pm:
I invite you to read You Will Adore Me. Maybe my likes are too, similar????

SlowPlayin 51M

4/19/2006 7:49 pm

I don't know ... why don't you come over and we'll knock back a couple of beers and play game of poker while we watch a UFC fight. I should be able to tell if you behave like a guy after an hour or two.


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/19/2006 8:35 pm:
I occasionally drink beer, I play poker, and I watch UFC. But I don't have the same mannerisms as a ... I don't think I do anyway..I mean I cross my legs when I sit, with perfect posture BTW, and I dress like a woman..

*said in the valley girl voice*

Jeepidiot 43M

4/19/2006 8:08 pm

Yeah I like some of those things on the list, but some of the things I would want to do for a woman. I think I'd probably be a tad bit insulted also if a woman just screwed me then left. Damn I'm a woman. I might as well just hand in my "Man Card".

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/19/2006 8:40 pm:
Keep your "Man Card" I'll just endorse it with a "post sex sensitivity" stamp. Me on the other hand, my woman card is getting ripped from my hands as I type!!!

im_your_man77 40M
961 posts
4/20/2006 1:02 am

Some people need to wake up and smell the roses, you are all woman all be it with a modern day attitude. Some people don't think that their shit stinks and need to be told it as it is and if they don't like it, not your problem. If they come to you for advice, like they come to me (and they don't listen to me either) and they are only using you as a sounding board but are going to repeat the same mistakes over then they have to expect that kind of reply especially when you consider what you've been through and how you managed to get on with it and dealt with it on your own. I'm reaching the stage where I'm getting ready to say the same thing because giving such people common sense advice is a waste of my time.
I agree with you that everyone should know emergency repairs on their cars, sadly I had absolutely no interest in cars and would have been happy to walk, cycle and take public transport everywhere so I didn't learn and have no intention of learning. At least I know who to call when my van needs repairs - a 3600 mile trip isn't that far to travel these days.

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/20/2006 11:10 am:
As long as you pay for the airline tickets, sure!! LOL!!

p33c3y0 43M

4/20/2006 9:53 am

hmmm ... behave like a man? i was going to say you're just very ... midwestern ...

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/20/2006 11:12 am:
Midwestern? Ok, good enough.

3d60 49M

4/20/2006 10:48 am

No way....for a start you told us all about it ....duh... big mistake. If your man don't talk, bottle it all up, drink, smoke , watch or partake in sports until the pain , annoyance or general irritability goes away....Nah your all women... albeit a feisty, direct, frank and independent one all me juv me XX

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/20/2006 11:14 am:
I do juv ya!!! LOL!!{=}

3d60 49M

4/20/2006 11:29 am

What the world needs is JUV

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/20/2006 7:48 pm:
Mama needs some juv....

SlowPlayin 51M

4/20/2006 12:18 pm


I have a "secret" test to definitively decide whether you behave like a male or if, as I suspect, you're "all girl" with a generous portion of independence and spunk. My place or yours to conduct the "test"?


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/20/2006 7:49 pm:
We'd have to meet at a sleazy hotel/ motel/ holiday inn somewhere in the middle.....

im_your_man77 40M
961 posts
4/20/2006 9:49 pm

Damn here was me thinking you were a modern day, strong, independent and you expect me to pay for the flight...argh I would have done so anyway but still would have been nice for you to offer to do so since I am...wait what did you say I was again? I need sleep.

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 4/21/2006 7:30 am:
alright, alright, I'll pay for it...

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